I have met a girl I like but you know of the old age advice of keep gaming to prevent one itis? Well I am trying to do just that but I can't game properly anymore. It is like, well, I met the girl I wanted so I don't really need double or triple...Help someone. Smack me into reality.


AND yes I have slept with the girl I like multiple times. We have been actually going down the road of BF/GF but I am waiting for her to announce it before it is solidified. I am just trying to get more under my belt before that happens.

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She's not really a one-itis if you already slept with her. The oneitis is the girl you desperately want but never had.

Anyway , I see most guys here fall in the same trap you're about to fall now. You're taking things to the extremes. You met someone you genuinely like and now you're in panic mode. You're gonna adjourn to the holy bible of MPUA , go out , fuck 10 girls you don't even like and ruin your chances with the one you actually do.


Moderation is the key.

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haha oneitis doesn't mean that.. Oneitis is when a guy feels that this girl is just so fucken special and she is the only one for him! Maybe he already slept with her and maybe he is still trying to.. Anyway, when gaming other women, beside her(only if she is acting up or she starts losing interest in you) or in her absence, keep in mind that you always have a back plan and you are not desperate. On a serious note though, why are you waiting for her to announce it? She will give you signals, but most of the time girls won't ask you to be their bf.. Be the one leading instead mate.

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I always thought that if you announce it the way things are then it would cause you to lose some power. If I ask her to be my girlfriend won't that put in her head "he asked, now he better do things to keep me" instead of me being the prize and her asking "be mine, don't want these other girls touching you".


I just don't want her to feel comfortable that she completely has me. I want her to see that I am still desirable by other females.

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You said you're not interested in gaming other chicks, you like this girl, you're close to becoming boyfriend girlfriend... so why bother gaming other chicks!? Do what makes you happy, not what you think you 'should' be doing. It's not oneitis if it's mutual; it's a relationship, something that many people on this forum are striving for.

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I hear what you are saying. Gaming other chicks will keep my skills sharp. That is what I want in the ultimate end. If this relationship doesn't work out, then I know I can go out and find another. It is the abundance mindset I want to achieve.

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I understand but you could regret it if honing your PUA skills causes this relationship to end. Just make sure you are doing what you want to do, and remember that your goals can change without your conscious input.

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