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Hey guys....i'm curious. It's so fucking obvious the game we are playing that most girls (i would think) would recognize us playing hard to get.....being cocky....telling her what to do....not always being kind. If a girl is playing games, i don't think "oh wow, she must be high value" ...i think "wow she's a manipulating person that wants to fuck with people for fun".
As soon as i see this in a girl....i say fuck her. Wouldn't a girl do the same if she noticed a guy saying "i'll call you back" and never does..."i miss you" but then flakes? It appears so in my experience....but then even when i'm actually "considerate"....not "omg i'll do anything for you".....but kind and sweet talking "i wish you were here laying next to me"...ALSO doesn't seem to work.
I'm at a loss of fucking words/thoughts man. I just went from 3 girls to nothing....all girls i thought were HOOKED. One of the girls after inviting her to a bar ...it was hard to find so i said "if you're coming let me know and i'll come find you, it's hard to describe" ....i thought i was being a considerate human being.....and the response i get is "maybe...maybe not"...then she doesn't call. Clear fucking game ...Do people really get off by doing that to people and then don't understand why it's done to them?
Another girl i've hinted i don't want to go out.....we get a long...we have great conversation/hookup sessions.....i'm leaving for school tomorrow and "she really wants to see me before i leave". I say "sure, but can't be too late because i gotta be up early in the morning"....what does she do? Call me extremely late, not even considering what i said. I'm seriously thinking about becoming a chauvinist and a real manipulating/darkside prick because i want girls in my life, but being a good human being doesn't work...leave her better than when you found her? Fuck that. The game never fucking ends, being a genuine person doesn't work. I'm not saying supplicate her, i'm just saying don't tell her you'll do something and then back out JUST to be rude....don't tell her "find her own way, if she can't then fuck her". I still don't get this fucking game. I hope someone can help me out here.....i can't stand this disappointment. This kind of changed topic and turned rant form but whatever. thanks for reading..
Does NOT HAVE TO BE LIKE THIS BUDDY.
The secret is all in the frame that you set up in the beginning. You have to be CLEAR. Be funny, but be CLEAR that you're not screwing her around for the sake of it, etc. You play games, she plays games etc. You are honest, she is honest. But it needs to come from a place of security and not insecurity.
If she says, "maybe, maybe not" in the tone that suggest shes playing around, get an honest answer by asking "what's making you second guess??" show that you're not a man of bullshitting around. If she continues to be vague, don't bother with her because it'll waste your time.
As for the late call...I have a feeling when you said 'don't call late' as women think, she may have thought 'I'll ring this guy late and test him to see if he's a man of his word." WOMEN TEST BUDDY. Its life. If they weren't like this, and were like men, we would all be accountants and have no spice. Plus bro, if she likes you, and you treat her all standoffish and shit, of COURSE shes gonna fight to try get your attention. But then she recognizes that there's a game going on - get Slyder's attention. And as soon as you give it to her, guess what???
Slyder "why isn't she calling me back anymore?!"
So I say, don't set up games like this. Let her know that you REALLY want to see her too, but you're busy. She'll appreciate that alot more I think. Reward her for her wanting to see you rather than punishing her by pushing her away, etc.
But as I say again, if you start things off in a certain way, be SURE that the way you started it is a way you can sustain long term.
Being a genuine person doesn't work? Heh, does for me dude. And I get less shit for it too. If we're all playing the same game of fucking manipulation to get sex, etc. isn't that a bit sad? Why not be honest one time for a change? Instead of saying
"I wish you were here lying next to me" =FEMALE says that
MALE says "you should be here wrapped up in my arms, why aren't you?" always come from a place of strength.