Okay, I need some input and some advice. I have been hanging with a couple ladies lately and found one that I was interested in moving forward with.

Anyways, she and I both agreed to take it kinda slow and just see how it goes.

Well last night she had a party and beforehand told me that she didnt want to do the whole PDA thing with me b/c she didnt want everyone in her business until we decided (if we decided) to move forward together.

Well anyways, Im at the party and we are keeping our distance and I hear some gossip about another guy at party she is interested in. Her friend from school tells me how she always talks about this guy at school and blah blah.

Anyways, I got a little aggravated b/c Im the one shes been spending nights with and its obvious that she didnt really care about people knowing about us like she said, it was more that she didnt want this guy to know.

Did I just get played and am just realizing it? Is there any way to recover from this? I was plannin on just pulling back a bit and being distant and less available. At this point I dont really care if it backfires so I guess I have nothing to lose. Any other suggestions?

What is the nature of your relationship. Have you closed her already. If so, you are just FB's, and there is no social relationship there---the unspoken rule is you are both just taking care of your needs while searching for someone out there.

If not, then you're moving too slowly and letting her dictate the pace. Women think they like that, but they really don't. You should push, and if you feel resistance, back off a little, then push some more. Do flirt and throw innuendos at her while in public, don't worry about what she says.

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I think I lost you on that. Do you mean 'If not' as in if I want to move things forward with her rather than continuing to search for someone out there?

I'm working with limited information here so my help will be limited as well. I don't know if you're already sleeping together, so :

If you are sleeping together and she's telling you "no PDA", then she sees you as a FB. If you push the envelope and force her to acknowledge you as boyfriend material, you will have to risk losing her. Your choice.

If you are not sleeping together, you need to move it towards that direction with flirting/kino/game. She's either making you work for it, or she's testing you for your ability to initiate and lead.

Oh, and just so you know, you did not both "agree to take it kinda slow and just see how it goes", one of you manipulated the other into that "agreement". From your post, clearly you are not satisfied with this arrangement. You want more. So you will have to make the move, either by showing PDA to her---be more subtle at first with flirting and innuendos in front of her friends---or by flat out telling her in private what you want and where you want the relationship to go. She will then have to choose, and as the saying goes "To get a girl you must be willing to risk losing her forever".

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Force her to make a decision, you cant allow a woman to dictate what you want, you have to take control, first make her see how essential you are to her by either giving her great sex or remembering to send a bunch of flowers the following morning and then push her for a decision. By instilling the fear of loss in her you immediately lower her survival value to a level where there is more chance she will accept your terms in order to reraise her own values. In brief words you have to be the flame not the moth as i recently saw in a signature of one of the members of this forum

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Don't hate the player.

Play the player.

Your post just looks like "She threw shit tests at me. What do I do?" to me.

Well, actually, it looks more like "She's testing me with an indirect jealousy plotline. Can someone please tell me to fight fire with fire to use a more direct yet tactful jealousy plotline in response to her unacceptable behavior so I can demonstrate value and express an abundance mentality that awakens the desire within her to validate herself to me with compliance?"

Keep the upper hand.

By the way, your Intro thread says you're from New Orleans. We'll probably meet and sarge it up one day.

...and it'll probably be on a regular basis if you're in the New Orleans lair.