This is a legitimate precaution, that I should've mentioned. If you actually have reason to believe you are bipolar, you ought to go see a psychotherapist of some sort. Indeed, everyone can use a therapist now and again, because everyone can stand to have an objective voice listen to your problems. Nothing you have is unique and a good therapist has undoubtedly seen it before. Naturally, don't just get a session with the cheapest one you can find--do some research before jumping into it to ensure that the therapist is good at his/her job.

If you cannot afford/do not want to go to a therapist, an author I recommend is Niel Fiore, he has a Ph.D. is Clinical Psychology and is an excellent writer. I have only read his book on procrastination, The NOw Habit, but I would recommend checking out URL Awaken Your Strongest Self.

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Lo' there do I see My Father.
Lo' there do I see the line of My People, back to the beginning.
Lo' they do call to me, they bid me take my place among them.
in the Halls of Valhalla, where the brave may live forever.

I havent read half of the replies to this so if most of this has already been said then appologies.

First off, I used to be a victim also, i wallowed in self pity and sypathy for years. I never talked about suicide thought I just went out and tried it.

I was a nice guy, low self esteem, everyone walked over me and I let them because I was a pussy and thought it might make them like me more.

I snapped myself out of it by observing life and coming to a realisation. The next 2 things I say etch them into your mind.

"No body EVER gets what they deserve but everybody gets what they believe they deserve"

"Seeing is not believing, believing is seeing"

Your life is the way it is because you CHOOSE it to be, your addicted to people feeling sorry for you, addicted to your own self pity and you love being the victim because it gives you an excuse for all your failings in life.

You biggest problem is that your lazy, you want a silver bullet a pill that will make your life perfect well there is no such thing. If you won the lottery right now and started dating a supermodel you would only destroy it all.

Take a look around you look at the world why do all the twats get everything they want ? Purely because they are so arrogant they believe that life owes it to them.

The way you are right now you shouldn't even be thinking about dating women. What you need is to work on YOU, your inner game in PUA terms.

You have told yourself your a world class failure and ugly so many times you have programmed yourself to believe it, thats what you need to change and I will be honest its not easy it takes time but more than that it takes a true desire to change. the only person that can make the change is you.

Ask yourself if you are so self absorbed that everytime you hear someone laugh your ego takes a hit because you believe they are laughing at you.

Everything in life is about inner game, you will never succeed at anything if you tell yourself your going to fail before you have started.

You want to be respected and have friends that want to be around you, master your inner game.

You want to be respected and successful at work, master your inner game.

You want to be respected and successful with women, master your inner game.


You dont need the PUA forums you need a life coach someone like tony robins, you need to commit to a course of action.

If you really want to make a start on bettering your life, push all negative thoughts out of your head as soon as they pop in, start taking joy in the good things in your life, your family, your friends, your possessions. Do this every day instead of focusing on the negative things in your life and living of the pain.

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"Nobody ever gets what they deserve out of life, they get what they believe they deserve."

Well another setback ive got 2 mates, one all of a sudden is freezing himself away from me(for his own shitty behaviour) and the other mate just wont go out anymore.
Fact is I cant change anything if the world around me wont let it happen, Ive set myself a plan now of 3 months, if things dont improve in 3 months I may have to start thinking of a way out of this shitty little world.

It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything.
Only after disaster can we be resurrected.
If you wanna make an omelet, you gotta break a couple eggs.

Tyler Durden's best quotes. Ever wonder why a MPUA took that alias??
Maybe he was in the same position u were in...

Res, I hate to say it but you will fail if you have that outlook.

Think about the way you see things

"Well another setback ive got 2 mates, one all of a sudden is freezing himself away from me(for his own shitty behaviour) and the other mate just wont go out anymore. "

Translates as "I'm a miserable git, i demand so much sympathy and pity that I have completely drained my friends energy to the point they don't want to be around me anymore"

PUA response " Great news, 2 of the people that have been holding me back by allowing me to wallow in my own self pity instead of snapping me out of it are out of the way so I have more time to work on my game and meet even more HB's"

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"Fact is I cant change anything if the world around me wont let it happen, Ive set myself a plan now of 3 months, if things dont improve in 3 months I may have to start thinking of a way out of this shitty little world."

Translates as " I want to fail, then i can say i was right all along I am a loser. I will get months of self pity of that. I have no intention of learning anything along the way because everything that goes wrong will be this shitty little worlds fault not mine. Besides Ive put up all these barriers and walls around me and i don't want to look out because god forbid I may succeed"

PUA response " Ok ive set myself a target of 3 months to change my life starting NOW, I have written down a list of actions I need to take to beter my life and my situation and set myself goals and targets. Should I fail (anyone got a dictionary so i can see what fail means)... When I succeed im gunna have to buy shares in rubber"

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What you become in the next 3 months is down to you and no one else, things go wrong, sh!t happens.

Victims say "I give up life sux"

Winners say "Cool, that something new i have learnt and I wont make that mistake again"


What you have here is a great community who will help you every step of the way with advice and tips but you really need to change your attitude.

Every guy here is here because they chose this path and because he wanted to stop being a victim, they all know you better than you know yourself because many of them have been there including myself.

No one here can force you to change your life for the better and nor will they try but should YOU make that decision for yourself then everyone here will be behind you.

I dont want to hear you saying "cant" or "it wont let me" or even blaming anyone else fuk everyone else this is about you this is your life, live it on your own terms.

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"Nobody ever gets what they deserve out of life, they get what they believe they deserve."

You can live however you want to if you have the will to do it.

But that's your choice.

No one has the ability to control the world around them, only themselves. There are so many things you can do to improve your life and how you feel, just by working on yourself, but you're so focused on the outside world that you don't realise it.

I have lived a horrible life of hating every day I go in to work, for a year and a half. I LOATHE my job. I tell myself, "I fucking hate this job and I'm gonna quit, or kill someone soon." probably 100 times a day (not an exageration). It has affected the rest of my life and then there's all sorts of other crap as well.

I couldn't fix those problems, they were just there and aside from quiting my job, which wasn't the best option for a lot of reasons. So I weathered through and I worked on myself. I improved who I was, so that when I got to the point where I was confident in who I was and had myself on the right track, I could work at fixing those external things one at a time.

If you're in this kind of mood, where you are talking about killing yourself and your friends aren't hanging out with you, maybe that's the problem and maybe you should fix that, so that they will enjoy being around you again and want to go out with you.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

Sometimes people come here for pity, not advice.

I pity the fool.

Such a hopeful name Resurrection08.

Should I pity you?

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Why didn't/don't you just quit your job? You aren't supporting a family or anything are you?

Also, did you want that lockpicking stuff? I've sent you a couple PMs already.

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Lo' there do I see My Father.
Lo' there do I see the line of My People, back to the beginning.
Lo' they do call to me, they bid me take my place among them.
in the Halls of Valhalla, where the brave may live forever.

You can either commit suicide or pick yourself up, do what it takes to improve your life, and enjoy it. Just make the decision.

Go fuck yourself dickhead, you know nothing about me.

Why would I want pity? How is pity going to put everything right.

Think before you open your mouth next time

Thing is im not actually like that around my friends, if anything Ive got the most personality in the group its the people around me who need to seriously sort themselves out.

Cant change my life until I have the tools around me to do it, and when fate seems to take everything away from me theres no working around that, some people are just born unlucky and im one of them.
Until I see genuine proof that things around me are going to change then I cant do anything about it

You said you needed to email it to me and so I PMed you my email...

But I couldn't get another job that I make as much money as I do in my current job and I'm going back to school in September, so paying off my old student loans, plus saving up for school was a priority, plus I get a free cellphone, 40% off phone and internet and I get a company vehicle to drive home every night, in a city where I have no car of my own and terrible transit. Pretty crappy situation. Could have quit, but it would have reduced my quality of living by way more than I was willing. I'd rather have money and be unhappy with my job, than be poor and unhappy with my job .

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

Wrong, you are the only one that can be held responsible for your life. Stop trying to blame your problems on outside sources, then you will realise that you do have the power to take control and change your life for the better. Saying that you can't unless the world is nicer to you is just a cop-out.

One of my co-workers was homeless for 2 years and slept in the back of the Dominoes that he worked at and left early in the morning before his boss got to work, to go shower at a friend's house and then come back. He had just enough money to feed himself and no friends or family that would help him out aside from a shower every couple days.

He took control of his life, he got himself signed up for college to become an electrician and became a Journeyman making $40 an hour within 5 years because he applied himself. Now he owns 2 houses, 3 vehicles and a summer cottage. No one helped him and the odds were stacked against him, but he realised it was up to him to change that and no one else would do it for him and the world wasn't gonna suddenly start treating him better.

It's hard work and it takes percerverance, but when you start looking back and see where you came from, it feels amazing.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye