What do you do when people won't stop complimenting you?

I'm serious, I've recently run into that problem...people say I'm good at something, I say thanks, and they keep talking about it.

What am I supposed to do? I can't just keep repeating thanks forever...I'm currently saying something like "it's a lot of practice", but I have a feeling I could do better.

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As a related question, I also get a bunch of second-hand compliments...someone will say that someone else said I was doing really well, or I was good at whatever. My reaction is to think "Why are you telling me this? They can tell me themselves.", but that obviously won't work.

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Is it HBs complimenting you or friends? if its HBs get cocky/funny with them if its friends tell them to shut up or somethin

Its nice to see you post Yillan

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It's random people. Guys or girls, people I know and people I don't.

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i'm interested to know what it is that you do so well

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Well, last night it was grilled salmon. It was a cookout thing, and people there wouldn't stop saying that it was good, or amazing, or whatever. The same people repeated it a few times. I was semi-familiar with about half the people there (~12 people total). No, it wasn't anything special: brown sugar, lemon, and adobo seasoning.


I get the same thing from dancing. They say they can't believe how much I've improved, or some variation on "I want to be able to dance like that" or just a generic compliment.

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Yillan, you should learn to accept compliments. I had this problem at first too when I got started changing my inner game. When people complimented me, I felt uncomfortable because I thought I did not deserve the praise lavished upon me or my actions.

This is a problem of mindset, not reality---if you can cook, and people appreciate your cooking, it would be wrong of you NOT to accept their compliments graciously. Similarly, people sometimes compliment me on my dancing, and I accept their compliments despite knowing that 1) I'm still pretty new to the ballroom scene and 2) there are millions of people who can dance better than I can. Neither 1) nor 2) detracts from the fact that my dancing is perceived as a major demonstration of higher value in the eyes of my peers. So I accept their compliments with a smile and a polite "Thank You", and allow myself to feel a well deserved sense of gratification from the experience.

Do not fear that people may be attempting to gain your trust with insincere compliments. Most people find it hard to give false compliments, unless there is a good reason---the most common being kindness. And if they are so kind as to discomfort themselves by lying with their compliments, then you should be so kind as to accept it.

In the end, it comes down to accepting yourself and all the good things about yourself, no matter how small or insignificant they may seem. If you can learn to appreciate the things you do in this world, it will be natural for you to accept that others do too.

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You misunderstand Roads...I can only say "thanks" so many times in a row before I start to sound like a broken record.

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Then you do not yet understand the meaning behind my post, young grasshopper. Perhaps in time, you will see that it is not the record which is broken, but something within you...

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Here's how it goes:

Them: Hey, nice dancing
Me: Thanks
Them: You're good
Me: ...
Them: another compliment
Me: ...
Them: Yet Another
Me: ...

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It is an art and a skill to carry on a conversation. Many of these compliments are no doubt attempts to start a conversation. By meeting them with "thanks", you are ending the conversation. You are not carrying on the conversation by transition to a topic of mutual interest. They go their way, and the another person revolves back into place with salmon in hand and a compliment readied between their lips. For most people, it's a natural way of beginning a conversation.

Now instead, go back to the cookout, imagine this happening:
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Sure, it may not be as fantastic as the above, but I think you know what I mean. Give them something else to compliment about. They are starting a conversation with you, share with them a small, medium, or large portion of your life (and salmon), and you'll see that they will naturally show their appreciation in the form of compliments. And yes, stunned silence counts as a compliment sometimes

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HB's: *compliment*
PUA: why thank you...and if a guy was to compliment you on anything, what would it be?

HB's have 4 possible responses to play:

1. Why?
Because sometimes I want to compliment someone but I don't want to appear sexist or disrespectful. Repeat the question

2. My eyes/hair/lips
I can see why they would say that, but good looks are something you can buy in the shops, something that comes out of a bottle, what's really important is a good personality and a great energy - apart from putting on makeup, what else did you do this week that was fun? (have DHV story lined up for when it's your turn to say what you did)

3. My personality
Oh really? What did you do this week that was fun? (have DHV story lined up for when it's your turn to say what you did)

4. My ass/tits etc
Oh really. Show me (don't look until shown). Oh I can see why people would say that, but good looks are commonplace, what's really important....etc etc

That's what works for me anyways.

Dublin those responses are outdated.

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