Okay, so I might have to glue back together my fucking cabinet after reading this message I got online. I think I got pushed over the cliff and she's lucky she wasn't in my path. I had to take 5 cigarettes to smoke to calm my ass down. If i had animal tranquizer that would help also.

So, while chatting with the guys I got this message from this chcik on myspace.

My first message I wrote to her:
Her response:
My response: After I was done typing - i felt pissed off and just enraged. I went out to smoke, came back and blasted Slipknot (People = Shit) got a cup from my cabinet and slammed it - part of the door broke. So i put it back to gether. It's not healed yet. I smoked again, came back chatted witht he guys and tried to vent out my anger but didn't come out right. I smoked again, and did some self talk to calm myself down.

I checked my message to see where I went wrong to see if I tripped her defense mechanism. In her profile she writes:
So in the first message I sent I titled it; Bitches are fun!

Anyways, so i checked out her pictures and it consumed alot of her and no body else.

Also, in her blog she complains about boys and blah blah blah.

I think her response triggered this rage in the first place because all through the day I was feeling kinda down because I felt rejected by friends I thought were friends. So, I think that's why I exploded and decided to kill the cabinet.

Anything I can do to improve on the responses from these types of girls? I hate to kill them in real life and end up in a cell with Buba.

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Girls like this are hard to work around.


They have been cheated on, hurt, or really messed about.





And they take a long time to bring round.

In this case I'd say:
"Not all guys are the same you know,
Do you have MSN? I'd like to apologise at least x"



This works sometimes, don't get pissed of about it mate.

think about it this way. she saved you alot of time from having to game her, get her to go on a date and then figuring out she's a bitch yourself. you should be thankful.

Trust me i've been women deprived. Before I found the game, I would let girls stomp the fuck all me then I would give em an apology at the end. If I could go back in time I'd kick my own ass... she sounds like the type that capitaized like fuck on AFC's and likes em as orbiters.

You projected a lot of anger in your first message... Phrases like "fuck off" and "chasing men away" elicit negative emotions that you don't want to convey. We all have bad days, and sometimes you need some "you time" to just chill out and take care of number 1.

A few semesters ago, I took an interpersonal communication class which has been really beneficial. One of the things that was taught was that you don't want to engage in a meaningful conversation when you're Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired... H.A.L.T.

Myspace or real life, you don't want to draw upon someone's negative emotions right off the bat. Say something fun and upbeat next time.

Stealth I don't think she took your first message as a joke. I didn't take it as a joke. If you call a woman a bitch (even if you claim you are just joking) she is going to react badly.

I am wondering if you thought you were negging her...and what caused you to write her this type of message in the first place? You can't call her a bitch and tell her she must have a "FUCK OFF" sign stamped on her head without her being offended. Of course her response was warrented. Your response back was defensive as well and called her out again....which made her put up even more of a wall.

I don't think there is any recovery for calling a girl a bitch....especially online since there is less comfort. Stop negging girls...especially online!

Hope you fix your cabinet

Dude,

You're in front of a computer. How about writing, revising, and editing that stuff before you press "send"?

Also . . . it has nothing to do with "these type of girls".

You're fighting with your cabinet, cigarettes, and computer (that's all that this girl is . . just some random words on a computer)

You're scaring the shit out of your kitchen furniture and really, your post scared me a bit as well . . . and I'm a guy.

This is just a game. Remind yourself of this once in a while.

I can't really say much more than what's been said already. After sending her that first message she was quite right to think, "who the fuck is this guy?". I know you were trying to get her to say she had lots of men blah blah so you could get her qualifying to you but it definately wasn't the best way of going about it. Your choice of words wasn't really the best either... and here's the thing, you actually could have recovered from her reaction if you were playful and nonchalant, and stuck to your guns. Instead, you got defensive and got on your high horse with her. That gets you nowhere.

Also, anger management. She is a nameless, faceless girl. You don't know her from adam and she means nothing to you. You've never even met her and it took her very little effort to elicit a violent outburst from you. I'm actually worried about how you'd react to a woman like this in real life... seriously, you have a lot of shit to work out before you even attempt to talk to any more women.

I got that line from Hitch when Eva Mendes was acting like a bitch - so I thought it would work but it didn't.

Things just built up - first this damn order I did online fucked me up and said my credit card was rejected, so i ordered it again and again - same but the transation took place. However, I got it all sorted out.

I told Amy - my team leader abouit the Cabinet and she'll look into it and get it fixed by maintence.

I'm doing alright now - just listenint to Slipknot - kinda down but it's all cool. I'll eventually get out of it. I'm still trying to figure out why I got violent when she snapped back.

I guess lately I've been feeling rejected - like at the mall (even though I was having fun, but still it some how seems to get in my head). Like it doesn't phase me but eventually thinking what I could do better next time - get's to me. Plus, writing my book which deals with my past kinda brings out the worst in me. I can't wait until I'm done with it and publish it.

Also, the Racheal chick doesn't wanna see me anymore because I fucked up - like Cinn bun says, "She's not the kind of woman I want!" which is true - the problem is that I keep on fucking up. I know fucking up = good. But, it's started to get to me.

Plus, been watching PUA 2 and seen how the guys get rejected - It may be staged but still - brings memories back. Now, I gotta massive headache and need fuckign tylenol.

On the good side, I'm downloading Doom 3 and gonna play it. I gotta get that Love Doll - but the fucking Silicon Love Dolls cost fucking expensive. Yeah, why not get a real girl - but why not a Doll which u can fuck any time you want. LOL! I'm going out with my former therapist on Friday to help him with his website and to go out for lunch. But like I said - when it comes to girls - I'm not good, there's probably to a way to envision them as a guy but then I start talking to them like a guy and be like, "You're fucking weird!" like I do with my friend Gary - but they're women, if I said that they'll be like, "Wha tthe fuck is this guy's problem?"

Alright, i know long and detailed - but I've been going through soem shit that I need to figure out how to get out of. A girl liking me isn't enough and I know that. I know what my problem is - I don't think I'm important or deserve to be treated good by people. Later.

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You really need to relax. That was a terrible message to send, especially through the internet. That wasn't a neg, that was very offensive.

I would reccommend you take a couple deep breaths first. Then you need to decide what you want out of gaming. You sound a little like you're desperate for a girlfriend or any girl to me. I also think you have a problem 90% of the world has. Mystery addresses it in his book which I thought was amazing cause most people miss this entirely in life.


You will never get happiness from an end result or thing . That's a fact. You need to enjoy the journey and be happy before you can truly appreciate anything. You need to enjoy learning about social dynamics and picking up women and release any expectation with it.

This will give you a much more laid back approach to the game. You will stop feeling negative pressure and really be able to allow yourself to game properly. Try it and let me know if it helps.

It can be hard but if you learn to enjoy the process instead of looking for the end result, you'll achieve what you want and be happy with it. That's much more fulfilling.

Stealth, have you considered looking into anger management courses? I think you would really benefit from learning some techniques to take control of your anger as well as learning how to project yourself in a manner that doesn't make you sounds angry (which is how your initial message makes you sound even if you meant it in jest).

Remember, the meaning of what you say isn't what you intend, it's what the other person interprets. So if they think you're being angry and aggressive (which is what everyone here perceived, as well as myself), then you are sending the wrong message and that isn't her fault, that's yours. The good news is that you have control over what message you are sending!

I know you are probably saying that you're just being yourself, right? Thing is that is just an excuse. For years when people said I was a cocky asshole, or rude, or angry, or any number of negative things, I told them that I was "just being myself". I learned how to project myself better while still being me though. Most of the time people think that I'm totally calm and cool and that I'm a nice guy because I've learned how to communicate effectively even though I still have a temper underneath. You can learn the same skills, you just need to want to change.

If you don't have the desire to change and you don't realise how negatively this is impacting you - your relationships with people as well as the stuff you're breaking - then it won't ever change. You have to realise how much trouble this is causing in your life, then you need to truly want to change. Once you have that, then you have to work on getting that temper under control and whenever you let it get the best of you, you just need to remind yourself of all those things that make you want to, need to change.

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Here's the thing - I've managed my anger for some quite time! I've able to successfully cope with it - it's just that BAM i just exploded on a poor innocent cabinet.

Some how, it triggered me and I don't know why. I look at her profile and I do see why she's so consumed about herself and her blog constantly bitches about men.

I can't explain why I got so angry. Usually - my guess I was under pressure etc.. by my bank, and other outside influences. I can effectifly cope with stress - however, there was a stressor I wasn't able to. After, I cooled down - I realized what a ass I was. Like I said, I don't know why - although I do admit sometimes Slipknot gets to me sometimes.

There could be so many factors as well! I've overcame alot of obsticals and don't just the book by it's cover. It was a mishap with the cabinet but over all the reason why I've got in this apartment is for several reasons:

1) I haven't broke anything for the more than two years until now.
2) I haven't cut myself or attempt to commit suicide for the past four years or five. Five, i think.
3) I learned how to budge money effectify.
4) I sort of learned how to deal with depression, rejection and my obsessiveness.

The list goes on. However, their may be an automatic through that registered in my psyche which made me exploded. I know the number one trigger of my anger is Trinity Services - trying to force me to go to day program groups. This one counselor tried to pull a fast one on me saying that he can only see me if I go to the day SPAM facility. I don't want to go to the day SPAM facility. I could cope with my problems myself, if I need help then I either write, talk to someone that knows me best, smoke or listen to music, or watch funny videos online (which I haven't really done that for a while).

I could've been tired also - when I'm tired, I usually don't think straight and get more irritable.

I think I just may be going through a rut right now, which eventually I'llg et out of. Also, when I'm hungry I tend to get irritable easy as well. So lack of sleep, plus lack of food - yeah, that's one cranky nut case!

Like I said there's alot of things that some don't know - but that's okay! I know you guys knew me for awhile - here's the thing! It's against my morals to hit a woman. It's not because I know I'll get in trouble - but I don't want to and don't like when I hear on the news that women get raped, abused - sometimes I wish I was there so I can beat the living shit out of the guy that did that shit to her. I'm protective with women from that kinda shit.

When I use to work at Walmart - I heard some employees talking that some guy beat his wife in the middle of the parking lot. It sucks that I was an employee because I would've kicked his ass. But that's just me, you know!

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Stealth, honestly you remind of myself a bit. I've always had anger problems (only realised this in the last year or so though) but have found ways to cope. I used to listen to Slayer and heavy music ONLY when I was mad, but it just made me worse, now whenever I get really mad I listen to 1 album and 1 album only.....Bob Marley - Legend. Whenever you feel you are getting mad just put that album on, lie down, close your eyes and just listen, it shouldn't be long before you calm down and become much more relaxed. Everyone is an individual so it may not work for you but it does for me every time therefore I felt it was my duty to suggest it and try to help.
Again I can relate, about 4 years ago I was at a party very drunk, allot of things had been going wrong for me in recent times and I had enough, went to the kitchen and took a knife, walked about a bit with it in my hand and fell over, my friends gathered around (all very drunk also) I put the knife to my throat and pulled the blade from 1 end to the other.....I was lucky, I was so drunk that when I put it to my throat I didn't put the sharp edge to my throat, I put the other side of it. Needless to say it scared the shit outta my mates (they took the knife from me within about 2 seconds) and looking back it was crazy, maybe something in my subconcious survival instinct kicked in and made me unknowing turn it around before doing this or something, I dunno.


Ok I may be going a little too deep with this now, sorry I tend to ramble on about nothing sometimes (sticking point actually haha) I guess what I'm trying to say is(although you almost certainly know this), there's others that have been in similar situations to you.

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