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PostPosted: Mon Nov 10, 2008 12:38 am 
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When im in clubs sumtimes i feel that there are a limited number of girls i can approach because of height (Im5'6-5'7) and have a tendancy to immediately look for shorter girls despite the fact the majority are wearing 4/5 inch heels..

Any advice on overcoming this as i know it can be done as we all know style himself is around this height if not shorter and yet it never seemed 2 bother him in his books..

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PostPosted: Mon Nov 10, 2008 1:32 am 
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Work on getting more confident and secure with your height. It may help you to approach girls that are taller than your self. Because when your that short, it certainly is best to be confident and secure in your height because a lot of girls have been "programed" to go for taller guys. And it won't be easy getting them.


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If you have doubts about whether or not you can do it of if you're self conscious about something like your height, it's self defeating. You are becoming your own worst enemy because you are putting limitations on yourself before you even begin your game.

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Trust me, women are not looking for "taller" men because they are taller, they are looking for qualities attributed to taller men.

Aim for this: demonstrate that you are

1) confident in who you are and comfortable with yourself

2) able to protect yourself and defend those you care about in physical and verbal confrontations

3) a sexual being who is not afraid to talk about sex.

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Confidence is more important than height. I think it helps if you have bigger muscles than the average guy. Im 5 10 and lots of girls tower over me with heels some with flat shoes lol. Girl who are tall always wish they were shorter in same way blondes dye hair brunette and brunettes dye blonde. I dont let height get in way. If you work on posture and work out you can close gap. But if they are way taller it looks weird but there are loads of girl 6 foot and under. 5 7 with 6 foot girlfriend would be awesome. Tyson is only 5 9. I agree with everything roads says too. I hope this helps.


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Trust me, women are not looking for "taller" men because they are taller, they are looking for qualities attributed to taller men..
Actually in general girls do go for and look for taller guys.


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Trust me, women are not looking for "taller" men because they are taller, they are looking for qualities attributed to taller men..
Actually in general girls do go for and look for taller guys.
Yeah, I'd have to second this - height is almost universally on checklists of physical traits women look for in men. But it's also like tits for us: I love boobies, but I won't shut out an otherwise hot and interesting girl who's on the smaller side cup-wise. Similarly, some girls definitely have a specific "YOU MUST BE THIS TALL TO GET ON THIS RIDE" policy, but I think that the number of girls who are 100% dead-set on this are a small minority. For many girls, it is something that can be overcome, partly through what Roads suggests about demonstrating the attributes that being tall conveys (strength, confidence, etc.), but the other part is simply showing how amazing you are overall beyond the height thing.

Another thing I've found is that height is less of a problem if the girl is actually shorter than you (but just has a predisposition towards taller guys). The amazons tend to be a little harder to budge. Regardless, I'm 5'8" and the girl I'm presently working on is 5'10", and it doesn't seem to have been a problem yet...


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i dont see it being a problem. I'm 5'7 myself and i pick up girls taller then me infact i love tall girls (i guess one of my fetish?) but it doesnt stop me. It is about Confidence and the way you carry it. Another plus of being shortis that you come in "under the radar" and by the time they notice it, the're to busy wrapped up in your game. By then they wouldnt care if you are tall or not. you're the only one self-consicous of it. My advice Go up to that tall girl and game her. When other girls see that they notice it and wouldnt care about your height ,they'll wonder " hey what does that guy have" or "what makes that guy so fun" If the girls replies with a "I only date/go for tall guys" it just alittle set back. I had this happend and you know what i did

HB8: I only Go for guys taller then me
NonStop: *puts one finger up* *smiles* *walks over to find a chair* *put chair in front of her* *stands on chair*
NonStop: So as i was saying...
HB8: *Laughing* i cant beleive you just did that

now i'm in the middle of this club standing on the chair towering over her

NonStop: you better believe it
HB8: Wow i never had a guy do that to me before, ususally they will just leave, BTW whats your name?
NonStop: *with a smile* hi i'm (insert real name)

see just be confident and fun about it.

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you cant control it so why worry about it? use it as your advantage. at least you wont appear as a threat to the amogs or the women.


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I bow down to your game. Nonstop that is impressive. Credit where credits due.


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Yeah, I'd have to second this - height is almost universally on checklists of physical traits women look for in men. But it's also like tits for us: I love boobies, but I won't shut out an otherwise hot and interesting girl who's on the smaller side cup-wise. Similarly, some girls definitely have a specific "YOU MUST BE THIS TALL TO GET ON THIS RIDE" policy, but I think that the number of girls who are 100% dead-set on this are a small minority. For many girls, it is something that can be overcome, partly through what Roads suggests about demonstrating the attributes that being tall conveys (strength, confidence, etc.), but the other part is simply showing how amazing you are overall beyond the height thing.
I agree that there are a few girls that have a strict "You must be this tall to ride" policy. But I would say in general that most girls have a general or loose "You must be this tall to ride" policy. As they want a guy taller than them, but you need to be a certain height or taller, just taller than them will do.
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Another thing I've found is that height is less of a problem if the girl is actually shorter than you (but just has a predisposition towards taller guys).
Luckily this is not a problem for me. lol
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The amazons tend to be a little harder to budge.
Ya if your short, but not when your tall it ain't. In some ways it makes it easier to game the girl actually.


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You guys say that tall is great. But can you be overly tall? I'm 6'7" and I'm not sure if it's an advantage or not.

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Trust me, women are not looking for "taller" men because they are taller, they are looking for qualities attributed to taller men..
Actually in general girls do go for and look for taller guys.
Height goes into the looks category. Very little of game is dependent on looks. Women think they want tall men, but what they really want is someone who can protect them.

Beyond that, so many different aspects of game affect desirability---for example, Mini-Me gets more ass than your average GQ model simply because he is more famous and has more social proof going for him at all times---that height is irrelevant.

Bottom line is, if you got game, your looks matter little after the first thirty seconds. If you subscribe to the school of thought that your height is a handicap in the field, then it will become your limiting belief.
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I agree that there are a few girls that have a strict "You must be this tall to ride" policy. But I would say in general that most girls have a general or loose "You must be this tall to ride" policy. As they want a guy taller than them, but you need to be a certain height or taller, just taller than them will do.
This is untrue, and it is opposite the mindset of the pickup community. It goes to "staying within your league", except instead of league you have replaced it with "height range". Please understand that this is an unnecessary psychological handicap you have placed on yourself (and others when you try to convince them), and that male PUAs in the community regularly date in the complete spectrum of height ranges for women, not just women shorter than them.

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dude your not that short. i wouldn't stress it.

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PostPosted: Tue Nov 11, 2008 10:34 am 
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You guys say that tall is great. But can you be overly tall? I'm 6'7" and I'm not sure if it's an advantage or not.
In my experience with being 6'6" I say its a blessing and a curse. As on one end you don't really need to peacock and you won't have a girl say your to short for her. And the attention you can get from being that tall can be used as social proof in away as you stand out amongst the crowd height wise. I say its a curse because any body language you display is amplified by 10, and things like your posture stand out even more so if you got bad posture girls will notice it big time.


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