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It depends on whether you're talking about a western-born asian or an eastern-born asian.
Western born are usually much more extroverted and daring, adopting a lot of the social traits seen in Western girls while the opposite is true for Eastern born. I mean, for you to be able to game girls in a different cultural background you need to understand that background first. In general, what I find is that the romantic aspect of the asian culture bears some striking resemblances to that of the Western culture, the difference lies in the little details and the intensity.
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- Asian girls are a lot more dependent on their men financially and romantically (dudes court a lot more compared to the west which include things like paying for stuff and approaching etc. although this is changing fast as a result of the increasing Western influence) and as a result they are naturally more reserved & less emotionally secured -> what this may mean is that although they do find Alpha Males attractive (well, duh, evolutionary theory didn't just happen in the West now did it?) which is a similar trait to Western girls, it would probably not be advisable to neg them so much or use intensively negative . They already have such a low level of self-perceived value to start with, DLV on them will just make them crumble and view you as an weirdo asshole. However, like I said, this is quickly changing as the Asian female population is increasingly gettin more and more respect and social status from their male counterpart.
- Asian girls are also attracted to the typical cliche male stereotypes such as the Bad Boy, The Artist, The Nurturer but one MAJOR stereo type that is favored the most out of all is the Sensitive Pretty Boy. Now I don't know why the fuck they love a pretty face so much (notice i use the word "pretty", not "handsome") - perhaps it has something to do with the genetic skull-structure of Asian men not being as masculine & strong as those belonging to other races as well as the inherent lack of hair which is also another masculine trait - but they do, and wayyyy more than a masculine face which is a dominant feature of an alpha male. So if you are blessed with a "pretty" face you'd fare better than someone with a "masculine" face based on looks alone. A rough example would be Gambler vs Sinn.
- Playin hard to get works very well w/ asian girls, esp in pair with the Bad Boy act. I believe this has a lot to do with the fact that they're so used to being heavily courted (as mentioned above) that a change of pace is refreshingly welcome. If there's 1 attraction advice that is applicable globally it is this: be UNIQUE.
- Extreme genuineness works very well as well. As previously stated, courtship is predominantly the male's responsibility still in Asia (as far as I'm concerned anyway) and as a result genuine expression of interest which may include expression of extreme neediness and AFC-like traits will usually work. I have friends over there who were rejected by their targets at first but clung on and went the extra mile and finally was "accepted". Initially I thought maybe they just got sick of having a stalker and gave in? (lol) However it's recently come to me that they must have interpreted the courter's insistence and effort even after being turned a way as a token of genuine interest and traits of a quality nurturer who will stick around.
- Being romantic is also hugely favored by Asian girls. Things such as being able to play an instrument (soft-sounding instruments such as piano, acoustic guitar etc. NOT electric guitar or drum), being able to sing, being able to write beautifully and emotionally, being all fucking cutesy and shit etc. Romantic is also a desirable trait for Western girls, however, it is not what it used to be and I'm sure we can all agree with that? Being a romantic has become such a rarity that it's portrayed as something of a novelty in movies such as The Notebook in the Western society. I suppose you can blame technological advancements & the increasing demand on people to focus more of their time on work & socializing than courtship. How many times have you heard the over-recycled phrase of "I just don't have time to date!"?
Anyway those were just some points that just stuck out at me reading this thread. I hope it helped clear up confusion for some people. Obviously this is in no way an exhaustive list or anything even close, fuck me I ain't even sure if it's half correct lol. But make it of what you will, I just hope that it may be of some help for someone who's completely ignorant on the psych of Asian females.
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iStyle pretty well covered it perfectly. This coming from a rather white-washed Chinese guy living in Hong Kong...
In fact this topic is one of the main reasons why I am on this forum, as I don't seem to be able to find any resources that can explain such differences in attraction patterns that I see between white-washed Asian girls VS local born-and-bred-in-asia type Asian girls.
Someone said that Asian girls don't enjoy negs - I would say not entirely true. The things to consider is whether neg is within relevant cultural context, and also the intensity and depth of the neg. I would say the cultural difference accounts for the shift in where their comfort zone is... My method is to just take it easy, gain her trust and make her comfortable. Then neg her and tease her.
Another thing of note, is that in Asian cultures (well at least I can speak for Chinese) there is no such thing as sarcasm. You say something out to be sarcastic, and people will trust what you say for face value...