I've been into game for over a year now and have started to wonder if this works.. How many of you guys out there have made a cold approach (on a good looking girl) during day game and proceeded to get a date and start a relationship or at least have sex with her. Most people I talk to say they've met their girlfriend through the internet, an event, the bar or mutual friends.. The idea of it seems so difficult to me, approaching a girl who has her own friends, her own social network and guys trying to court her. It seems unlikely to me she'd choose a stranger she JUST met at a Kroger and start dating him. Has anyone tried Match? However, after 5 years of online dating I've gotten burnt out on that scene.

Further more, I'm sure this is a repeated question but if you have any openers that work for you or are really simple, do suggest them. I have my doubts as to rather or not game works or if it's for me but I do take some of the blame for not making approaches like I should. Over half the time I stay stuck in approach anxiety and say nothing and at others I manage to get a few good lines in before the convo deteriorates into awkwardness and I ask for her number.

I can confidently say I'm a very good looking guy, facial features and all. I also have a six pack. I get date opportunities from fat girls (albeit nice people) but the physical attraction isn't there.. There are two fat girls in my phone as we speak, I could set up a date with either of them tonight but I don't have the drive or want to do so... Even the girls find it odd.. I'd have enough for a steak dinner if I had a dollar for every time I've heard "you're so good looking (or something), why do you want to be with me?' Sometimes I think there's something wrong with me because I refuse to hook up with these kind of girls.

I'm basically a virgin. I slept with a fat girl a few times but it was so enthralling I didn't even obtain climax and have begun contemplating purchasing the service of an escort just so for ONE night, ONE time I can experience true pleasure.

Also.. I know this isn't THAT kind of site but has anyone ever tried using a form of sorcery or magick to attract a partner? I'm seriously getting that desperate.

Ur just making up bullshit and excuses. Stop being a pussy.

Openers do not matter. It's opening that matters.

Are these girls ugly? If ur not attracted then thats propbably why. If ur fapping a lot stop that too.

The reason ur a virgin is ur first paragraph.

Sorcery or magic to attract a partner sounds stupid.

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What the actual fuck???

Game works Look at the LR section. Stop making excuses.

I am seeing a girl that i met on the outside my doorstep during the day. I was carrying a loaf of brown bread at the time. I have a phone filled with girls that are not fat, that I met in a bar, clubs, online dating etc.

This took years for me earn. YOU are NOT putting in the required work to obtain this. You just are not. Read this: viewtopic.php?f=6&t=192004

My suggestion months ago was for you to see a therapist, you have the money for it. Don't lie Mr Stripper punter man. But yet, hiring a fucking wizard is your best solution???? You moron

Approach 20 girls a week. You will self correct along the way. Simple as that but you just won't do it, will you?

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Just lol @ hiring a wizard.

OP what the fuck man? If you're a good looking dude approaching will be all the more easy, since more women will be receptive to those aesthetics of yours.
Have you ever been to a club? How old are you?

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@Dragula Come on! The link you gave me basically told me to give up and offered no incite at all.

@R.C. I didn't say I'd hire a wizard. Even though I know I'm good looking I still get very nervous on approaching girls. And what if they don't even make eye contact with you.. Isn't it sort of rude to just interrupt them? And if I decide to do so what do I even say? There's only one real club around here and it attracts the wrong kinda "crowd".. The rest of establishments are just bars. I asked one of my female friends what the "sluttiest bar in town was" and she replied with a very seedy bar in a bad part of town that is known for being rowdy... I also happen to know it's where a few strippers hang out... I have a job that requires me to wake up at 4am, on days off I like to go to bed around the same time as work nights to keep the same circadian rhythm so I don't do much night game/bars and clubs. Plus I never have someone to go with me... I'm 26

Have a look at the guide in my sig for basic questions like "What do I say?" and pretty much every other newbie question you may have.

I don't know why you're complaining about anxiety as if you were the first or last guy to ever experience it. Stepping out of your comfort zone makes you uncomfortable. You and literally every other human being out there.

I get what you're saying about the club attracting the "wrong kind of crowd". I used to live in a small fucked up city. Until I was 18. And then I moved. Also, it's not as bad as you might think. Try it out for once.

However, if you live in a dump, that's your main problem OP. I wouldn't even worry about women at this point. Why the hell would you settle for town that has virtually no social aspects? And what the fuck is up with this "I want the sluttiest bar in town" mentality? If that's the quality of woman you want just hang a $100 bill on a fishing rod and launch it off your balcony.

You seem to lack a sense of self-worth. Or maybe besides your looks you feel like you have nothing of value to bring to a woman's life. You're not very confident in who you are.

Anyway, like I said, read my guide. If you have any questions feel free to ask away, but it answers most of your dilemmas.

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Bro you have to stop.

If that quote is true you have to get on out there before you come to the forum with the sob story.

Go put in some actually work and then come back. And to your question; Yes. It actually works.

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After some reflection, everyone who's saying that I'm not putting enough effort into this is correct. I'm beginning a goal starting today. To approach at least 20 women a week. "Hi", "hello", "how are you doing today" an observational comment preferably, but SOMETHING. It's tough because I live in a village of only 600 people and the nearest Wal-Mart is 25 minutes away.. 35 For the nearest mall, and BOTH gyms I go to are total dude fests Somehow some way though I'm going to approach and at least open to 20 girls a week, until then I'll hold off on the sob story. Thanks guys.

If you read it again and wasn't such a defeatist, you will probably of understood that it was a wake up call that this pick up stuff and is very hard work and very rewarding but only if you put the effort in.

Maybe your last post means there is hope for you. However, moving out of small villages should go without saying. You need volume for you to improve. Not worrying about bumping into the girls you approached yesterday that you freaked out.

To get the volume, you must move to a city that has volumes of women.

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Thanks for the tip. That's tricky though. I live in this small village and work is just 2 minutes away. The pay could be better but there is ample room for promotion. So I'm damned if I stay and damned if I leave. The mall is 35 minutes from here and the closest super retailer is like 25, one way and sometimes the though of the drive is to daunting to even make me want to leave the house.

I personally don't agree with this "go out and approach 20 girls" cause I've been through your same problem with approach anxiety and I tried to overcome it approaching 2 girls per day for 30 days in a row.

On the paper it completely makes sense, but it doesn't work at all.
The secret to get over approach anxiety is to take progressive challenges, having a plan in mind to put you in situations that are increasing in difficulty.
If you do over and over the same thing, you'll get just stuck at the same level you are right now.

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Worked for me.

Naturally humans tend to self correct along the way, pushing the uncomfort zones goes without saying

There is many ways to skin a cat though, the problem is, we know if you're not putting in any volume at the beginner stages then it's gonna fade for most dabblers. There was a guy on this forum that approached 20 girls in 6 years. I really doubt even if he was to approach the smartest way that one could hope to do. I'm sure you will agree taut it's not enough volume to require the skill.

20 a week is just a quick gauge to filter the guys that are do-ers from the don't-ers. Not exactly scientific data. But you obviously turn those 20 a week into smarter approaches gradually. In a sense it's like telling a fat dude to "just get in the gym" instead of reading 3 weeks worth of material on techniques and nutrition. Do that when you're already hitting the gym and putting in the volume.

I'd be surprised that the OP has approached 1 girl at all cold.

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