Okey lads. I've been talking to and been on two dates with this girl since christmas. Last date we made out alot and she showed all signs of attraction. Found excuses for me to touch her, huge pupils, always as near me as possible. she remembers things i've talked about this past summer (i will get back to this). didnt want to let me go when we parted and kissed me good bye. the days after the last date her texts were full of smileys (more than usual) but then suddenly she did a complete 180 and said she just wanted to be friends. then she said it was because she didnt want a relationship. I just answered "okey". I dont know what happened, i could swear she was way into me then suddenly this?

We did run into a friend of hers on our last date who asked about what we were. the girl said that we were friends with a laugh then added that she thinks she knows where the relationship is headed though. after that we made out.

My question is: what can I do to continue to go on dates? I dont want to be just friends. A side note is that we did date for a litte while this past summer (had sex and all) but then she moved, not too far away but we drifted apart anyway but started to talk again this christmas.

So if you have history you might as well have asked her to explain herself.
I would've simply replied "Any particular reason you feel this way?"

I mean if you're gonna say "okay" and not give a fuck, then you genuinely must not give a fuck. But you obviously do since you wanna keep dating her.

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Ah, sorry the conversation went like this:

Me asking her out to do this thing we talked about on that last date just a couple of days earlier
She: I only want to be friends. Do you still want to hang out?
Me: how so?
She: I dont want a relationship
Me: Okey

I still don't understand the prerogative of "it's either a relationship, or friends".

Who said anything about relationship?

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I don't see a reason why you shouldn't continue to date her. She just wants to have fun, who knows where this relationship will lead.

Go with the flow.

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Yeah I dont understand where this is coming from. We've been on two dates (barring our history this past summer) and she throws this.

What do I tell her? Frame it like she's being way to quick to think about stuff like that?

Frame it? there's no need to frame it as if she's jumping the gun, because she is jumping the gun.
Who the hell thinks relationship after two dates?

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Lots of people. Actually I'd say most people. At least down here where I am that's common. Especially with the younger crowd. You have to be very upfront about the whole "not looking for a relationship right now" thing.

Very common in younger, attractive women. It's a test to sniff out the needy early on. These kinds of women will create needy situations and see how the men react.

Don't bring it up again and just have fun with her.

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So do I say something "lets just hang out and get to know eachother"?

And ex probably came into her life man. I wouldn't stress about it. You can definitely pull again and again so long as you don't get wrapped up in this losses.

On a side note though: if a chick gets the vibe from you that you will be devastated(come running to a forum) if she leaves you or friend zones you and/or that you will still want her if she leaves you or friend zones you, she now has the power to play that card if she chooses. Meaning you will be on the back burner if someone else comes into her life that she doesn't have that power with.

She has you where she wants you; desiring her without her having to give you anything you want in exchange. Why give you what you want when she's already winning without doing so?

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Yeah I understand. I'm not devasted but I get your point. It shouldn't affect me as much as it does (seeing as im on a forum writing about it).

But I'm more pragmatic so I'm looking for more handson advice. What do I tell her? Should I say nothing? How can I pull again?

I'm guessing you had sex during summer and since reconnecting have just been making out. Sounds like things were moving backwards.

I have many hustles, and a key action in hustling is: do nothing.

The "right answer" is do nothing; because talking about your 'relationship status' does nothing in reality.

When you get to my status (not even that advanced) you will find you don't want to be in a relationship with a women. I just want to have sex with women. A relationship means I am on the hook for more shit I don't want to deal with.

You're not serious are you?

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