Hey guys, I'm new to the game basically. I have just started doing apporaches- I've done 5 this week. I want to get 100 by the end of the year, which seems very realistic if i can get 5/ week.

Anyway, my problem is that I'm pretty shy. I used to be quite the opposite, but i guess with time not being with people that changed. I read a lot about here of people saying "act like you do with your friends". However, when I'm with friends ( I have many, very popular despite being quiet) I feel like I'm not being myself and I don't let my true self show. So, i have 2 questions.

1- Will my 100 approaches get me over my shyness not only with strangers, but with my friends? Do you think the approaches will bring my personality (which seems boring right now) back to life?

2- Will the approaches build my confidence a lot? Or do I do this other ways, (like mastering a new skill,blahblahblah)?

Thanks a bunch guys, hopefully you give me the motivation i need to start down what seems to be an exciting road

dude ... Goto youtube and type in Aaliyah - Try Again...


Force yourself to go up to girls.. 5 girls a week like your doing... and naturally you'll start forming game.... EVERY girl will teach you something ive learned... and don't get frustrated on missed opportunities... just listen to the song i just gave you and do it again

More Approachs = Less Shyness

thanks man

anyone else have any answers to my two questions?

just had to add another question guys

I've done 13 approaches total now sicne i started roughly about a week ago. However, most of them have been just asking the time. I know 13 is not many, but i haven't really seen a change. Do I need to have actual conversations to get past my shyness and improve my social skills?

thanks a lot

What you said in your first post about learning a new skill is good for confidence and self-esteem, also you can use it for DHVing. I took up guitar about 3 and a half years ago and although new to the game, it helped my confidence allot, and when I get further into the game it should act as some good DHV material (already is infact, have used it here and there).
Basically find something you're interested in and go do it, you don't even have to have learned the new skill, if you are just starting to learn it then you can talk to girls about how you are learning something new and the interesting things about it etc. The great thing about it is that it will be from inside your own head and not canned so you can "Sell it" more so to speak.

As for asking for the time, maybe try some other things, it's good don't get me wrong but getting into a little conversation would be better I think. The opinion openers are good for that so read up on a few to get you going.

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