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interesting topic. if i masturbate i completely lose my sex drive for the time being. after i have sex with a woman, i immediately want to throw my clothes on and do something else. i think that's a pretty common feeling among guys. we can't help it. but girls think we're assholes if we actually act on it and immediately get dressed lol.
with this one girl, i was actually going limp on her. her tactics just weren't up to par, i guess. she actually said to me during a bj, "are you not enjoying this?!?!?" haha fuck i didn't know what to say..i just said "of course i am". one of the MOST DIFFICULT things to do for me, ever, is trying to concentrate on something else completely in order to keep your boner going, because your sex partner is a huge disappointment and you don't want to be rude lol. at that point i wish i was at home masturbating.
I had a similar situation once with a girl I quite fancied (HB6.5). It was definitely not anxiousness (I was sober and comfortable) it's just all the making out and foreplay never switched on the sexual button in me, can't really explain it. To make it worse, she was really into it and I basically ended going to third base without being aroused myself (kinda boring really). Afterwards it was really awkwar.
I totally agree, masturbation definitely diminishes my drive and I'm more self-conscious being alpha, whether it concerns my body language or social situations. When the testosterone level is higher, I act way more alpha to both men and women without ever thinking about it, mainly because I will rely more on instinct in social situations, without ever thinking what I should stay or what posture I should take.
Mystery's post:
"If you regularly masturbate, you can easily become
addicted. This addiction comes in the form of daily regularity that curbs your
desire to go out. It also does not allow you to harness your sex drive, which
can be used to motivate yourself to work on wealth-building projects.
If you aren't getting laid on a regular basis (which happens to all of us
from time to time), then don't just choke 'til you're broke. Set a date with
yourself. Only jerk it once a week. If you jerked it today, set the jerk date for
seven days from now. If you don't get a girl between then and now, you'll have
something to look forward to. Make it a good jerk! Use the best porn and
hand lotion. Look forward to it and this will keep you from wasting your life
away jerking it daily and focusing constantly on the pain of not having a
girlfriend.
In the meantime, harness your sex drive and build something."