Hello MPUA Nation,

Hope everyone is doing well. About two weeks ago everything was fine and dandy leading up to Christmas. The GF of 10 years was coming home in 2 weeks after being gone for 1.5 years, work was going well, I'm fit, got money, everything's good..... Boom out of nowhere as I planned on speaking with my gf on Watsaap she ends it with me. Now before I go into why she was in England and what had happened ill give you a quick break down of our past.

Past: I met this girl when I was 13 years old (high school), Were now 26. I liked her best friend at the time and we ended up clicking right then and there. We dated for a year in grade 9 and I ended up cheating on her with her best friend. We had a small break and she had her fun with random guys to get back at me(including my best friends lol) but eventually we decided hey we love each other, lets stop this. After that we were good until grade 12. I went away for soccer for two years where I was about an hour drive from her but we would see each other on weekends and talk on the phone every night. For two years we were perfect and we were both faithful and felt like we could take on anything. We made it through cheating in high school and then a 2 year long distance relationship. I came home in 2010 and then finished school while being with her for another 5 years. Everything was perfect and we both felt like we were best friends and did everything together. She graduated college about 1.5 years ago and wanted to travel, this was always the plan. She finished her education in teaching and thought it would be cool if she found a place where she could get paid room and board while gaining teaching experience, well guess what she found one. She was so sared to go but got offered a gig with teaching experience in England for 1.5 years. I obviousley didnt want her to go but it didnt feel right to not let her have this amazing experience because of me. I also didnt think anything of it because I knew nothing could change what we had. Well that 1.5 years was coming to an end in 4 days from now and last week she called me and broke up with me....

Her reasons for wanting it to end and my responses:

- I never wanted to hang out with her family as they wanted me to come over every single day. I had stayed at their cabin for weeks on end, even babysat their dog so they new me well enough. I admit I wasn't adamant on coming over everyday. The thing was back in the day when we broke up in high school this was a major issue so i worked on it to make her feel better and it got better. Overtime it went back to normal but she never brought it to my attention, not even once or I would have reached out to the family more. So this excuse felt like B.S to me as I would have worked on it.

- She said I never even came out to see her in Europe....I honestly had financially been drained here for family reasons and couldn't get away. She had never once mentioned she even wanted me too though. We have always been good with communication so for her not too say anything doesnt make any sense. I admit because we had an 8 hour time difference it was tough to SPAM and always be on top of things but I made sure to say I love you and goodnight everytime I went to bed. I even said Ill come out right now on December 27th, I was ready to go. She said it wouldnt have changed anything and is too late.

- I asked did you meet anyone, and she said no. I think she would be honest with me as all the cards were on the table and I didnt feel like she would lie to me like that.

- She said she has changed so much and doesn't think she will make me happy, whatever the fuck that means. Did she gain 40 lb?

Our ending of the conversation was her saying how much she still loves me and Im her best friend and she still thinks we should talk. Of course because I fucking love her I was like yah thats a great idea blah blah blah, I'm dumb I know. So the next couple days ago by and im trying to be the bubbly guy and happy/jokey person she always loved hoping she will fall back with me when she gets home which will be 3 days from now. Then one night I'm like fuck this are u kidding me, I waited this long being faithful when I had pussy thrown at me every weekend....so I wrote an email to her addressing all her statements. She responded the next day with a long one back saying at the end, I didn't want to say this because it seems harsh but I just don't love you anymore. Well truthfully its what I needed to hear to stop talking to her. So I pretty much say okay well i hope you have a great rest of your trip and happy new year/xmas and if you want to be friend when u get home the ball is in your court and you can contact me..i know gave her all the power lol, dumb again. So we don't talk up until new years i'm out with the boys shit faced when she send me a message saying happy new year and i hope your having a good day. My phone dies which is actually good or I probably would have called her and did something stupid. So I make out with a couple chicks that night and feel a bit better. Join tinder and am feeling a bit better but i'm obviously still crushed. I read the : How to text your ex back" and was thinking of doing this but not too sure yet.

She gets home on January 8th and I have two sides telling me what to do. The first one says this dumb bitch, I waited for 1.5 years and she had the selfishness to end things two weeks before she comes home. Doesn't she realize she has been in a different world for 1.5 years and things will change drastically when she gets home.....And I want to fuck girls and go so Hard as a motherfucker chasing pussy that I will never think of this girl again. Than the other side of me says you need to chill, your hurt and emotional. Give it time and then come back as friends as i don't want to throw away 10 years of life with someone. Should I start texting her some across the bow text to start winning her back because I'm sure she will feel different when we actually see each other. Or do I say fuck you i'm taking my time away from you and not even saying have a safe flight home or welcome home like I already said I would before. I still feel hurt but I also do missing just talking to her as my friend.............. ......we were best friends for ten fucking years. Any advise that's actually helpful is appreciated. From one man to another I thank you.

This is the best Ex advice out there.

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This is good stuff. Thank you for the response. I know i shouldn't be even texting her...... she'scatching her flight back home tonight and iIsaid have a safe flight. After reading the article iI'mlprettymuch at my last wits end and somehow want her to know that iI'mnot going to be waiting around. Not ssureif iIsshouldleave it with silence or say something so she knows iI'mnot going to be here ppissedaabout. Thoughts?

Isn't it time she wondered what you are up to? Let HER wonder.

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Your right. As bad as i want to talk to her i know that I shouldn't. Thanks for the reassurance bro.

Good, and go ahead and feel free to go out, get drunk, and bang a 24 YO receptionist.

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That article is all you need. Choice is yours to either abide by it and push through the tough time, or let your urges control you and text her, and end up in a repeating shitstorm of emotion where you will never be the winner.

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It's a long time to be in a relationship. One of two things happened:

1. She met someone else while away
2. She doesn't want to marry you/thinks she can do better

Either way, it doesn't really matter. It seems her mind is pretty much made up, which means that you should follow the advice given, cut communication, go meet other women, and get the rest of your life (including finances) on track. Its going to hurt for a long time, but you'll get over it eventually.

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Thanks for the comment man. Yah Ihad originally thought she met someone but she said no when i asked. Truthfully marriage was never reallyan important concept to her or to me so i don't think that really meant anything. I do though believe she ultimately stopped loving me for a bunch of reasons. I have definitely decided to follow everyone's advice and have no communication. She'scoming back today and iI'mjust going to leave it be. Thanks again for taking the time braaa

Nothing but the truth.

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Haha is that sarcasm. I dunno I guess she coukd by lying but the all the cards were on the table. What'syour tthoughts in fostering any type of friendship long term? Part of me just wants to be friends in the future and the other part of me says screw this chick and just say see ya later. The fact it was 10 years makes me feel like iIshould atleast try to be friends ionce the emotions dry up.

those emotions aren't gonna dry up for a loooooonnnngggg time my friend. you might be able to be friends but it's gonna be years past and miles of pipe laid before then.

look it's clear you want her back, but the only thing you have to bargain with at this point is your presence. you need to cut this chick off.... dry out... date..... tinder, match, okcupid, go out with your friends....

give yourself at least 4months to get your head straight before you answer her back..... she needs to BELIEVE you are G-O-N-E

p.s. if you keep it up she's gonna turn you into a satellite and fuck other dudes in your face

Yea I still want her back....I think. Let me explain; I think that because I always want what I dont/cant have at the moment, it makes me want her back. Weird thing is though, when I actually dive into how the relationship was and think about it, before she left, I realized I cant give 2 shits about some of the relationship stuff (dinners, hanging out every night when I have other things to do). The part that I miss is the actual friendship side and joking around and being able to talk to someone other than my boys and then hooking up with her. If she came home and we just fuck, and we joke around I would be cool with that lol. Truthfully after about a week now of being single the girls I hooked up with are hotter, its the the ability to have someone there that I miss, you know?

But my gut and comments from here know the right thing to do is to not text her. But my next question is when she texts me and she will, She is going to get home and start going through her own grieving from our break up because the whole travelling Europe high is gone. Should I just play game on her and hook up with her, because I think that would be ideal or should I actually give her some wiggle room because we were together for so long.

Yea i'm definitely not texting her when she gets home or have been since i joined this forum. My question is should I be open to texting her when gets in touch with me probably in a week or so once she gets home. As mentioned in my last post I'm on the fence on being open to seeing what she has to say or just playing game on her and hopefully turning this into a fuck buddy.