McDonalds can kiss my Irish/French ass.

Fries dipped in Frosty, all the way. Hurry up with that, btw.

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can glasses be sexy on a man, or should i just wear my contacts all the time?

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Can glasses be sexy on a woman? Depends.
Can glasses be sexy on a man? Depends.

Probably one of the most attractive men I'm working on right now wears glasses. However, he's fucking beautiful, and the glasses are perfect for his face. They make him look artsy, classy, emotional, harsh, and a million other adjectives. What do your glasses say about you?

This is a difficult question to answer specifically for you without a picture.

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That guy is me. I'm so hot.

I wear glasses, and quite honestly I look better with them than without. They help broaden out the top half of my face because I have a rather narrow head and broad cheeks. Wearing narrow glasses makes my face look dynamic, as opposed to oddly shaped.

Zip Question One: When are you coming to Edmonton so we can party together?

Zip Question Two: You're a perfectly ordinary young lady, and you just got out of a long-term relationship because your boyfriend caught you making out with some dude at a bar. The dude you were making out with is me: sweet, wise, beautiful, full of all sorts of value. But you're hurt and you need some time to heal. How long do you need to get your shit into a group before being willing to see me again? (considering whether or not it's time to give up on a girl in my rotation, figured I'd ask).

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Wow! Dude, you are almost as conceded as me. High five.
And we're back from the break---How's life Zip? Okay, so I would like to know just how effective customization of one's clothes would be. For example, I have a pink button up that I colored the cuffs and collar black and left my name on the collar as well. I also intend to just have attractive women sign their names and phone numbers on it too. Social proof and creativity, or just out there?

Hey Zip, its really great to get a females perspective...
I hate to read through 45 pages so ill just ask, how do you and other girls feel about the 3 second rule? If the girl makes eye contact does the PUA lose his sense of excitement and interest if he does not approach in the next 3 seconds. I know alot of this rule has to do with the PUA chickening out but i like to asess the situation first. Or mabey it could build interest with some flirty eye contact. If theres already a post about this than ignore me
Thanks

Set up a workshop, and get me out there. Problem solved.
Obviously, you don't want to get in there too soon because you don't want to be a sounding board for her ex-boyfriend woes. Conversely, you don't want to wait too long because she'll rebound. Question is, do you want to be the rebound, or are you interested in something more with this fine young lady?

My advice would be to keep her at bay for a bit, but keep contact. Send her a quick and funny text, email, message, whatever. Keep it light. Make sure she equates you with fun, so that she gets a little butterfly in her stomach each time her cellphone text alarm goes off, hoping you'll send something to pick up her day.

You'll feel when she's itching to see you. Then, you either wait for her to ask you out (if you build and escalate it correctly, this is the best case scenario.) If she's playing coy, but you can feel she's dropping hints and using strong subtext... keep it casual and ask her to come along with you to something fun (you want to make her feel that you were already planning on going to X, does she want to tag along?)

She just got out of the long term relationship, and it was because of you. You have to make sure you are equated with fun, casual, and the sexy sexy rather than the breakup.

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fucking crazy beautiful, thank you for asking.
Look, if you can rock it, you rock it. Creativity is always preferable to the norm, but only if you don't feel weird in it. You have to own it. Plus, the interactive part of the ensemble is fun and great.

Plus, you never know who's just waiting for a man with colored cuffs and his name on the collar. Lately, I freak out a little on the inside if a guy wears pink. Or eyeliner. Wearing both will send me into orbit.

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You're absolutely right, the three second rule is mainly so guys don't pussy out. It's also to capitalize on the momentum of a hopefully awesome entrance. However, I like playing with eye contact because THAT IS your opener. If you play eye tag with a girl, where you hold eye contact, break it, reinstate it, she breaks it, she looks back, she cracks a smile GO IN.

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I failed to get this cute girl's number this week. It happens, but thats not the issue. When she turned me down, she had a great smile going. Not a tight lip "polite" smile, but one that seemed real. Now I'm just wondering if she just has a boyfriend and is loyal (much respect for loyalty), or did she want me to try harder?

Hm. If she refused to give you her number, but she was genuinely smiling... maybe she is one of those rare cases where she has a boyfriend and was being loyal. However, these cases are rarer than I like my steak, which is practically still blinking. Maybe her friends were watching and would tell on her.

What I really think is that you didn't work hard enough, but she was really cheering you on. If you don't get a girl's number... you went amiss somewhere.

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You're French aren't you? (steak comment) Yeah, I pretty much just thought I didn't work enough. Oh well. There will be others. Once again, than you for the advice. Its always a help.

Dear Zip,

1) Do chicks really dig scars?

2) How soon do women really feel comfortable having the guy share his problems with them? Say he had a painful childhood or something. I know women feel obligated to reveal this information about themselves within the first five minutes, but men?

3) Someone once made this insightful statement:
Tell me how this is possible when you get to know someone through conversation, and really care about what they say. You're not just nodding and giving lip service here---I mean you can actually relate with what they are going through at that exact moment in their lives.

To clarify, I've had people tell me their stories of woe, and sometimes I can't help but feel sorry for them. Now in the past, I would have just brushed it off with an "oh well, that sucks, life's not fair".

But as I progress through my study of social dynamics in dealing with people, and thanks to some silly advice about caring what other people say in conversations, I kind of picked up this sack of potatoes called empathy. Now, their moods will influence mine to a degree, and I can't shut them out. Great.

So, going back to the statement, how do I give a shit about what people have to contribute to my life in the form of positive experiences and well articulated insights on life, and not give a fuck that their wife left them, their house burned down, their car got stolen, and their dog just died.

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thats a good question Roads.

is this the same thing you are trying to ask:

how do you know when both parties are ready to peel away layers of their onion, and be invovled with eachothers lives even more? And then from there..... how do you care, but not care too much?

(let me know if that is an accurate paraphrase of your question).


I've got some answers, but the repercussions of a thread hijacking....well, they just might be too scary and I am not ready to face them.

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Why don't you give it a crack? I'd like to read said ideas.

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