This thread is about, you guessed it, changes. Share with us how you've changed over the past years, or even since you've found the community. Personally I've undergone a dramatic change in the past few years, especially since I came across the whole PUA thing. When I was 17 and my first girlfriend broke up with me, I sat down and thought about life and if this was all there was to it. I was doing a shitload of things wrong and set about changing my ways... I was never a social person - my days consisted of sitting in my room, on the internet, stopping only to eat and sleep. I had friends in school, but outside those walls I spoke to them mostly on msn and rarely went out to see them. I wanted to change but I had no idea what to do.
Fast forward a couple of years.
I started a job with a sales firm, and was taught a lot about dealing with people. Over the months that followed I became more outgoing, people commented that I was using my hands more when I spoke, and I felt my confidence growing. I was still bad with girls though, and even this new-found confidence with people wasn't helping me with that. I left that job and started a new one, where I met a girl and we dated for almost a year. I don't know how the hell I managed to get a date with her, it just kinda happened... anyway, we went out one day and had an awkward kiss, and we started dating. She changed the way I dressed, got me out and about, and I was introduced into the world of clubbing and getting massively drunk. I had the time of my life with her but because relationships get repetative she wanted to take a break, and because I was still an AFC I assumed this meant we would be back together in a few weeks or something. Haha! But yeah, I found out she had a new guy and it nearly killed me, and being an AFC I chased her regardless, even comforted her when they broke up. Stupid ass.
Roughly 6 months later, of chasing her and being mad at her and falling out then making up and so on, she moved across the pond to attend uni. I decided it was time to let go and find a new girl... it was at this same time a friend of mine discovered the community and told me to check some stuff out. I felt like an ass for reading this stuff at first but I slowly started working it into my interactions and began to take it seriously. I decided to check out all the material I could find and figure out what worked best with my personality... and now, some time later, I am reborn.
I'm looking at my school picture from 5 years ago and there is nothing of that person left. Physically and mentally, the way I carry myself, the way I dress, and the way people see me, everything has changed. I'm dedicating this post to my friends, the girls who kickstarted my change, and to all you guys who have gone through the same process. And to the new guys, if you're looking at yourself and are unsure about anything, be it physical or not, take it from me - if you look at yourself and you really want to do well, you'll surprise yourself and one day be proud as fuck.
I feel the thread would be incomplete without this, so here it is...
me 5 years ago, and me just before I wrote this. I mean seriously, it's hard to believe you're looking at the same person here! Anyway, that was kinda long but yeah, hopefully it'll give someone a bit of inspiration. Maybe this'll start a before 'n' after pic frenzy, lol. Seriously though, share your stories and stuff, it'd be cool to see where everyone else was 5 years ago.
CHAT
