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PostPosted: Fri Jan 22, 2016 5:03 am 
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i have a date with this girl yesterday but in the evening she suddenly called me and ask me if its possible to change the date to some other times . she suggest friday but i am busy that time so i just told her that its ok and i understand that she is busy . i really wanted to meet her again and she agree to be out this sunday .

i am hanging out with my friends yesterday night , and i accidentally saw her in this pub with another guy . she cancel the date that we had agree on last week for this guys . i keep it cool and when i got home i cancel the sunday date with her . i plan on not seeing anymore and move on to other girls .

am i doing the right things ? if its wrong pls give some light .
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PostPosted: Fri Jan 22, 2016 5:50 am 
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it depends what your intentions are. But in any case if you don't know her well than I wouldn't get upset, this other guy may have just appeared as a more attractive option based on any random fact, but she may decide you are a better option after your date. By cancelling your date you just lost that opportunity by letting your ego get ahead of your penis.


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PostPosted: Fri Jan 22, 2016 8:08 am 
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Thank detox for the insight .

I really wanted her to be my girlfriend , but after this incident i felt that she is playing game as well. Its fine for me if she is dating someone else. I am just not happy that she change our meeting time so that she can meet up with some other guys . She dont respect the time that i had given to her and why should i spend time with someone like that ? i thought this is a value as a man ? or should i just be a wuss and date her any way and letting her treating me like that ? I just dont felt like being a second , third or maybe last option to her

I guess i am confuse the different between what is it to be a man and my ego . what i felt is that really ego


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PostPosted: Fri Jan 22, 2016 2:55 pm 
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Thank detox for the insight .

I really wanted her to be my girlfriend , but after this incident i felt that she is playing game as well. Its fine for me if she is dating someone else. I am just not happy that she change our meeting time so that she can meet up with some other guys . She dont respect the time that i had given to her and why should i spend time with someone like that ? i thought this is a value as a man ? or should i just be a wuss and date her any way and letting her treating me like that ? I just dont felt like being a second , third or maybe last option to her

I guess i am confuse the different between what is it to be a man and my ego . what i felt is that really ego
1. She has no obligation to meet with you. That's truth. You obviously haven't established a significant connection with her (your fault, not hers) so why should she not rearrange if she has a better option?
2. Next time, don't get too caught up with women who you haven't progressed significantly with. I'm guessing that you haven't had sex with her (correct me if I'm wrong).
3. Meet multiple women yourself. Don't put all your hopes on one UNLESS they're willing to do the same for you.


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PostPosted: Fri Jan 22, 2016 5:13 pm 
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Again it depends on what your intentions are but in any case there isn't much downside in going out with her, just know she may be a flaky character of poor character. As the other poster said you are investing too much value and ego in some random, fairly unknown girl. In any case I bet you need more dating experience so if nothing else use your date to try out some new dating techniques. Just take her for cheap beer, no dinners


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Thank detox for the insight .

I really wanted her to be my girlfriend , but after this incident i felt that she is playing game as well. Its fine for me if she is dating someone else. I am just not happy that she change our meeting time so that she can meet up with some other guys . She dont respect the time that i had given to her and why should i spend time with someone like that ? i thought this is a value as a man ? or should i just be a wuss and date her any way and letting her treating me like that ? I just dont felt like being a second , third or maybe last option to her

I guess i am confuse the different between what is it to be a man and my ego . what i felt is that really ego
1. She has no obligation to meet with you. That's truth. You obviously haven't established a significant connection with her (your fault, not hers) so why should she not rearrange if she has a better option?
2. Next time, don't get too caught up with women who you haven't progressed significantly with. I'm guessing that you haven't had sex with her (correct me if I'm wrong).
3. Meet multiple women yourself. Don't put all your hopes on one UNLESS they're willing to do the same for you.
Thank you for breaking down all this for me . Yeah i havent had sex with her , not even holding her hand. I think the 3rd one is what i should do . meet more women and have more option .


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PostPosted: Sat Jan 23, 2016 5:51 am 
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Again it depends on what your intentions are but in any case there isn't much downside in going out with her, just know she may be a flaky character of poor character. As the other poster said you are investing too much value and ego in some random, fairly unknown girl. In any case I bet you need more dating experience so if nothing else use your date to try out some new dating techniques. Just take her for cheap beer, no dinners
Thank again for the insight .
yeah i think i must have more experience . I will date her out again . I will work on leaving my ego as well . any good books or materials for my current state ?


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Detox said it right, you lost your shot because of your hurt ego.

Who knows who this other guy was? Maybe it was her late cousin of something, it's not important.

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I really wanted her to be my girlfriend

Is telling me you have no other options SPAM so it makes you really clingy from the start. Maybe that's why she cancelled in the first place. Women feel that shit bro.

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Why does she deserve to be your girlfriend? That's good you didn't try to confront her at the pub with the other guy. You don't know the whole situation. What if she already had plans with him? What if he is an old friend, etc.? You should game a lot more girls to develop an abundance mentality and screen for girls you actually want to spend more time with.

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You don't consider women you haven't even had sex with yet potential girlfriends. Ever. You just don't do that.

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yeah you are going to want to flush that girl out of your life like a morning deuce

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Yeah man.

I don't even understand why a guy would give a fuck about seeing a girl again that waste his time and flakes when he doesn't even know her. Stop letting these women waste your time, they're not worth it. And the more willing you are to cut them off for bullshit the more they respect your attitude and give you less bullshit to put up with. You have to know your value. Don't let a girl play with you time just because she is attractive. Give em a foot and they'll take you a mile.

Learn to drop women who aren't behaving up to standard and you will begin attracting more women who are.

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