I am reposting this here after writing it on my blog...

LOGISTICS

Logistics are one of the few things that are completely under your control when you go out and you are meeting people. You having a mental game plan before you go out is going to make a huge difference between success and failure. This is almost as important as just having fun out there!

There are elements in what we teach that require certain things to be thought out ahead of time, and planned to a degree. Taking the time to plan ahead a little bit is going to save you frustrations later. Mostly, the frustrations of you kicking yourself and playing the old "Would have, could have, should have..." mental game when you get back home. I can personally say I have played this game one too many times.

What are some of the things we need to think about before we have a night out of trying to meet the opposite sex? For starters let's look at the little things. Where are you going to meet people? That is pretty easy to decide. Now that you have that place in your mind, you can see the floorplan of the club practically. If you are to meet someone that you are interested you will need a place to talk without her friends at some point. Where in your venue would you move them to, or isolate them to where you can talk? Are there some couches, chairs, stools and a quieter place to talk where you can build some solid comfort? Great, you are starting to formulate a game plan!

What about a place to bounce to? At some point you are going to want to go for the instant date or "bounce." What is close by the venue you are going to, preferably within walking distance, that you can go to. Is there another club or bar you can take her to if this place isn't very happening? Is there a place close by open late for a bite to eat where you can sit and talk? These are all things to consider when choosing venues to go to. Here in Nashville 2nd Ave. or Broadway are my favorite places to go. WHY? There are tons of other bars to hang at, coffee shops, and eateries open late for the masses.

How about your place? That's right, I said it how about your place? Do you need to clean or straighten up the place a bit before you leave? Is there anything laying out you're going to be embarrassed about when she walks in the door? Do you have an idea of what you'll do if she comes back here, and I do not mean sex. Do you have some movies, music, XBOX, or something to be entertaining? Adult Beverages? Clean Towels? Toilet Paper? Women's Hygiene Products?

Wow, you didn't realize that dating and being single was so much work did you?

Are you rolling with someone like a wing? Does he have his own ride or cab money if you have to leave early with a girl to go somewhere new? Are you going to have to get him a girl too?

Is the set a 2 set where you have to move the set together all night long? Is it a larger set were you can isolate the girl?

Something else to completely consider are the little things to have on you like: condoms, mints, pen, paper, etc.

I know I have asked a whole lot of questions on this little blog post, but these are things that you should already consider before going out. If you are going to a new place you need to be scouting those move and bounce locations in your mind. When you already have these questions answered your mind is free to do other things!

These are all "logistics" and items under your complete control!!! The list goes on and on. Your ability to recognize these things and keep them in check could mean the difference from going home alone or going home to play the "Should have, could have, would have..." game.

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Good post. These are all things that we really need to take into consideration before we go out so we never have to play the "Would have, could have, should have" game

Great post! Dating and being single is a lot of work!

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This is a great way to DHV, being in control of everything that is within your grasp. Good post.

In my experience, I am much more likely to go somewhere if it is in walking distance rather than taking a cab or him driving. If I am not feeling it once I get there I can always walk back and some women may be hesitant to get in a car and go somewhere with someone they just met--so you may lose her that night all together if you suggest a place that you have to drive to. Be considerate if she is wearing heels though!


Ugh I hate walking into a guys's place and it is messy with food, beer cans and sweaty socks laying everywhere. We get it...that may be how you normally live, but impress us for a bit and straighten up. It doesn't have to be perfect but if it is clean women will take notice and compliment you on it.

Well what if you were really really drunk?

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Wow, Thanks for the positive feedback everyone!

I am glad you agree with me on the guys place Bonita!

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Oki so what are the consideration for LOGISTICS for people which dont have a car and live with parents?
Where do you bounce to how doyou manage to get the girls in this context? Take them by bus to a motel ? Im asking seriously what are your tips concerning this?

good post and some nice pointers in here.

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Logistics are different for everyone. I don't know how old you are so if you are over the age of 18 you can control living with your parents and having a vehicle or not. Even though this may be difficult. Even if you can not afford things now there are other things you can do.

When you choose a venue again try and pick a spot with bounce locations within walking distance so you can setup for the instant date. This is true for day and night game.

Brad P. is excellent at f-closing in the bathroom of different places. I know guys who've gone outside at places, or grabbed a cab to a hotel. It is not impossible, however, you do have less options than other people do.

If you are under 18, you may not be able to control the fact you don't have a car or being able to live somewhere else besides your parents. Based on the logistics you have presented me it would be difficult to full close.

I started gaming at 25 so I haven't had to think abnout all this but believe me it can be done. There is a guy great at it! I met him this year and was very impressed. He started at 18 and had to do day game because you have to be 21 to enter clubs where he lives. His blog is full of good information and if you need to email him, he's a cool guy.

Doc Holiday http://www.dochollidaypua.com/

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The mall

The mall is a great place!

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Im 23 and I moved back again in my parents house after an year abroad this is killing me :p and thanks for the link.

BUMP per Don Draper.

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Much appreciated, Jon.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "