Heya,

To get straight to the point, i'm 25- nearly 26 (3 weeks). I'm sexually inexperienced, 3 girls- 1 was a one night stand and i was atrocious. 2-3 and was about that... 2-3 times and never heard back. Since then i've studied sex (2gts- sex god d rose) and i've recently spent a good week with this chick. We had sex and the first time i'd had some drinks, maybe 5-6. I thought this would un-knot any inhibitions and make me relaxed. Anyways, we were making out and having fun, i was hard.

I decided to go down on her as my friend told me to go down on a chick and she'd want you to get it in. So low and behold she literally told me to fuck her. I was limp and couldn't get another erection for some reason. Conclusion: I fingered and cunnilingus till she orgasmned. -Stayed the night, couldn't sleep for fear of snoring atrociously.

I tried another time with the aid of some drugs to keep me hard from a sex shop. It didn't help i stayed hard for 10 minutes, lost my erection and two minutes later i was back at it for 15 minutes and went soft again. The end. I wanted to keep fucking for a good 40 minutes straight, without going limp.

I don't know why but she keeps messaging me about when i'm going to see her again. As i'm sexually inexperienced i want to get some miles on the odometer and she's sexy as well.

I've gone crazy wanting to know if it's performance anxiety or porn induced erectile disfunction and how to fix it? I mean i had aid from a drug and couldn't keep hard. How do i proceed? I want to see her again in a couple of weeks, like i said to get miles on the odometer.

Any help would be appreciated.

Thanks

You know that answer to this question already.

Pressure retards the mind. It causes stress and anxiety, whether these are one in the same is besides the point. The point is, you're stressing too much about your performance during sex that you're not able to have sex at all. Your enthusiasm is being substituted with apathy, and you can't get hard because you don't want to seem like a failure. The same idea around approach anxiety.

You have to relax. Let yourself become aroused by her. Don't worry about ejaculating too early because mid-sex there are techniques you can use to prevent yourself from cumming to early. You should have learned this techniques from TGTS (see Superman Stamina).

Also, stop masturbating so much and watching porn. You're expectations of women are probably unrealistic especially during sex, and you've lost the motivation or the likelihood of being stimulated by realistic sex. You probably expect fake boobs and an overly eager girl lying in your bed, and when you don't get it you're not as excited.

The main thing is you're stressing too much, overthinking and creating anxiety.

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Thanks man, i will try this technique.

Cheers.

Yeah man don't worry about this. She's into you, you've given her orgasms, so RELAX and let time work it's magic.

What Elijah said - if you're masturbating, then cut it out. Completely.

The next time you have sex, relax, don't drink more than 1-2 drinks, and have fun. If you do go limp, don't worry, just focus on pleasuring her, and when you get back up, then get back to it.

You may also want to try different positions. Assuming you're using condoms, try some that give you the "natural feel" Savor the moment and don't worry about not "performing" because sex is so much more than just how long you've shoved your penis inside of her.

Hey, congrats sexual inexperienced guy, you made her cum. Now chill the fuck out. Sexual experience helps, but being smart helps more.

You could be lifting weights for 5 years, if your form is shit you're not doing it right. If you're not seeing results, you're not doing it right. Point is, experience is not an indicator of success.

I had a friend who was a virgin and finally fucked a girl. I know her. She legit told me he was the best she ever had. She's oblivious to the fact the she was his first, but that just goes to show being a bit smart will take you a long way.

Anyway, stop masturbating like a wild dog and also stop watching porn all together. You'll start noticing results sooner than you expect.

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If its porn induced erectile disfunction, you fix it by discontinuing your porn watching and your masturbation. And those cheap sex shop drugs will mess you up. I'd advise against them.

Now, It could be all in your head, because she's hot and you want to impress, but she could have whats called a dead vagina man. Its been sometime but I have been with attractive women who's vagina was just loose and almost cold which resulted in something similar to what you stated here.

Do you feel anxious before the act? If so, breathe.. Deep breathe. And don't just deep breathe when the girl is at your place; start deep breathing hours before she even gets there. Anxiety can only exist in a body thats taking shorter and rapid breaths. And by the time the girl is already there, the rapidness of the breathing is often too intense to try and control in that moment. So practice breathing, that will also greatly extend the amount of time you can last in the sack.

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I'm 99% sure that a combination of possibly masturbation and having too much to drink fucked up OP the first time, the second time it was probably a combination of nerves and unrealistic expectations.

Hey,

Thanks everyone for taking the time to reply. I'll adhere to everyone's advice with the superman stamina and stop the porn.

Cheers.

Eddie,

No, she didn't have a dead vagina, (i just googled it) she was really wet and responded well.

Thinking about your breathing correct theory though. Maybe something there. Any advice?