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Hey Sean,
A buddy of mine recently got into Badboy Lifestyles and was showing me one of his eBooks and in it Badboy was talking about attraction and rapport like glasses and how you need to fill up the attraction glass before filling up the rapport glass. In the attraction section he talks about attraction switches much like Mystery and puts an emphasis on telling stories that flip these switches and then once she gives 3 indicators of interest then you can move to rapport. Since I'm not big on the whole storytelling thing and embedded DHV spikes and all that, it didn't really resonate with me but it did make me wonder about my ability to attract a woman. I seem to be very good at rapport and relating but maybe not so much at attraction. I tend to rely on the direct opener to generate the attraction because usually it does. Just having the balls to tell a girl you think she's cute and you want to talk to her shows incredible confidence and it usually works, but not always.
What happens when the direct opener doesn't create attraction but she is willing to stick around and hear what you have to say? How is attraction created after the opener if the directness doesn't create it?
How detrimental is it to you if you go into rapport before sufficient attraction is created?
there's nothing new in this.
in order for women to feel sexually attracted to a man, and act on it, they need to feel that you will excite and please her sexually (attraction) and protect her physically and emotionally (rapport).
so what things excite a woman? demonstrations of courage. making her laugh. making her smile. a sincere compliment. and there are all sorts of ways to do it.
giving a woman a sincere compliment can have a huge effect on her because it shows courage and appreciation and comfort with women. if you pay attention to the kind of men that women like, you'll see that those men give compliments all the time... in small ways and big.
there's a very simple test for whether or not she's attracted:
IS SHE FEELING SOMETHING?
(and unease doesn't count)
When you are with her, look in her eyes. Does she look back? Are her eyes showing emotion (they always do, even when they go blank, which is showing disinterest). Her eyes will tell you everything.
Do this. If you approach her and she sticks around to talk, presume she's at least interested, but do NOT fall into the trap of thinking you have done one phase and now you go on to the next. That's where PUAs really fuck up.
This is NOT LINEAR.
You create rapport AND attraction at the same time all the time. You are constantly expressing sexual attraction AND letting her know it's safe at the same time.
Want a perfect example that takes less than a second to do?
Call her "baby." Baby implies confidence (who says that to women? only a guy who knows women like him) and implies trust (you only say that to women you feel true affection for).
Just start dropping this word into your conversations, even in a joking way, like "baby, you are fun to talk to."
There are no phases. Ever ever ever ever. You are always flirting, and always connecting.
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