Is it just me or when you get a lay with a pick up chick, its difficult too maintain a full blown erection? I picked one up last night, I met her once before and although I created attraction, comfort, and sexual tension for her, I didn't feel anything myself. I didn't feel all oogly inside or anything
and when the time came to fuck, I had to wank it after a 15 minute awesome blowjob to get it semi-erect. Then we had sex for an hour and I stared at objects around the room wondering how much it all cost.

Is this fucking normal? Or is this a symptom of going through a breakup?
A case of one-itis? Maybe a lack of sex drive? And I was sober too. I never had this before, it's like I'm disgusted or dislike sex.

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She just didn't turn you on, if she had the looks maybe she didn't have the attitude or personality that you like in women.

Two choices. Either let it all go caveman style, meaning you don't think about anything but hitting it, fuck whatever the game says and just fuck her good. Don't - think, just do it. You have the instincts in your blood and in your brain.

Or you maintain the emotional connection you built with her over the course of your courtship. Looking deep into her eyes may help. I'm also guessing this could spark something they like to call "love".

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what is this caveman style everyone speaks of? who teaches it?

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Everybody. There's no real philosophy to it - let go of all inhibitions and fuck her like you were going to the electric chair tomorrow. If it feels like borderline rape, you know you're doing it right

Enjoy

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how effective is the caveman style? I can remember one incident when i was sitting on a bench behind a girl drunk/horny out of my mind and just pushing my dick against her ass and dogging her hard into me and she kept telling me to stop....and all i kept doing was "shush, don't embarrass me like that." and continuing to do that....and kiss the back of her neck...sooner or later she was tugging down her shirt so i can kiss more of her.

Only time i can remember being REALLY aggressive, but it was a girl i previously knew so i didn't get scared by getting a call for a rape charge.

Wow, this happened to me after I got divorced. I went out trying to screw everything in sight, and after I got them into bed, same damn problem. I figured that I had (1) gotten used to the same girl, and (2) I didn't have any connection with whatever HB I was in bed with.
The trick I used to overcome this obstacle...I made each girl out to be awesome in my mind as we were reaching "terminal velocity", if you will, and got myself excited for what was to come, so to speak. I had to mentally amp up the situation since I had gotten into the habit of routine sex.
A book I read that helped me discover what was going on and what I needed to to was Sperm Wars by Robin Baker. Good read, too.

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Going "caveman" is when you simply revert to a caveman like state of "I take what I want".

In case you couldn't tell by the low post count or join date, I'm relatively new to the PUA community. In fact, just the other night I pulled my first HB back to my place. We made out and slept in the same bed, but every time it got hot and heavy she backed off. It was starting to piss me off because she'd be moaning and shit so I knew she was into it, but I think she might have just broken up with her boyfriend so her ASD was high. Needless to say, I'm a nice guy (been my curse my whole life) and I didn't push for sex that night and just slept with her (not bad, but not what I wanted).

Anyway, the morning came and I still hadn't. At this point I figured, fuck it, and started to massage and caress her thighs and move closer to her pussy. Her body language was lucid, but I chickened out because I thought she might just be sleeping and wake up and smack me.

From my limited experience, going caveman only works if you know you're in. And remember, no ALWAYS means no.

'No' usually means 'not now' or 'Im not horny enough yet'. I've had situations when a girl said 'I cant/shouldnt do this' and as soon as their arousal got to a high enough level, the logic switched off. If you pump BT to a high enough level and go caveman, you won't get LMR - at least in my experience. She'll be enjoying the ride too much to even think about stopping.

Say what you want about NLP, but this is the greatest bedroom tool ever invented.

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I meant an obvious, flat out no. If she's saying stuff like "I shouldn't do this" then you know she wants to, she is just trying to fight herself not to do it. In that situation, go caveman.

Ahhh. Gotcha.

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To me it is the other way around. Once I really got in the game, i was able to get a better erection than before, probably has something to do with better self esteem?

It is normal to be nervous the first time with a new girl... Maybe thats it.

Just want to add that a no has to always be treated as a no. Unless you are into using secret codewords for no like people who enjoy BDSM.
If you get a no, it might be LMR and you do a freezeout by accepting her no. If she means no and you keep at it, you will risk really scaring or hurting her.