Hi guys i haven't posted for a while.Been busy but hope all you guys are doing good.My game has improved tremendously and i am having lots of success.

My post today is not about game.It is about a guy friend i have.We have really being friends for a long time and i really care about how he feels.I have tried helping him in many ways but he is a bit temeperantal and am afraid worse than that.Any time he gets angry he resorts to giving me the silent SPAM.ill be talking to him and he will listen and not say a word.Today we had an arguement and i actually thought that he was wrong and i was right.I may be wrong i don't know but he told me that i did not care about him and he drove off.

Later,i bumped into him and he refused to talk to me.He just ignored whilst i kept talking.Then after minutes of silence,he asked me what i wanted as i have already known where my loyalties lie.I tried to convince him that he was wrong.He listened for a while and stopped engaging me.i kept talking for some few minutes and he would not engage.In the end i just stopped talking.

This is not the first time.He gives me the silent SPAM every time we have a big fight.My question is,is this normal human behaviour because i am not used to seeing this in people? Does my friend need psychological help or am i just a terrible friend?

sounds like me and my buddy when we were in our 20's.

it's probably something else that's going on in his life.

my buddy acted like a real cocksucker toward me all of a sudden but, looking back, i realize that it's because his dad was having a bunch of physical and mental health problems at the time. my buddy felt insecure about it.... because his dad wasn't going to be the solid father figure he had always been. and so he felt like he needed to prove something all of a sudden.

is there anything going on with his family life or work or his love life that's making him this way? is he drinking a lot or using drugs?

Can we stop giving ideas before details are given?

Please explain the argument, what caused it and what happened.

Okay the arguement was about me and him going to a dangerous place late at night.I told him it is unsafe lets get ourselves security first.Then he got mad told me i am a betrayer and just drove off.later when we met up he said i nearly risked his life(a bit rich considering he is the one who drove off without even listening to my advice!)Needlees to say he didn't even go to that place.

And let me add one thing.Apart from his bad temper,he is the kind of person who always needs people around him.Even if he is doing the smallest of activities like grocery shopping,he prefers going with someone and if he knows you have free time and you turn him down he takes it very personally.

Now that i have given the details,anybody with any piece of advice,though,observation or criticism?

Could he be depressed over something? I had a friend who acted this way to me before and I had no idea what was going on. Found out a few years after when he apologized. He was going through some depression in his life from losing someone in his family.

These are not details. These are pieces of story that makes no sense, even your side. See, your friend is not sounding like the weird one, its you..because you're saying something in pieces, which will make me assume thats how you communicate with him and others. If your issue is how you friend communicates, be able to communicate a story and details in a rational manner. Security? Dangerous place? Do you hire guards or something? Give the whole story properly, because if you cant do that, maybe you are the reason for the communication problems

You have big fights with your best friend? Is that a thing?

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I don't know what more explanation i can give.It was very late at night.He wanted me to accompany him to a place where i thought was dangerous.He basically goes like i am going will you accompany me or not? And i replied wait let's get security first since anything could happen and the place we were driving too was known for gangs.we could get high jacked or anything.So after i suggested that he ranted and raved for some minutes and said that i wasn't a reliable friend.He drove off but he didn't go to the place he was talking about as i would find out later.He drove back to his home.We live in the same neighboured.when i came back i saw his car parked and i knew he was probably inside.When i came near,i saw the lights in the car were on and he was inside typing on his phone.So i knocked a few times and he kept ignoring me then finally he pulled down the window and asked me what i wanted from him as i already made it clear where my loyalties lie.I told him the way he got mad at me wasn't cool and that i didn't accompany him because i was afraid for my safety.After that we got into a situation where i was talking to him and trying to get him to talk to me because i was really frustrated with him but he wouldn't flinch.He kept stone walling me and that continued onto the next day.He would bump into me and say nothing at all.The reason why i am posting this is because he has this bouts of anger all the time and it is frustrating to me.He has given me the silent SPAM a lot of times and i rarely get that SPAM from other people.I am not perfect i fight and disagree with people but it doesn't get to the point where we don't talk for days.we usually talk it out.And one thing about him that i should mention is that he is a person who requires company all the times.He needs attention all the times even when he is doing trivial tasks like grocery shopping,he asks me to accompany him and if i am free and i don't accompany him he gets angry with me and starts sulking.Hope i have provided all the details.

The issue is whether you were in the wrong or not. Of your entire response, only the bold portion has what led to the disagreement and its vague. Why did he want to go to the dangerous place? What is this "security" you wanted to get? Its confusing as hell. I have no idea what this security is, or the reason for this trip. Even something as simple as "my friend and I were at his place hanging out. He wanted to go to his weed guy and asked me to come. I told him sure, let me run home and get my gun. He started ranting on me" would make more sense than how its presented here. This is a weird situation as presented and sure your friend may be a weirdo, but you both sound weird if this is even a conversation you're having before the ranting even occurred. Im stressing explaining this properly, AGAIN because if you explain things to this guy the way you've explained them here, when you can type and think, and its still being presented vaguely, odds are when you explain something to him you're miscommunicating.

I know guys get into our disputes too, but this shit sounds overly catty and feminine.

You two could just be growing apart.

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