Hollywood movies are just that - Hollywood movies. Pieces of fiction with maybe a hint of reality.
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he always recommends going in with a mindset of not thinking of sleeping with he girl as girls can smell agenda from far away.
TBQH that is some of the worst pickup advice i have ever heard. I cannot even put in to words how off that advice is.
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Should I actually do think like that "no i just want to hang out and have some fun; maybe even befriend her".
No. You need to demonstrate in a socially calibrated manner that you are a man whose intentions are most definitely not to become her bff. You do this through your eye contact, body language, kino, tonality. They are extremely intuitive and they know. If she rejects, she rejects; at least you'll know and won't be wasting your time barking up the wrong tree.
You've got enough friends (I am assuming), you are not interested in her as purely a friend. You like what you see in this girl and you're going to have a chat with her and see if she is cool enough to hang out with you. Over 90% of the communicating of your intent will be nonverbal.
Women WANT to be desired by a man whom they also desire.
Find some pickup guy to follow on Youtube who you resonate with. Follow his techniques and you'll be much further ahead than you otherwise would be. Save netflixing the PUA films for entertainment purposes.