| 1. Don't "Lock-in" Too Early
What do I mean by "locking in?" This is when you approach a woman, stand in front of her and effectively dominate her space. It has its place but you should avoid it early in a seduction. The best way to approach a woman you don't known is to stand slightly to the side of her with your feet pointing away and only your head facing. Women are well attuned to body language, and this stance won't appear threatening - it won't trigger her defensive responses (the harsh blow-out). She'll be more likely to feel comfortable knowing that your body language indicates that you are only going to be there for a moment or two. You'll probably be off in a minute. You are buying yourself an opportunity to make a good impression. Once you've done that, you won't get the brush off.
2. Don't "Peck"
If you are in-set in a club, the chances are that it's going to be a noisy place. In places where it's difficult to hear the conversation, the tendency is to lean in and speak directly into her ear. You shouldn't do this: it looks needy. Instead, you should maintain your posture and get her to lean in to you. It will look like she is picking you up. It's not just about how it looks, either; by, say, leaning on the bar and having her leaning in towards you, the psychological effect on her and others is very strong. You look like the prize, not her. This rule applies when you are sitting, too - don't lean in, lean back.
3. Use Gestures
Remember, communication is only about 30% verbal. The great majority of the message that we convey is done with our bodies. Bear that in mind at all times. When you're speaking, try to ensure that you're not stiff and rigid. A good way to do this is to make gestures. It immediately makes you more interesting, and, more importantly, it will give you a natural opening to touch the girl during conversations. Think about that for a moment: if you have your hands in your pockets and then try to touch her arm, it'll be weird. But if you touch her arm after making a gesture to emphasise a point, it'll be perfectly natural and normal. Making gestures also makes it less likely that you will fidget in set.
4. Touch her!
This is worth re-iterating. People like to be touched. It's a fact. If you gesture and move around a lot, you seem naturally tactile and your touches will be welcome and acceptable. Don't touch with a sleazy intentions, because that's obvious and it'll earn you a slap. But an escalating series of touches - hand, arm, shoulder - will put the girl at ease with you and introduce sexual tension to your dynamic. And we all know where that leads.
5. Master Eye Contact
This one is really important. If you can't hold eye contact, you will appear submissive and unsure of yourself - two things that will guarantee a low success rate with women. And please promise me that you'll never look down during a conversation - it is a classic sign of weakness. Holding eye contact holds a woman's attention more effectively, and, even more important, it works on the attraction centres in the brain. Eye contact builds up sexual interest and attraction. Think about yourself for a moment - isn't it true that you are more attracted to the girl who can hold good eye contact than the one who can't? The same is true for women. If there's more than one person in the group you are talking to, remember to spread eye contact around to hold everyone's interest.
p.s. this is compliments of gambler. i'm just relaying it here. _________________ yours truly. fitzy
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