So this girl is a 9.5 . She's in a rocky LTR of seven years and lives with her boyfriend. I last had sex with her last summer, and she cried on my chest and asked me to commit to her/move in. She is a spoiled brat and has men constantly kissing her ass because she looks like a hybrid of a 30's starlet and French porn star.

A month ago or so she sent me a drunk hook up text when I had company.

I see her occasionally at my favorite restaurant where she tends bar. Three weeks ago I was in there with a date, and she got extremely jealous. My date remarked at how the girl "threw the plate at me". It was humorous at the time.

Two weeks ago I walked past the upper level bar and ignored her. An hour later, on my way back through, she glared at me and said "What are you doing? Why are you sitting down there?" in a super bitchy voice in front of a full bar. One of the male patrons then proceeded to mock her, which made others laugh and the girl turn red.

Yesterday I'm at the bar catching up on some papers and drinking coffee. She looks hurt from the previous time, so I ask her how her 2015 was. We start flirting, and then I leave.

An hour later when her shift ends, I get a call from her which I don't take right away. She doesn't leave a message. I call back in 20 minutes (I don't leave a message), and haven't heard shit since.

Feels like a shit test to me.

I fucked an 8.5 the previous night, so I'm not too bothered. I would just like to spend time with this girl again.

Edit: the girl I'm seeing now loves women, too, and the bartender is also bi. I truly think they'd hit it off. Potential for threesome is there.

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It honestly hurts my eyes when I see all these numbers being thrown around. Is this like a self-horn tooting thing or what?

I would really love it if you explained to me though how this can possibly feel like a "shit test".

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I don't know, man. That's why I posted it.

Can you explain why you think it's not a shit test? I'd sincerely appreciate your opinion on what she's doing.

For whatever reason, this girl has an effect like octopus ink on me....clouds my brain.

As far as the numbers, it's to provide context. Typically, extremely beautiful women can cause men to lose frame.

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Lol I really don't get why guys like to play games with chicks like this. You called her back... I would just leave the ball in her court.

Stop rating girls on a scale of 1-10 btw. It's weird.

You remind me of myself when I was deciphering every girls actions or no actions as shit test. It's not. You said she's living with her boyfriend, maybe that's why she couldn't answer (just a thought).

Wait a day and call her tomorrow morning again.

I normally don't have anything against going for girls who are in relationships but she's also living with her boyfriend?

I smell trouble, trouble, trouble...

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Okay, reading the responses brought clarity. Had I picked up her call on the 3rd or 4th ring, she's probably blowing me an hour later.

Instead, I "froze her out" the way a coach freezes the opposing field goal kicker. I gave her time to think about the ramifications of what she was doing, and she went home to her boyfriend.

Damn. Uneccessary game playing, overthinking, etc.

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I've said this a million times, but instead of pretending to be busy, actually BE busy. And if you're not when she happens to call/text, fucking answer.

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I was busy, and in the past I fucked up by being way too available for this girl, thus the overthinking.

But I do agree with your sentiment. She's calling me to fuck after her shift, and I'm "icing her" like an idiot and making her analyze the situation for 20 minutes and the threat I am to her LTR.

Dumb indeed.

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"Too available" is the guy who never has plans, or cancels his already made plans for her.

Other than that, the speed at which you reply / answer has nothing to do with it in an age where people practically live on their smartphones.

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Come on man.

This is easy.

Just leave her alone for a lil bit. She'll rear her head again. I personally would ignore her next attempt at contact and leave her to intimate a second time. Its risky, but if she bites it'll pay off.

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Agreed.

I'm avoiding that restaurant, but it seems when I pop in there it "reminds" her and she reaches out. She does not call me to chat or play Scrabble. But she's used to guys picking up the phone on the first ring and calling back within a minute.

Still, the ball is in her court and I'm backing off.

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LOL, a missed call is now a shit test.

Agree is previous, if she's really interested shell get back in contact, if not she wont. All you have to do is carry on about your life.

She's back.

Went to the bar last night to grab some food and work on emails.

She gets off her shift upstairs, then comes and sits next to two guy co-workers at the lower bar. I ignore her and catch her staring at me a few times. I follow the "women are like cats" advice, let them chase you, etc. Eventually she comes over with her drink and says hello.

There's a lot of tension, and she's buzzed. She starts tearing into me, telling my I have a huge ego, that she doesn't like my haircut. She punches my arm and I accused her playfully of using it as an excuse to touch me. Meanwhile, she's getting closer.

I ask her why she's so nervous. She laughs. Then I tell her she's being a nag. She tells me to "get over myself". It's fairly tense for fifteen minutes, and then she walks away. Most of the time we talked she's stroking her beer glass like a dick.

I leave the bar and an hour later get novels of texts, her apologizing, saying she just likes to joke around and that I'm talented, etc. She then asks me "what I'm doing right now?". I say listening to music.

This girl freezes me for some reason. I don't push the meet up. So we talk about fucking politics and say goodnight.

She texts me first thing this am with a political photo. I get a text from another girl saying "good morning handsome" and don't care at all.

Any other girl I go in for the meet, without hesitation.

There's advice out there that if a girl contacts you, assume she wants to see you and arrange a meet. Not sure in this case.

Coffee is for closers only.

I feel like wimp for not closing, but we have a tumultuous history, and she has a live-in boyfriend. She's chasing me right now, so why not let her chase, right?

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Dude seriously what is it with you and the stupid fucking games?
This literally translates to: "GOD PLEASE JUST LEAD THIS INTERACTION TO SOMEPLACE YOU CAN FUCK ME".

Capslock and all.

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