Quote:
I enjoyed reading through the last 66 pages =) I learnt a lot reading other questions and answers
I also have a few questions:
1) Would you ever date an asian guy? What are the major problems with asian guys do you see? And how can we solve these?
Asian is my flavor. Seriously. Anyone who has met me knows that I crush mad hard on asian men, thought I've never dated one. I would though.
Don't look at it like what are the major problems with asian guys. It doesn't fucking matter if you're white, black, 300 pounds, handicapped.... you just don't accept people not liking you as a possibility and game on. It's all about YOUR mindset... not theirs.
Quote:
2) You say making a girl laugh is the best way to pickup. I am not a very funny person in general. How can I learn to be more funny?
Don't be who you aren't... but you can augment what kind of humor you already have. Listen to comedians, take an improv comedy class (SERIOUSLY.) Make yourself more interesting. People watch to figure out how different people are funny in different situations and social circles. Listen to Joshua Pellicer on Maxim Radio. He's very quick with his responses, and they're, generally, pretty fucking funny.
Quote:
3) Everyone tells me that confidence is attractive. How do I become more confident? My voice sometimes shakes, my legs shake when I do public speaking...I'm not actually scared...but it's unconscious movements...annoying because my friends tell me it comes off as not confident.
Okay, take a public speaking class. Seriously. Take an acting class. Or make it a point to tell a story to 5 different groups of people every day. Doesn't matter if you get blown out. The way to get through that specific problem is to speak publicly enough that it's second nature for you to be in the spotlight. I'm serious about this one... I'm a professional actor. I KNOW this is the way to solve it.
Quote:
4) I am a vet by profession. What do girls think of this? Can this be framed as a DHV?
Hell yeah. You care for the fluffy ones. Girls dig that.
Quote:
5) I am not looking so much to get laid YET (Yes, I am a nerd and a virgin still) ...just to make more female friends and friends in general and become more confident with women. I do not have many friends and my social circle is very small. I can open and get numbers very easily, but interest tends to fade by the first or second meeting, and it seems almost as those I piss people off unconsciously...don't know what it is, but I wish I could fix it. I sail competitively, I base-jump illegally, and I am also a part-time hip-hop dance teacher. Funny, I find this stuff cool, but I invite girls to join me, but no one wants to ever come. What are cool activities to do with girls? I guess I am not a very cool person...hmmm.... Oh also, when I ask people to come do something, they inevitably ask 'who's coming'. I just say, "just me"...and they always ask 'where are your friends?' to which I don't know a good response...[I don't actually have any friends I can invite out regularly...I've always liked doing things alone, but I want to change...]. Perhaps the real question is, "How can I be cool"?
"How can I be cool?" SHUT UP. You already are cool. You base jump, you teach hip hop, you're a vet, you sail.... look, girls aren't joining in on this shit because THEY are scared they will look like total idiots. They're asking who will be there to try to ensure they aren't being focused on.
You probably aren't interesting after the first or second meet-up because you have no confidence in yourself. You are cool. These girls are lucky to be hanging out with you, and if they're cool, you're lucky to be enjoying the fine lady's company. The next time you invite a girl to something like that, tell her to bring some friends, or that you're going anyway and she's welcome to come along. No biggie if she doesn't.
Or you could start her off with something a bit less intense, like mini-golf.
Quote:
6) I suck at conversation. I have too many akward silences. I just don't know what to talk about...like with guys, silence is bonding; but with girls, I just don't know where to move the conversation. Any suggestions would be helpful.
Make a roadmap for yourself. Start with opening... move to some banter and role play... then move to rapport where you share something you do... go into deeper rapport and show that you have emotional depth... dhv story with rapport.... WHATEVER you want. There are a million resources for this question on this site. Do a search.
Quote:
7) Whenever I meet a girl, I tend to also make friends with their girlfriend. So I get both their numbers. Then whenever I call one, both come out. Is this because attraction was not enough? OR is it because I am getting both their numbers? It's driving me nuts how girls I'm attracted to bring their girlfriends on dates. What is appropriate in this scenario...should I call them on it? Or just walk off if they bring a friend?
Why are you getting both their numbers????? Next time, isolate your target after befriending the friend.... then close her away from the friend. Period.
Or, make it fun for both of the girls on the date and have a threesome
Quote:
8 ) I just broke up with a girl who has been my 'girlfriend' for 3.5 years...she gave me handjobs and let me kiss her all over...except touch her down there or have sex. I was just sick of her not putting out...was this the right decision or should I have kept her?
3.5 years?????? OF HANDJOBS??? Man, you made the absolute right choice. You already knew the answer to that question.
Quote:
9 ) What would be a good 'reason' to invite a girl to my house after meeting at a bar?
Show her your record collection, watch this kick ass kung foo movie, write a joint article on your blog... WHATEVER. It takes planning and some forethought to do this. Make sure you pick something... like... writing on your blog with her... talk about it that night as a joke or something, get her excited about it, have her imagination go wild, then ask her over for reals, daring that she won't do it because she actually sucks at writing (despite the past 15 minutes of her telling you she's a rockstar writer.) Also, make sure she is comfortable and doesn't ever feel pressure.
Or you could go direct and tell her that she'll be coming home with you that night. Called shot technique.
Thanks very much for your help Zip. I really appreciate it.[/quote]
CHAT
maybe i should post again.
tankx
