I had broken rapport with a girl after advice on this forum and later reinstated rapport with a girl since last and she seemed very happy that we are now having contact again and she hugged me and said that i meant allot and that she was sorry stuff went like that.

The thing is I think i am totally fucked with this girl at the moment since there was a guy who flirted with her and he made an agreement with her to dance. She forget this agreement and when he attempted to dance with her, she went along with her friend. and he gave her the middle finger, due to her bad behaviour.

She asked me if i could talk with him indirectly and tell him that she didn't mean anything and that she "wanted to lay in some cards" meaning she feels attracted to him.

Am I friendzoned? Did I fuck this up by not just k closing? or is she just trying to make me jealous since she also mentioned her Ex whom i know for a fact she hates.

She talked about how much she used to like him and about her crush on him. also, she was showing me her cousin and on her phone when she clicked on facebook search my name was at the top.. That means that i was last person she searched for on facebook and we haven't texted for weeks due to the broken rapport so that means she is stalking me.

This girl has earlier indicated interest by:
- She doesn't reject my kino.
- We hold hands,
- I have even slapped her butt without her saying anything besides "that hurt" hence i slapped way too hard on purpose.
- she hits me on the knees/thigh
- WE send each other kissing smileys and hearts.
- She calls me sweetie/darling
- we were at a party together and i told her i was leaving for a other party because it was boring. Her being drunk said "FUCK OFF, YOU JUST WANNA SEE OTHER GIRLS. BUT GUESS WHAT. YOUR MINE. HERE IS A RED STICKER SO EVERYONE KNOWS YOUR MINE" and she even mentioned the "joke" a couple times afterwards.

- I told her to go on a "bicycle date" and she did not reject it. She repicroated by saying " I promise when i have time"
- She asked me what dress looks best on her (im not sure if this is considered and IOI or IOD. But im taking it as an IOI since it means my opinion matters to her)

However there are also some things that is making me confused. I have asked her out, by making her lose a bet. Meaning she will be paying the dinner. Afterwards she has made allot of attempts to delay our date due to financial problems and being busy. Funny thing is that she is hanging out with her girl-friends.

So i told her that im a gentleman and i can't have her pay and that we should do it asap. She gave me a time, where i was unable to. And she said in May.


There are both IOI and IOD and im really confused on what the right thing to do would be

Any particular reason you haven't kissed her?

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Don't ask her out on a date.

When you two are hanging out, hold her hand for a few minutes. If she doesn't resist, use her hand to rub your chest. If she doesn't resist, use her hand to rub your knee and then your thigh. If you can rub your elbow to the side of her breast, then you're good.

Next, bounce her to another place. Something like "Hey, let's grab some gum/soda/ice cream/magazines". Use this opportunity to place your hand at the small of her back while walking to destination 1. Then you bring her to destination 2 and escalate some more.Then you bring her to your apartment. Make out. Fuck her.

Don't say anything to her about you two going official. Fuck her good.

If you can put your penis in her vagina and she's happy with it, then being friendzoned doesn't matter at all.

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Because she talks about other guys and that leads me into thinking im friend zoned. And i want to avoid humiliation therfore i have not kiss her yet.

So? I talk to girls about other girls. And sometimes they talk about other guys. And then we fuck. You can be attracted to multiple people. Who knew.
You're trying to avoid humiliation and by doing so you're also avoiding success.

Every time you go for a kiss, a hand hold, whatever else, you're effectively going for what you want. That's called being a man.

Would you rather have a few moments of awkwardness or indefinite amounts of time thinking what if? Who's to say you won't be fucking her tonight? There's only one way to find out.

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