See my feeling is why bother putting in good emotions or being "the fun guy" if its going nowhere(why waste all this extra energy, its like not getting paid to do a job ), the flip side is i if remain mute, i'll appear awkward and moody. So how do you go about this when these people are in your social group for a good chunk of your time.

You're doing things for external validation to FUEL an identity that's externally derived, that is why however you act is moot. It is the scarcity mindset its coming out of.

Why bother feeding the homeless if its going to take money out of your pocket and food out of your mouth? \

Whats wrong with offering value and excitement to other people even if there is no direct benefit to you? We reap what we sow. What you put out today will return to you tomorrow.

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I was going to initially put this in two post. But the main "problem" is my confidence is a bit low at the moment.
What's basically keeps happening I have this good looking friend (got the personality to match) everyone's loves him. When I'm speaking to girls I'm seeing and they see me with him, they'll comment on how attracts he is. Family members, everyone. My male friends will invite him out if they need a wingman on their date to dog le date or if they meet a friend, they'll I trouser them to him.

I know this bit sounds petit I but just kinda adding to the what the fuck do I have to do vibe. I added a girl I I'm mutual friends with and now happen to work with just as you do no biggy, she ignored it. Met my. My friend months down the line and followed him on Instagram( it annoyed me cause I was trying to even get in her pants) just seems

Now I don't think I'm ugly but it's bugging me, my friends will neve recommend me, or other girls don't call out me just from seeing a picture the same way they do him. Starting to knock my confidence. I feel a bit bitter I won't lie, now they want me to set her up with him. Hate explaining stories over here because they often get misinterpreted but you should kinda get a rough gist

I felt like this a long time ago. You have to realize that there are so many differences between you and other people that you can't compare yourself to another person. So what if he get's one girl? That's why we stress finding other girls and things to do. I have already typed it feels a dozen times that this girl I slept with thinks I'm very attractive but she doesn't want to be with me in any other way. Does it frustrate me? Sure somewhat, but I don't go around weeping and crying every day and being depressed bc of it or let it stop me from making myself the best I can. I just found another sexy Asian girl and fucked her last night in a hotel room.

There will always be people better than you in some way and focusing on that does no good for you. Guess what even if you had a billion dollars, you still suck and should be depressed bc Bill Gates has you beat. You're also forgetting there are probably 3 x as many people worse off than you in some way or another. Therefore that should negate just this one guy's "better looking" than you right? Dude, go watch the documentary food chains, and then tell me your depressed and have no self esteem about life bc one dude gets a girl over you or follows his instagram. Farm workers working 8 hour days making 40$ can't even afford a place to fucking live and can barely eat... You'll really feel fucking silly then.

Also, when your mind focuses on shit like this, it makes it even worse. You are letting it affect you so much that other people will feel that energy from you and you will behave like it's true. Another reason to focus on other things like improving yourself and make yourself the best person you can. Useless to worry about some other person's status compared to yours.

Sure, it's way easier to blame your Bro, Family members, work associates, the girl, than is to own up to your responsibility.

Teenage girls get depressed hoping for a life filled with knights in shining armor, pony's, and rainbows. Then get stuck living in a trailer court, with a smokers hack, stretch marks, and to curtain climbers.

Men build their lives out of dust and ashes, to rise and conquer.

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Comparing IS the ego. Drop comparing and the ego is removed from the equation. So simply drop comparing. Yes it is that easy.

You continually speak of women in the social circle. Read what I stated about expanding your horizons.

A lot of platitudes here, but reality is reality.

Right now, your dude is outshining you. Cut carbs and begin an agressive weight training program and do it for life.

Less tv, more literature and music. You can beat your competition by improving your physical appearance and your mind.

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Never consider, have a mindset that you are inferior to other guys. When you stop comparing, you start to win.

I know this is PUA forum, but stop chasing girls, stop thinking about them for a while and build your life and surround yourself with people who share your desires and dreams and people who think alike.

You will later attract women naturally, I believe women can sense a loser or a guy with low self esteem a mile away by simply talking to you for 10 seconds.

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You hating on how attractive he is, isn't going to make you any less ugly. Why don't you quit bitching and take some notes? Not literally but you could obviously learn a thing or two from the guy.

What can you emulate about him?

He's quite a touch person even as soon as he meets you, he breaks boundaries from the off. Really good at "day game" (he's a natural so don't think he's too aware of this l) but night game he could do better.

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