Hi guys, I'm in a strange, yet comfortable situation. A guy is stealing my girl. And she's allowing him to. Yes I did fuck her, and yes I do feel like shit. Now I'm stuck between three choices, but I honestly feel only the first two are viable. The third option sounds too much like one-itis.

1. Make her believe that I still have feelings for her and fuck her still. But at the same time, start gaming again because she allowed another guy get between us.

2. Break up immediately (which would mean I would have to do it over the phone, because text break up is weak, and I'm not seeing her any time soon (at least not for the next two weeks)) and fall on the list of guys that used her.

3. Actually make a sincere effort to make it work, and ask her if she really wants to commit, without pulling other guys into the picture.

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In my experience, there is only one thing to do here. Start going out again. You don't have to fuck 12 other girls, but going out, sarging and having fun, gives you a new perspective. The one you cannot see right now. Go out for a while, and then decide what to do. I am sure you will have the right answer then.

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I think I should extract myself from the situation. All is good. Nothing is good or bad. As long as I'm having fun. If you're not having fun while doing it, you must be doing something wrong.

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You getting worked up about this girl hanging out with other guys shows insecurity. if you show lack of confidence she will pick up on that and if you do direct intervention it means she is the one with higher value. if she starts talking to other guys you can say "have a good time" in a tone of complete indifference. meanwhile you go talking to other women at the same time so she is the one worrying about losing you to the competition not the other way around.

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How much do you want her ?


Freaking out about your girl spending time with other guys is something everyone feels at some point.They key thing is not to let her sense your moment of weakness.

I actually came to like it when someone is trying to game my girl.This is my way of turning things.
For example , I'd call my girl and she's out with some random friends / friend ( guys or whatever ) I always say something along the lines of :"Great ,have a nice time.".

Say it either indifferently or even be a little enthusiastic about it. Just don't give her the impression that you have a problem with that. Don't let her pick up on any insecurity you might have.

After she's done meeting with those tools , ask her what she did. Look for info. Divide and Conquer.

So say you ask her :"What did you do ?"
She'll say :"Ah you know , we went to get a coffe" - or whatever other boring activity -

Now , divide her from the guy you think she likes (or that group) by undermining his efforts with a subtle comment like "Wow , that must've been so much fun. I can see the enthusiasm on your face." - obviously in a sarcastic manner.

After that you can conquer , or rather , reconquer her by doing better than the guy you just rolled over.

"A'right , you had your fair share of boring today. C'mon , let's go have some fun".At this point , go somewhere that's actually fun. Ice skating , bawling , dancing ...whatever , somewhere you'll have a good / better time that she had previously.

Anyway , be subtle about it. Don't let her catch you trying to outrun the other competitor. Like I said , you don't want her to sniff out ANY form of weakness. You want her to think that you don't have the slightest problem in the world with who she sees , because you know you're better.

Oh and also , be vague about what you were doing while she wasn't with you. Let her grind about the possibility that you're meeting people too.

You walk over others by proving higher value and you also keep her thinking that she might not be the only one rejoiceing in that value, so in turn , she'll make efforts to prove herself to you.

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#2.

See over the weekend she was staying over at my house, she asked me if she could spend the day with one of her friends (a guy) I told her no. That alone showed lots of insecurity from my side, but she did kiss another guy earlier in our relationship when she was indulging in alcohol a bit, so I didn't trust her, at that stage.

Generally I will take your guys advice and act indifferently to any guy she wants to see (even if I don't like it) and just chill about everything. I don't need to break my head about this, and just start sarging again.

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