I don’t mean jargon. I mean vocabulary. I was thinking it is beneficial for us to speak in certain ways, with certain words. Of course, a lot of this is dependent upon context and culture, but in general…

Words NOT to use:

But (use though, or and)
So
Negative adjectives

BUT is a bad word. It stinks, really. For instance, “No I agree, but…” = “I don’t agree.” It’s just totally negative. Of course there are situations you could use it, for instance when incorporating push pull and you might’ve just hit em with a compliment, which may require you to push them away again. So…so is probably one of the most important words NOT to say, and one of the hardest. Juggler noted that people who have rapport speak to each other in statements, not questions. Similarly, those with rapport don’t use the word ‘so’ (at the beginning of sentences, i.e. not a synonym for 'therefore'). Cut it out. IN GENERAL, frame everything positively so you are associated with positive vibes. E.g, “I was wondering how come you aren’t feeling so well then?” Not, “Why are you feeling bad?”

Words TO use:

Yes
Because
I agree
Sarah (HB’s name)
Nickname for HB
Positive adjectives.

Yes yes yes, yes is good. Because – research has shown that just by using the word because per se, increases persuasion by a third. So always say because – the reasons you give afterwards are not necessarily as important as that word. I agree. I hope you do too. Agreement is good because it’s an age-old phenomenon that everyone knows about; yes, it increases perceived friendliness and thus attraction. Using the person’s name causes a similar effect, and creating nickname ensures the girl will remember you later in the night.

One final note - swearing. I have found you can use swearing to your advantage, but it depends heavily upon the situation; if I’m going indirect and taking a soft, courteous approach, I might swear just to show the girl that I can be a bad guy, I mean business, and I am man enough to swear without caring about her reaction. If I am going direct, swearing can give off ‘creep/womanizer’ vibes. The other way to look at it is if they are swearing or their friends are, then it's good to match their vocabulary to build rapport, and if they don't, then you don't. It's generally safe to swear when talking to younger girls. Guess this one's open for debate.

If you have any more to add, be my romping gay partner (I mean by my guest).

i think, i wonder, i guess,

fuck all that, you KNOW

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If your going to question me, you better have a theory behind your argument.

"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself."
-Harvey Fierstein

I found that the word 'seem' can be quite effective.

"You seem quite intelligent, let me ask you a question."

The above example will make them want to prove their intelligence to you.

One of my favourite phrases to establish similarity is: "You're just like me, I hate New York.", or, "You're just like me, I love Milkshake"

This creates an illusion of similarity which is a basis for friendship.

And I like to use the word I and You in equal measure. When someone hears the word 'you' it appeals to their ego. The word "I" encourages reciprocal disclosure, when you make a personal statement she will respond with a personal statement of her own, which establishes the second basis of friendship.

Also, Leil Lowndes describes these following statements as little REWARDS which we should get into the habit of using:

Nice Job, Billy.
Well done, Billy.
Hey, not bad, Billy.
Awesome, Good work.
Bravo,
Etc.

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Nice Gamble.
The word "But" disqualifies anything said before it.

I love the focus you put on it, and people, think about it.


If you all can go in and alter the vocabulary to more effective choice of words, your game is bound to improve.
People think in words, nowadays.
Words can have profound effects.

If used in congruence with non-verbal communication.

Man oh man I love to say 'fuck off', but in a very playful way when we are teasing each other. Its short and its such a powerful neg.

I also love calling the target 'dude'

I dont think that it matters so much... Just a few things. When cursing a lot you could end up in trouble. People of low education use badder talk thn ppl with a high level of education who tend to have a well-developed way of expressing themselves. In short, mind your language.

On the other hand... Guys is a great word to use for girls.