| The only reason I’m considering not breaking up with her is that she fits all the my criteria for an ideal LTR. She’s a great person, very smart, easy to get along with, respects me as her alpha and is hopelessly in love with me, fulfills me sexually, and I’m her only sexual partner. She grew up in a good household with a strong father figure. Her parents have only dated each other, so she’s had strong exposure to monogamy since she’s been born. If we had met or been dating in our mid-late twenties, this would be the girl I would marry
It sucks that we’re going to college so far away, but that’s life sometimes and I’m really questioning the reality of us staying together. She’s moving away on Thursday, while I don’t leave until the 31st. She brought up the topic for the first time, and after a while of us beating around the bush (and some very emotional sex), she started talking about how she wanted to try. I told her I really want it to work out too, but it’d be very difficult. I cheated on her once in the past, about 2 months into the relationship. That was when she was still very nervous about sex, so I ended up seeking fulfillment elsewhere. She found out, but she didn’t want to break up so after a couple weeks we were sort of back to normal.
Yesterday we kind of talked about potential things we could do. She wants to try and stay together, communicating through texting and video chatting every day or two. We’ve barely even texted over the past 7 months (I’m more of a talking in person type of guy), so I told her that that could just end up fizzling out. She also brought out the situation in which one of us cheats and the other ends up hating the other (I told her I wouldn’t hate her, I’d just delete her number and not talk to her. She said she would be very mad if I did cheat again). We didn’t reach any type of conclusion yesterday.
Any advice or help from someone would be greatly appreciated.
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