So I just graduated high school and am taking a gap year in Paris, France. My french is at a decent level, not perfect but it's possible to converse with a little bit of struggle on both ends. My question is, how am I supposed to game these French Women? A lot of the time when I try and say a joke it doesn't come out right and I just look stupid or I don't have the confidence I should have because I'm totally out of my comfort zone. Also, on the occasion that I manage to get a girls number, texting them is such a grueling task. Never know what to say, how to make it sound "cool", or what to talk about. The struggle is real and it needs the pua communities help! Thanks!

You're foreign. You have one up on every other guy in France already. The same applies to any foreign guy.

Jokes? Why make jokes if you can't tell them? Jokes aren't important. Sure it's nice to joke around but you don't have to be that guy. Work with what you have. Are you more down to earth, able to talk and build comfort? Do it. Work on your approach. Perfect example is just sitting beside some woman and saying you're new and looking for places to visit or if you're at a party and don't know anyone sit beside a group of women and say "I'm new here and I need friends. You are going to be my new friends for tonight." Don't ask them, just make that statement. Be cocky/funny and confident. It's a sure thing. If you're studying there just sit beside a woman and say "Hey, you're going to be my new friend." then introduce yourself. c/f gets you in, confidence gets you attention thus interest. Once you build a social circle choose your target and use kino.

Also, if you're American don't talk about your country, your views on the war, what you think of Bush, Obama or whatever else you think is important because Europeans fucking hate American politics. If you do talk about the US talk about your experiences, your GOOD experiences that don't involve guns, hunting animals or that time you had a threesome. Just talk about trips to different states, how beautiful X is and how surprised the girls would be. That's all you need to focus on, the nice stuff the stuff these women would actually do and could associate with you.

The above post has some very good advice.

I also live in France. I don't know about Paris or Parisian women, but the stereotype seems to be that a lot of them tend to be snobbish & high maintenance. The town where I'm living is also very much like this. Sure, there are some (VERY) hot girls, but a lot of them (not all) are very pretentious.

I have to be honest with you: The majority of the time, I find lots of French girls just totally snobby, pretentious, and they LOVE drama! Haha! But you can try to make this work in your favour! Just be the cool, mysterious, maybe slightly "aloof" foreign guy, and take it from there! You say your French is already at a decent level, which is great. If you have an accent when you speak French, this may also work to your advantage. You can have some laughs with all kinds of language related stuff! You don't want to be a performing seal/class clown! But sometimes languages and a slight breakdown in communication can bring some fun to the party! Just make sure the French girls are having fun with you, and that they're intrigued, and you'll be golden!

And just to repeat: (Most) French girls are VERY high maintenance & love drama! You have been warned!

Soooo...all women in the world are french then ?


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Like someone already said , you're foreign. That's a huge advantage right there.

As far as the language goes you'll get the hang of it eventually. Don't worry about it that much.

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Your foreign status gives you advantage. You are there for ONLY 1 year, don't waste that opportunity. Whatever happens in France, stays in France. You should be gaming every single woman you see.

You have the greatest advantage to benefit from women by telling them to show you around some good places or bars. Or you can simply go to a cafe, talk with a woman and let her guide you about the nightlife of France. It's really simple.

You are absolutely right about everything you just said, I guess the main problem for me is finding the confidence to approach girls randomly on the street or at a bar, and alone because I have quite a lack of male comradery here also. Parisians tend not to be the most friendly people so it's hard for me to muster up the confidance in broken french to be that random dude on the street and expect a positive response. But as I have been doing I will continue to put myself out there and one day something will happen. Thanks for the reinforcement bro!

Dude I couldn't agree with you more! They are so difficult here, it's like a puzzle or something. They desperately seek romance but are so unopen to it at the same time, if that makes any sense. From your experience, (not sure if you had the language barrier or not) how do they work? Do they enjoy being texted 24/7 like the typical American teenager or a simple confirmation of a date text, or none at all. I guess what I'm trying to say is how do you necessarily go about gaming these specifically? Great to see other people can sympathize with my situation.

Consider it a new beginning. If you've been a certain way in a main group of friends you'll find it incredibly hard to shake that role within that group. If you find new groups and become more you you'll take on a different role in the group. Ever watch The League? There was an episode where the dweeby character was in two league groups. His main where he was the loser and least popular(Been part of it for years) and then his new group with rich successful businessmen. In the second group he was the leader because he took up that mantle(His character also hints at incorporating some loose PUA mentalities).

Just focus on being the person you already are. Be outgoing, don't care what others think and you'll do well. In a different country you're never going to see these women again and you have every single reason to approach them. Hell "I'm from X and don't know where Y is" is a classic opener. Work c/f and kino into that and you're a shoe in.

And broken French? Fuck man, that's pure gold! Use it when you open. Parlay vou anglash? She'll get a kick out of it, smile and lower her defence to you. You can be c/f, say you make up for your poor French in other ways and have her eating out of your hands. Seriously, a bit of awkwardness can be a good thing if you know how to take advantage of it. I guarantee if you went up to two French women with broken French and tried to string together a sentence it would go extremely well. I wouldn't even say you need to have confidence to approach just follow the basic rules of approach and start off with women who are stationary.