Dear Youth Riot

Wow man this is a long one...

Yet a really simple answer....be affectionate with more than one girl. If you see someone with just one girl then it obviously looks like they're dating.. People make poor assumptions all the time. if they see you with more than one...It's hard to work out what's going on.


To the second question, I try my hardest to never lie and never insinuate something that isn't true. I wish to god other PUA's would adopt this.

We can't be perfect and sometimes you do make genuine mistakes, but I do try my absolute best to not lie or mislead someone.

AFC Adam

Dear Call me Captain,

Dude...I would have to see the situation myself to get it right...

However I would say you miss negged...negging is almost always used in an uncalibrated way. and girls who aren't super hot don't take them very well at all.

Try to replace negging with playing games or getting the girls to do things that make them look silly without you actually making comments to or about them.

Without being there it's hard to give more info, but I'd guess that was it.

AFC Adam,

Dear rlouisj7

Dude...She's playing you. You can tell she's only talking at face value. Ignore any advances. Make her work for it if she genuinely wants you. I suspect she just likes keeping you in limbo.

Instead make some decisions on your own and game other chicks. Move on and let her up her own game to see if she's ready for you!

AFC Adam,

Dear Ace,

How are Cat, Krtyon and the rest of the boys?


Are workshops worth it? Hoenstly? it depends...It sounds like you actually haven't done very much live practice in field yet. Really that's the key to getting good.

Whether you do it with friends, or pay for a workshop doesn't really matter. Either way the harder you work at it the better you get.

So really the question is how motivated are you?

AFC Adam,

Dear Silly(ahem)

Anyone can get a very very high success rate.

The question is similar to the one above in that the answer is simply how hard do you want to work. No bootcamp or course will make you that amazing on it's own. The real skill comes from pushing yourself HARD.

So you don't need a workshop or bootcamp, but they can make you good. the real question is how willing are you to continue practicing?

AFC Adam,

Dear Envy

Thanks loads man.

For me this is simple.

I wouldn't break anyone up.

Since being in the game this is the one solid rule I'm proud to have kept and worked towards, this way I can sleep at night knowing I've not added to the AFC's in he world.

The question is how will this dude feel? You could always get another girl. Why her specifically? If you're meant to be she'd leave him without your help or pressure. If not there are others out there.

But of course this is only my opinion.

AFC Adam,

Heya PunkyFish


This is actually my favourite part and one of the things few people do well in my opinion.

You've got to get physical with the girl, stroke her, tease her by playing games. Smack her bum. Tell her she's sexy. Talk about sex. Ask her about her favourite positions, tell her you're curious for a survey.

The point is being cheeky and pushing things as far as you can get away with.

Eventually you'll work out just how far you can take things and get away with it. You may be surprised just how far you can go.


AFC Adam,

Dear file

This is simple. If she's said she's broke up, escalate. No such thing as a rebound guy. Even if there is don't worry about it. You should always be escalating all the time anyway. Unless you want her as only a friend, in which case there is nothing wrong with being there for her but don't expect anything.

Though from what you've written it sounds to me like she was over her EX and wanted you, so I'd go for it.

AFC Adam,

Dear JSoporno,

Hahahahaha.

See my point?

Good seeing you and Vi in Amsterdam bro.

AFC Adam,

This is a very good point. I can definitely see where you're coming from.
Thanks for the reply, I'm thinking that I'll just let her go. I'll keep their
relationship going.

(at the moment, I'm stuck in a love triangle :\ so i don't need to add to
the drama).

Thanks for your contributions!!

Spanners is good chum!

When i found the community i was full of enthusiasm and good intentions, but that's slowly been chipped away as i haven't been able to afford to sarge regularly, maybe every 3-4 weeks. Money worries & getting stuck in a rut haven't helped!

A recent thing happened though. Last Saturday night i got chatting to a girl dancing. Now this girl was your average clubgirl, guys were going up o her, getting blown off. So i thought 'what the hell' and starting chatting to her.

I had to initiate the convo a few times, but she got some interest and i suggested we get something to eat. She agreed, and we left, only for her to say she needed to find her sister. So we walked around the side of the club with me, alone, and she tried ringing her while we chatted. I realise now that was the moment to grab the nettle and man up and make a move, but i didn't. She eventually found her sister and went back inside after losing interest.

And that's what i've learned, i picked apart my own performance and realised i made the mistakes, i failed to respond. I didn't gain her trust, or her sisters'. Usually this would leave me angry with myself, but this time i chuckled ruefully when i recalled my sober-ish efforts.

And it's starting to inspire me again, i can learn if i put the effort in. Do you have any suggestions for me to start off with?

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Dear AFC Adam,

With regard to LTRs, how do you bring this up with someone in conversation. I've been hanging with this girl for a while now and dont know how to put into words what I want to say to her.

One of my friends (an AFC with a real bad case of oneitis) said that I should just say, "I was wondering if you wanted to take our relationship to the next level, etc etc." Now, I cant do this for a couple reasons:

1) It sounds so artificial. Im not saying that I dont use canned openers but this, tbqh is weak shit.

2) Shes been in a relationship before and I have the feeling that she got dumped pretty badly. I dont know if she is ready for another LTR.

Save me from the friendzone. Thanks in advance.

Just a moment ago I went down to the Math lab in our Library, I saw this HB7 who I had gamed last night and afterward regretted that I did not #-close. Tonight, she asked if I would be coming back to the lab. I said something like "Well maybe, but why else should I come down here" That is bullshit, I don't know what I said, but I tried to do some false disqualifier/cf type line and I feel that it may have only been a partial hit at best. I went back down there and I said a false disqualifier/possible dhv story about why I could not stay, I then bridged that into "I would really like to talk w/ sometime, about something other than Math." (even that sounds smoother than whatever I said). She replied "Well I will be here tomorrow night." Dude, what the fuck does that mean? I know I fumbled w/ #-close but it seemed like she is in to me beyond the Math lab. Last night, I did enough cf and some negging for her to be into me but I would like to carry it further.

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Call me Sly.
My goal: To become a Pickup Artist in everything but name.

And yeah, This is (still) just the beginning.

Hey Adam,
im in need of a suggestion, if been out a couple of times with a 6 lunch and a drink both short meetings, each time i kept up the C&F i invited her to a drink after work i got the sorry no im working message you afterwards, got the message she had met an old friend after work had a drink and went home to crash straight after, can you advise me on what my next move should be would it be wise to try to rebuild attraction providing i can get another meeting with her.
Any help please !!!

Dear AFC Adam,

I really want to attend your talk in London, but have very little money at the moment (being a poor student). How about letting me take it for free if I review it on these boards?

haha, I joke

Whenever I am out in the field using what I have learned and am getting some success, when my friend is out with me who happens to be very good looking and has a bit of game he manages to pull very beautiful women. Now, he is a great guy and I love him to pieces, but when I'm out with him I can't help but think that good looks have to play some large role? I mean, I'm overweight but I'm developing my game, however this is a little off-putting.

Thanks! But seriously...if you want someone to review your workshop in London....I'm your man


- Memento

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