So, basically I work at a technology park were there are a bunch of different startups and people working.

Through some work colleagues, I met a girl that works also at the tech park, but in a different company. We started having lunch or coffee all together as a group and after 1/2 weeks I isolated her and we started having lunch only the two of us were some small kino escalation happened (grabbing arms, touching face, jokes and so on). During this lunches/coffees we had together I said things to her like

"you look so good today, I'm trying so hard to control myself"
"you're so cool I really like talking to you"

After she said I was smelling very well I answered: "I put this perfume this morning thinking about you"
After I paid my part of the bill with card "ex: John Simpson" the waiter thought he were a couple and called her "Mrs. Simpson". She smiled and said nothing. I then said "Wow! now I was getting scared because I thought I was missing something or haven't paid attention! But now I looked again to your hands and hopefully there's no ring there ahaha". She smiled again but didnt comment nothing regarding that.

I invited her then to meet during the weekend (outside work environment) and she instantly said yes. We met at a coffee, then took a walk at the beach and then we sit at the beach. At that point I put my arm around her and tried to smell her neck to then go for the kiss, but she "denied". She moved her head a little bit away and started playing with the sand or something. She was clearly unconfortable and then she said it was getting cold and our date ended. Failure.
After that I knew I was friendzoned and ended our lunches together only the 2 of us (I still liked her but this was the right thing to do). We joined her friends (my colleagues) from work again to have lunch all together and through the following weeks I only did small talk conversation with her and started seeing her as a friend only.

Now, something happened and I am REALLY MAD!!

Now, that she sees me as a friend and not as a guy who wants to fuck her, she said to me during a conversation that this weekend she is going to her boyfriends family party because its his cousin's birthday and his family is great and whatever. She already knows his entire family, its not something recent for sure!

WTF are you kidding me!!!!?

She had a boyfriend and said nothing to me during all this time!?? She had plenty of opportunities! I was clearly hitting on her, no way she didnt noticed that!!
Now I feel the stupidest guy in the planet and feel like she was playing with my feelings because I was starting to like her.
I mean, everytime I try to hit on girls and start using kino or making jokes, if they are not interested they would kindly say that they have a boyfriend, they are too busy to come meet with me or whatever. That´s normal and I am not hurt by that at all. But in this situation she said nothing and she gave me hope everytime. I am angry and mad now.

So, conclusion:

Should I continue to have lunch together with her and her group of friends like nothing happened and everything is cool, or should I start moving away and stop talking to her at all and to her friends?

Am I being immature and should handle this like nothing happened its a common situation, or is she a slut that doesnt deserve 1 minute of my attention?

You have to make your own decision on what you do. If you're mad then it is reasonable not to hang out with her anymore. If it didn't affect you, then it's fine to stay in the group. It has nothing about immaturity or her being a slut. Do what you need to do to be happy.

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To be honest I still like her a litte bit right now but hopefully this feeling will move completely away soon. I knew I was friendzoned, and if she had gotten a new boyfriend today, that would hurt a little but I would have seen that as normal. I couldnt get her, another guy did. Congrats to him and I should be better next time.

But the way it happened... I feel dumb like shit. If I stop having lunch with them, that would be awkward and I should not forget that some of them are my work colleagues and I should be one of "his friends" to succeed at work. If I continue go there I would feel like shit and very umconfortable and could then be nervous at work

This is bad man..couldn't predict this :/

Does this happen often? Never knew girls that behave like this...what was going through her head to do this? Does she think its just funny to have some guy hitting on her?

It's obvious that you like her and that's okay. The important part is that she made a decision and you can't let that adversely affect your life and cause you to make decisions that are against your self interest because your ego is bruised. You may need to give yourself a few weeks away from her to get your mind right and then rejoin the group if that's what you want to do. Just don't beat yourself up...your story is common.

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She loves your attention.

Remove it.

Cut carbs, hit the gym, get some sun and talk to her again in ten days. Act indifferent. Talk about other girls, then pull away again for four days.

Never tell a girl you "put on perfume for her" unless she's said she loves you. That's some sappy shit right there.

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How could the OP have recovered from that?

OP, man, what the hell are you talking about?

First off, she knows you want to fuck her. She also know that now, she probably doesn't want to fuck you. There's a very good reason for which you did not hear about her boyfriend prior, and that reason is because she was interested.
Judging by your texts and whatnot you come off a bit uncomfortable. Feels to me you're being tryhard in some scenarios when you get overly gamey. Some intrigue will take you a long way. You need to be shameless in your intent, not in your words. But regardless, she was interested and even IF she were uncomfortable on the beach, the failure was letting that semi-denial affect you, not being denied in the first place. You took is as a blow to the ego and consequently your confidence shattered, taking your attractiveness with it.

Do you honestly think we don't encounter resistance every now and then? The difference is in knowing when to take 1 step back and then 2 steps forward. That's how it works. You didn't take a step back, you literally ran off home because "it was getting cold".

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You played with your own feelings man.


You started getting emotionally wrapped up in some girl you hadn't even kissed you. Perhaps she saw you as a friend the entire time and was just soaking up the attention.

A slut though? What did she do?

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