| Yeah as said above.. you really shouldn't even be getting this much confrontation. If you are, you are either doing it wrong, or you just got real unlucky and met a serious asshole.
If you are unlucky then...
First line of defense is to totally let his bad vibe pass right over you, ignore the fact that he is pissed off. Just smile (No cocky!) and act like he is another cool guy you want to talk to. "Hey man! How ya doin? There are so many hawt girls in here, Damn! Did you see that blonde over there by the bar! Holy shit!!.."
That will usually defuse or confuse them, which is enough to get out of the situation. But if they persist, actively defuse him. Lower your smile somewhat, (stay happy), and try a little diplomacy first.
"Hey, why are you so upset, we are all here having fun here, thats what its all about right? Having a good time? There are plenty of girls to go around, you should go talk to some of them."
Note) 1 You directly question his emotional state. 2) you then include him, in the same sentence, with you and everybody else and the opposite emotional state. 3) you ask him to conform to the socially accepted (and more positive) attitude by asking a rhetorical question to which he cannot answer no without isolating himself again. 4) you offer an additional alternative, which is high incentive, for leaving his original frame. 5) you TELL him to take the offer.
Say this sincerely, hopefully you have a few girls (and guys) around you anyhow, even take the step to introduce the guy to them. If he accepts and tries to be friendly, he will most likely blow out and have to eject anyhow, cuz he's an asshole with a massively negative vibe, but who knows, maybe he will soften up and start behaving, and you can either end up friends or you can just slip away to other sets while his attention is distracted.
If he persists, be direct, I use NLP with great effect especially if they are drunk, and just refuse. "Im not here for this. Find something else." "You really dont want this, you need to do something else." Depending on his emotional state, either walk away, or stand your ground (dont ever turn your back on a guy who has red ears and a blank stare). I prefer to walk away if I can. If the guy is dumb enough to actually go outside and wait for you, by all means let him do that. Regardless, at this point, you go talk to your good friend the bouncer/the bartender. Remember, these are the first people you befriended when you came in, and you came back from time to time to spike up their evening, remember? They have a vested interest to have this punk ejected, and they will gladly do so on your behalf. No this is not weak, and in fact successfully ordering the staff to then toss an asshole will gain you huge points with girls.
If he honestly waits around for you outside for the next three or four hours while you are in chatting girls until the club closes...then wow youve met a psychopath. Thats what martial arts and taxi cabs are for. I usually take the cab first, right outside the door of the club, but then, its pretty damn rare you meet people like this.
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