| So I just finished listening to AFCAdams webinar. Had a Day 2 so I had to miss it, but thanks to Yil I was able to hear it at least.
Adam covered many different points during his webinar. Two of these really stood out in my mind, and have completely enveloped my thoughts for the last 24 hours. Social Game (Utilizing a large base of Female Friends in PU) and Procrastination.
Procrastination and Delay:
To those who are not living the life they want, who have not mastered their game.
*WARNING*
If you are reading this then this warning is for you. Every word you read of this fine print is another second off your life. Don't you have other things you would rather be doing? Is your life so empty that you honestly can't think of a better way to spend these moments? Or are you so impressed with authority that you give respect and credence to all that claim it? Have you read everything you're supposed to read? Have you thought every thing you're supposed to think? Boughtwhat you're told to buy? Get out of your apartment. Meet a member of the opposite sex. Stop the excessive shopping, researching and masturbation. Interact with other people. Prove you're alive. Game is not reading. Game is living and being around people. It doesn't happen here. It happens outside your door. If you don't claim your humanity you will become a statistic. You have been warned.
So, you are not reading this because you are procrastinating. In fact you just really like the conversations we have here. Good, I am glad you do. We love having you with us. Just remember that this place should be helping you, not a surrogate for the life you want to have. I know it feels safe. I know you can come here without having groomed. It's free. We talk about the life you want to have, and so you can live vicariously through us. I know you know people here. I know you have questions. I know you need answers. But all we can do is show you the door. You have to walk through it.
I have had many conversations with people new to the game community. People who have made the first step and realized that they need to start doing things differently. One question that keeps coming up over and over is this.
“When did you start doing game?”
I love and hate this question. Why? Because we have all been doing game since puberty if not earlier. At least as I see it. You have been doing it with everyone you meet. You open, DHV or DLV build or break rapport, build comfort etc. and then your relationship with said person is determined or redefined. The question they really want to ask is usually, “How long have you been having success at game,” or “How long have you been in the online community or using learned techniques?” The central point I want to make, is that you are always doing game, when you are interacting with people. Maybe you aren't doing it well, but you are doing it. Assuming you want to get better at it, then you need to practice. So now the only question left is, why aren't you practicing now.
Adam spoke about this, and I applaud him for it. As he said, most will gloss over it, hoping to just sell you a product. But here, we won't. Basically if you dream of a life full of interesting people who make your every day more enjoyable, and you want to see it come to fruition, you MUST approach sets! Until you do that, we cannot help you. Until then, you are using us as a surrogate or worse just using us to pass your days.
I know, I know. Right now you are saying that you need advice on how to approach and need to refine it so that you can succeed. If you feel like this, then I am sorry to break it to you. The only advice you need right now is to be told to go approach people and interact with them. Unless you are a natural already, your first 250 approaches, give or take, will be done poorly no matter how much you read. Even when you close you will have made mistakes, you will have missed opportunities. And the key here? These early failures in your sets will provide valuable experience that will help you in the long run. So stop with the excuses. Stop with the research. Take a shower and go outside. When you see people. Walk up to them and interact. Small talk with them. Compliment them. Ask them something, anything. And then come back and read the rest of this post after talking to five strangers. Yes, forget what your mother told you. Right now, you NEED to talk to strangers.
Originally I was going to discuss two points in this, but I think I am going to break it apart. Another post on Adam's topics will be forthcoming.
Happy Hunting!
Panpan
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