So today I was on a first date with smoking hot SMART girl. First we went on coffee,than for a long walk. Problem: she is sophisticated and I couldn't get her to laugh hard,only few times. She doesn't giggle, when I opened a door for her- she just said thank you,no "how sweet" or giggling. Like she was expecting it.

My behaviour: laser eye contact, confident posture, my voice could be a bit louder but it was ok. I took a loot of space during sitting, was leading the date... there where few shit tests,I just ignored it, but I could not just say something like "look,there is a chair" in a funny way- because she doesn't laugh to that

Touching: I wanted to show her something so I pulled out my hand and said: "Come on", she said: "what?" Me: "give me your hand!" so I pulled her. Few times I touched her back and at the end of the date I stopped,looked at her,pulled her- and kissed her few times.

So, what is this?? I haven't dated few years so I'm not that skilled. I think it went ok, she alloved me to kiss her.. but how to game that smart girls??

What did I do wrong,I tried to be funny but I realised she doesn't laught to some nonscence.. but she was talking a lot and I could get her to laugh from time to time... I wasn't awkward- just not all fun. Still, we kissed.

Please give me some advice
Thank you!

Dude, humor is important, but it's also very contrasted. Personally I don't find that comment funny at all. But you do.
Some people love sarcasm, other love puns. Other love wordplay.
Point is, every functional human being is capable of at least some humor, so if she isn't picking up on it, it's simply due to incompatibility. That or you're straight up unfunny and awkward.
Did you hold her door just to have her tell you how "sweet" you are for doing so? wtf?
Will she also "allow" you to have sex with her?
The point of a date isn't to get "permission" to kiss her. What's with the beggar mentality?

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I hold her door not because of that- but it was expected.
Well, I haven't dated 4 years!! Of course I search help here.. I just don't know how to position myself with her. She is more classy,hates drinking,smoking and clubs. Listenes to jazz- she is similar to me.
What is your advice?

Chill the fuck out and try to hold a decent convo while just enjoying being there.

Be careful not to come across too try hard cause you're definitely trying to make her laugh etc...

Just relax, take your time, ask interesting questions, listen, open yourself up too and keep pushing forward.

Not all girls need humor etc to like you. Just try and enjoy being there.

No reason for you to start entertaining here, you are good enough the way you are.

Hope this helps. U got this (y)

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My advice is to stop trying to get reactions out of her. You kissed her. That's a decent start. Now stop mindfucking yourself into making stupid mistakes.

You don't need to mold your personality so that it fits her. You're either compatible or you're not. And if she shares similar interests, chances are you are.

Chill, take her out again and have fun.

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