But she's unhappy with him for the most part. Its that type of 3 year ltr thing where things are iffy.

Anyway, Ive been flirting with her for some time. We see each other every day because college, and hangout for breaks and lunch. First time we 'hooked up' was at a party, both drunk. Couple of other times that followed were also at parties and whatever. We didn't have proper sex, since LMR. By proper sex I mean intercourse. However she did give me a BJ, I returned the favor, bla bla.

For the past few weeks however I really stepped up the sexual tension which resulted in sober, intense makeouts. She basically isolated herself with me repeatedly when she couldn't take it anymore. Sexting followed, with her eventually confessing she thought multiple times about the first night I was depicting to her.

Problem is her logical side is starting to guilt it up. Last week she said something along the lines of "you have a girl, I have someone too, so maybe we should stop this. What we're doing is not ok". She was being half serious half cheeky.
Granted about 1 hour later she was again all over me. Then I wanted to leave and she said "Kiss me again, last time". So I leaned in, and then pulled back just before our lips touched and told her "No", with a smirk.
Later I just told her it's cute how she's trying to overcome her feelings with logic and wished her good luck with that.
I am seeing someone too btw, but not exclusively.

Dilemma is, I want this girl. I don't really know why, maybe it's the chase. But god damn do I want her. I also know how I handle her statement is crucial, in the sense that I can't become reactive to it. But how would the more experienced than me people handle this?

Keep doing what I was doing and more or less disregard her logical protests? She's a bit of a conservative, and 26 if it's relevant.

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Is this the same girl from half a year ago?

Edit: nevermind, checked myself, that was a co-worker. You really have a knick for shitting where you eat huh? Don't worry, I do it too.
I'm on the phone now so I'll reply later and hopefully won't forget.

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Well you definitely owe Heywood a beer OP.

Anyway, How do you know? Did she say that?
Well, there you have it. Words are meaningless. Actions are what matter. The things is OP, when women in relationships cheat more often than not that relationship has already ended in their mind. Some are looking for fun, others for an upgrade. She seems to be looking for an upgrade, and sees that in you. And I'm willing to bet she poked the subject of how seriously you take her at least a few times.

In my opinion this is pretty crystal clear. Her bf is quickly becoming irrelevant and she's starting to grow roots on you. And she knows that fucking you is essentially the reaper's scythe's final slash on her relationship.

So yeah, keep doing what you're doing. Keep in mind though that you may encounter some resistance. It's just like people who suddenly decide that from now on they're on a diet. They'll probably stand their ground if there's no junkfood in sight, at least for a while, but if you wave a slice of pizza in front of them they can only say no about 2 times before they eat all 8 of them.

I'd ask her out for a glass of wine. Tell her it'll be white, because red is for dates only. Then when you get there order the red wine like the cheeky motherfucker you are and take the first sip in my name.

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