I've been on and off with a girl for about 2 years, and things get so out of control because I cant establish power and control in situations. I lose my temper or lower my value by showing neediness or jealousy. I do not know what to do. At first when we started dating I demonstrated all these things but as time passed I slowly lost my "alpha" status.

Any books or sections about game that can help me?

What do I do when she acts needy, when she says "buy this for me", or tells me to grow up?
How do I act when things get out of control, when she is showing jealousy or anger because of other girls. When do I freeze her out, how do I DHV in a relationship, how do I control her basically? She is what I would consider a "natural" and does all this and after studying the game I realize things she does but I do I counter it? I would appreciate it everyone could throw in some insight because I really do care about this chick but it isn't what I would consider one-itis so fucking other girls isn't the answer, I've done that.

I want to elicit pleasure and have conversations without fights, I want to dominate the relationship. I don't want to be pushed around anymore.

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I'm addicted to facing my fears.

When she acts needy or tells you to buy stuff for you do what you believe is right; don't think of how she will feel with your decision act in the way that is right for and make no apologies for it.

When she show's jealousy let her; an alpha male has options in life and is willing to let a woman walk out at any time she damn well pleases. You're right about one-itis as well. One-itis isn't as cut-and-dry as Mystery put it which is why he wound up so miserable whenever a woman left him. You can't fill an emotional void by plowing 50 HBs.

If you want to dominate the relationship you need to stop worrying about how she will respond to you. Think of it as if you could cut her out at any time. You need to hold a stronger reality than her and accept that you are the strongest one in the relationship.

Women (especially attractive ones) LOVE; I will say this again: women LOVE a man who can take control and is not afraid to lead her. Attractive women have so many men that are willing to bend over backwards for them that they long for a man who will step in and turn her on in the way she was hardwired to be.

Alpha males are typically characterized by traits such as:

Dominance
Confident body language
Self-control
Unapologetic
Provides security
Makes his own decisions
Unaffected by peer pressure
Leadership
Always speaks his mind
Always shows his emotions

I have NEVER talked to a woman who has been turned on by supplication; it is simply not what they are programmed to be attracted to.

Alpha males have a certain way about them that makes them attractive that is universally synonymous with getting a woman turned on. Their traits include confidence, charisma and how well he can relate to her. The best way to show this is by being completely selfless – i.e DON’T JUDGE PEOPLE EVER!

- Chris

this is what she thinks of me. what the fuck does this mean? am i a afc to her?

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I'm addicted to facing my fears.

This is what she said to you? Well if you want to overanalyze it I happen to be good at such a thing. Lets see.

Sounds to me like she wants to get something off her chest. She wants to tell you something but she wants to make sure she has your support first.

Like this: Either? There is hiding things from you I assume..What is the other thing? She must have had something else typed, deleted it, and forgot to reword. Hmmmm
The thing I can get out of this is that you are her mirror. She gets validation and self satisfaction from the way she wins your affection and how you fall for her, using you to gauge herself.

Dude fuck, she could be saying anything. Give her your support and have some real talk.

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Its not the material-----Its the Execution

Most couples that have lost that initial attraction in their relationships but have not yet established a connection based on love stay together because of their fear of loss. The rabbit's out of the hat on the initial attraction phase of your relationship, so I suggest you start tinkering with the other two categories, or move on.

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Frick, I had the same problemo. Well the relationship was just 6 months - still.
I felt like I could be the dominant alfa only by doing it conciuosly. It wasn't happening naturally in our relationship.
It felt wrong.
Tell her you should take a break! Look if you feel different with over girls. Don't become trapped.
My 2 cents

We've taken plenty of breaks. Im in South Korea sarging and getting an insane amount of attention. We just always end back up togethor.

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I'm addicted to facing my fears.