So, I have a very distinctive style of fashion, one which stands out. Women usually dig my style and I receive a lot of compliments for my fashion sense. However, I live in Mumbai, and am one of the very few guys over here to dress like this. I totally stand out from the crowd. When I was in the UK, or HK however, this was the norm. I like looking good and dressing up for myself. It is therefore not completely unusual for chodes to pass smarky comments like, "are you cold?", or "Why are you wearing so many clothes?"

I usually don't let it affect me, and pass it off as jealousy, or just pure ignorance. Tomorrow however, I have an interview lined up with my friend's company. So, tonight, my closest friends made me sit down for half an hour totally bashing the fact that I wear jackets, and said that I'll become a laughing stock, if I wear jackets to office. They were downright mean in the way they put it and made it seem as though I'm just sort of clown who doesn't fit in. I know as a fact that a lot of girls in my college had a crush on me cause of the way I dress, some told me themselves, and I got to know about the rest through other sources. It therefore really irked me when one of my best friends retorted with "which girls?", when I brought up the fact that at least the girls liked my style.

I know that this should not bother me, and naturally, I should be confident enough and comfortable in my own skin, to not let such comments get to me. However, the fact that this has bothered me so much, makes me believe that I suffer from some serious self-esteem issues. This is precisely why I've always struggled in relationships, and tend to get too attached. I know I should be icy in the face of AMOGing, but I have never faced it from my closest friends before. One of them was drunk, and so, ends up being downright dominating when he's high.

Just wondering how I can overcome this and deal with such situations in the future. I know this sounds real chody, but this incident has been a real eye opener for me, and since self-esteem, is a major component of innergame, I would really like some help with this.

Thanks.

First I'm not going to say that your friends were dicks or chodes, because 99% of the time I see this problem in person, the friends are just trying to stop the guy from being weird.

There is a difference between dressing well and overdressing. If people are asking you if you are cold or why are you wearing so many clothes, its because you are OVERDRESSING. You can dress well and suit the climate with less layers. Your fashion sense may be good, but it's a common sense thing. India is really really hot...why would you ever need a jacket or a bunch of layers?

That aside, I'm all for if you want to dress different to stand out. But use it for something. Get girls from it. If your friends saw that you were actually getting women with your style, they'd be quiet. People, even chodes, will shut up about stuff they may not agree with if they see it's getting you something and working for you. The guy who dresses crazy with no girls is just a weird looking guy. The guy who dresses crazy with girls is the guy people wont question his style. So get girls and consider whether you are overdressing.

Yeah, maybe you're overdoing it a bit.

Think about it for a second. If you are, tone it down. If you're not, keep doing you.
Point is, don't let your future actions be determined by an emotional response, but by an actual, objectively determined conclusion.

Are they right or not?

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Seems to me like you care a little too much about what people think of you. Which is why you over compensate with your clothes.

You dress like you don't care what people think. You say you don't care what people think.

But then when you hear what other people think... you care.

You're not being true to yourself. Stop being such a validation whore with your clothes.

Stop buying clothes just so other people will like them. It's needy.

When girls compliment your style snd your friends/Drunk obnoxious guy mock you. That is when you know you have nailed the fashion.

However, without pics, no idea if you could look like a polished turd.

I dress pretty well but if I was at an interview or a funeral. I would look smart but keep it neutral. No need to go overboard. An interview is just 1 hour, right?

PM me, I know a thing or 2 about style and I will be brutally honest.

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