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back to subject, HOW DOES THE PROTOCOL CHANGE when a girl shows major interest in YOU?
1) I feel like its kind of AFC to just bite the bait and come when she sends those signals. i feel like its making me too available. at the end of the day, I'm the boss and just because she showed interest doesn't mean I'm a lap dog who will come when called. am i totally brain dead wrong when it comes to this? because thats the typical attitude one takes with a chase scenario, but the tables seem flipped when she shows interest and hits on you.
2) i have been in 2 situations like this before but they were a bit different, where girls would hit on me. one situation i F-closed within a few hours but that was my old younger self and she was a slut who was down being taken to a hotel after only a few hours of meeting. other situation made me uncomfortable because this girl was a bit too aggressive, so i ended up peeling out on her and handing her off to a friend. this new girl falls under the "dont dip your pen in company ink" profile, I dont really thing its an ideal target for a quick f-close because chances are very high i will have to see her down the line. Ideally for now, I'm just trying to vibe and see if anythings there, if its not il friend zone her and keep things cordial.
3) what kind of time table should i be approaching with her, do you speed things up and constantly try to re-engage every day? or is it ok to let a situation like this freeze out for a few days? last night i felt like following up after our snap chat and give her some compliments (she was brave enough to snap without her makeup on and i wanted to compliment her, because in our first meeting she talked about how her makeup was only half done and she was very shy)….but i decided not too. i dont want to look thirsty, so i have froze her out since last night.
1) Oh man this reminds me of the guy who denied some poor girl sex just because "every afc would've given in to that". I still feel bad for that girl. Talk about taking it way out of context, lol.
The thing is, people who play games, do so because they're just not enough. So they feel the need to compensate with ridiculous annoyances.
Do you not have a life of your own? What does being "too available" even mean? If you're not doing something, you're available. If you're doing something, you're not available. If you're doing something and immediately drop it for her sake, you don't deserve your genes perpetuated. It's that simple.
And if your aren't happy with the quality of your life, and are "too available" because you have little to nothing going on in your little world, than that's your main problem. That's what you should be focusing on in the first place. Fix that first.
Point is, you should not be
playing hard to get, you should
be hard to get. Because everyone isn't, nor should they be worthy of your time until proven otherwise.
2) The friendzone doesn't exist. First off, you don't friendzone someone. They friendzone themselves. Secondly, "Let's just be friends" is something you say after, by their own actions, or lack there of, the other person categorizes themselves as such. And it's just a polite way of saying "Keep dreaming. This ain't happening". They don't really want to be friends. They just don't want to unnecessarily hurt someone's feelings. Soften the blow.
That being said, what's the point of talking to this woman if there's no interest or potential?
3) Trying being genuine is my advice for you. A compliment is only a compliment when it's authentic. Do you honestly think she's cute without makeup? yes? then for the love of god, let her know it. Honest appreciation will take you a long way.
However, if you're saying it with any sort of hidden agenda, aka to get her to like you, to sulk up to her, to <insert any reason that's not what I mentioned above> and yes, you will come off as an ass kisser.
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would compliments back be considered beta? for example, i said she was on my mind and thinking about how cute she looked in our snap chat, which may be considered beta but she responded very well to it.
Beta would be considered being overly worried about such things.
Think of yourself as a sports player. You play football. You're decent at it too. Now another player, 5 leagues inferior to yours, come up to you complimenting your skills and expressing his admiration. You will feel uncomfortable and question his motives.
However, if a world class renowned player, say, CR7 or whatever would compliment your skills, expressing his admiration, that shit will keep you up at night and make you do a victory dance.
The point behind this analogy is that the impact of a word or action is highly affected by the person behind them. They're both doing the same thing, but their personal value will affect how you feel about each individual.
So if you don't wanna come across as beta, don't be beta.
CHAT
