wadup.

how do you get over the need (every human naturally has) for an emotional connection with someone.

most guys fill that need by getting a girlfriend, end up getting too emotionally attached, become dependant, and become chodes. Just to have her take advantage of you, break your heart, and send you down a spiral of depression.

how do you truly achieve the 'i really don't give a fuck' attitude... pretty much?

peace.

Hi Rye,

I work in this company with many employees. My floor alone has about 60 employees, each divided by cubicles. A few cubicles away from mine, i like this girl, but she don't know me. She seen me walking around, but thats it.

Any ideas how i can initiate a conversation wit her? And then continue to be with her, like if there's anyway i could initiate lunch on a daily basis n not get rejected? And then going home & out together?

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Hi man, i posted this in the forum but did not get the unswer i wanted, maybe you can help:

How to respond to a HB that asks you whether or not you have a GF?

Is it ok to mention (indirectly) that you have a girlfriend in the conversation to lower the bitch shield, make you look less needy, preselected and etc?

Is it ok if after some connection is created and HB ask about you GF, you respond with something like "she is very hot but there is nothing serious about this relationship" and follow up with "beauty is common but i look for more" routine?

Memento answered me:

I never say that I have a girlfriend, I say something that communicates that I have women who are close to me in my life who are of high value and who I protect and care very much for. It would be better for you to communicate that than to say you you have a girlfriend.

- Memento
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I understand what you are saying, agree with it 100% and try to implement it as well as i can...

but still i often find women asking me whether or not i have girlfriend way before i am able to communicate the kind of image you were talking about.

Also i found myself not being comfortable saying that i don't have a girlfriend because it seems like it lowers my status, and it feels as DLV.

PS

the funny part is that i actually have a girlfriend that is HB 10 + intelligent + makes three times more money than me. We have dated for 3,5 years now so the sex got really boring. Also because i was fateful all the time my pick up abilities and skill went down dramatically

PPS

It may seem like I'm boasting here but the point is its hard for me to take that look the girls give me when i say i don't have a GF. Like why don't you have one? It there something wrong with you? When I'm actually dating someone that is better then them in all aspect. Maybe it goes down to the time i was still virgin and felt really embarrassed to admit that i really don't have a girlfriend?

Hey man,

I met this girl Sat night at a bar/lounge. She was there with some dude (friend), but it wasn't long before I isolated her. We spoke for almost 30 minutes alone. I got her number, etc. In the end, the guy friend comes over and says: "you're doing a great job man, but my friend has to take me dancing. We're going across the street." I wasn't really sure what to say to that, but I gave the chick a hug and moved on.

Now, I thought everything went well. There was tons of kino, a lot of IOIs,etc. However, when I called she didn't answer the phone. I left a message: "something funny happened to me, call me back, i gotta tell you," etc. She texted me back instead --- "i'm really busy, looking forward to your story, email me instead." I texted her back, "I'm not really the emailing type, I'll just give you a call some other time." She emailed back: "looking forward to your call, sorry i;'m busy" etc.

We met Sat. I called her Mon. Texts happened the next day.

What does all this mean? Is she into me? How long should I wait to call her? Etc. Thanks.

hey, after experiencing a terrible one night stand, I came to the realization that I want a emotional and spiritual connection with a girl. Though I'm a 22 year old virgin and have never had a girl friend. I know this may sounds dorky but my biggest passion in life has always been comics. and if I can connect with the so you say; nerd girl, the girl every guy secretly wants. It would be the most awesome spiritual connection I could experience. You know like a girl who carries a pink Nintendo DS, listens to Gorillas, watched anime in high school and is all about gaming. Maybe thats being a little to specific, buts thats just giving you the idea.

any way I live in the northwest and theres this convention coming up called Emerald City Comic con, if any girls like I just explained exist somewhere in the world, thats is probably the one and only place I'd find them EVER.

So how could I run game in an enviorment like that.

Can you give me some descriptions of IOIs that the woman will give, and what do I do to show some IOI's? IOD's come after an IOI, and are negs generally right?

I'm a newb, just started learning last night...so I'd appreciate all help provided.

Well you left out every bit of important information, so I can't give you a real answer.

They went to another place to go dancing, but you got her number, so that's perfectly good. You called and she was busy, so you are texting with her the next day, but you don't say what happened with that, so who knows whether it's good or bad?

Personally, I believe texting is better if you have a solid connection, because there is less chance of her flaking on a phone call, than on a text that she can choose to never reply to, just like when you leave a voicemail, over actually talking to her. I think you need to get it back to phone conversation and set up a day 2. If that happens, then she may be interested, if she flakes, then move on.

Hey, I was introduced to "Pick-up" about a week ago, before that I had no idea this kind of stuff existed. Anyway, long story short. First time clubbing with a few friends, prepared some material previously (couple of openers and some proof of value magic tricks).

I wouldn't say I'm confident. But, in any other situation I could probably go and talk to a stranger and strike a conversation. Thing is, that club was fucking loud. Every single room had badly remixed Hip-hop and RnB booming. I have a fairly loud voice but I had to literally shout into his ear to be heard.

I had no idea to what to do in that situation. People were dancing, the lights were low, everyone was moving around, so I had this feeling I coundn't break into a set and hold it. I moved to the dance floor later made eye contact with a girl smiled said "Hey" but she just gave me the "Creep." look.

I have a feeling most of the clubs in Melbourne (Australia) are like this. So I wanted to know if I did anything wrong, or did I pick the wrong venue. Any feedback would be great.

Thanks.