| I'll answer this in length from my own personal experience.
To answer your question: There is no answer to your question.
R.C. said right until she cums, and I'd say that's a good rule of thumb.
I have a personal rule that I will always make the girl cum. The only exception is if she cannot cum. Out of 47 lays in about a year, I've had this happen a few times. Some girls are just too uncomfortable to cum. Think of it as like peeing in front of a stranger, some people have a hard time with it. Well, some girls have a hard time cumming with someone new. Some girls can cum from being on top only, but won't cum from missionary. Yet when you get comfortable with each other, all of the sudden she can cum in about 1 minute flat from missionary.
So with that aside, the optimum time really depends.
I would say that my average sex lasts approximately 30 to 45 minutes, kind of just depending on the energy going on. I rarely get tired, but some girls tire out at about the 30 minute mark. If I feel ANY lack of enthusiasm after she has came a few times, then I decide it's time for me to cum, and I do.
Sometimes, and really only with girls I'm friends with benefits with, I'll pull a five minute quickie, which can be insanely hot for them. With a FWB, a quickie is great because they know how to cum with you, and you can get them off in less than five minutes, and get yourself off too.
Just remember that women are just as sexual as you. They want to get off the same as you do. The only difference is that women can usually get off multiple times in one act, while most men can only get off once in one act.
Me, personally, when I cum, it's over, we're done. I have the personal advantage of being able to last as long as I want to, and cum when I decide. I've even made it fun for girls by telling them they can't make me cum, that they can try as hard as they can to make me cum against my will, and I won't (one girl did, she was goooooood).
Anyway, I find that the 30 to 45 minute range is good for a great intense night of sex. It's just long enough for her to say to herself "Damn. This guy can fuck. . . " and just short enough for her to say to herself "I'm glad I could make him cum."
Also remember that a lot of girls base their performance on the fact that she made you cum.
And, not to pry too deeply with you, but your question almost indicates that you *may* have a problem with endurance in bed. Just keep in mind that sex shouldn't be entirely performance based, and is supposed to be mutually enjoyable for both. If she wants to fuck you, she's wanting to enjoy it, and she'll be more open to enjoyment and less judgmental than she has during your entire interaction up until this point.
It's a situation where nerves shouldn't matter, this girl is rooting for you to win.
Something I used to do, when I didn't have as much control in bed (When I was like 20). I would fuck for a little while, and if I felt like I was going to cum, I would go back to eating her pussy so I could take a break. I actually still do this, but not because I am gonna lose control. I do it because it drives them fucking wild. A few girls have made the comment when I go back down, they say something like "You're going to eat my pussy AGAIN?!" So I eat their pussy for a while, lose my erection, let her suck me until I'm hard, then go back to fucking.
Anyway, my personal answer (especially for a girl you are fucking for the first time): 30 to 45 minutes.
And don't forget to cuddle directly after and talk about any subject. This increases likelihood that they'll return for more. I can't tell you how many times a girl has said "oh my god I love cuddling after!".
One girl said "at least you cuddle after." To which I said "What do you mean "at least?," you came like five times, you only made me cum once!" with a laugh. She ate that shit up.
Also something I like to do is shower with them after the cuddle. While cuddling I kinda slap their leg and say "Lets shower!" and get up to shower. This really helps in getting a FWB. They want the girlfriend/boyfriend experience without any strings.
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