Hahaha yes, like that, I need to work on my humor.

Just wanted to update! I am about half way through Models by Manson. Thank you R.C., you helped change my life with your continued support and recommendations.

While reading and pondering, I began to realize my inadequacies in all three fundamentals. In fact, it was bitter medicine, but I guess the patient needed it.

Anyhow, today I ran from Ms. Oneitis after class (partly because I have nothing to say to her, partly because I was anxious), and in my next class she invites me to watch Deadpool with her and her friends. I politely declined, saying, "I'm busy. Thanks though." I am starting a business, so now to get busy with improving my life.

I never thought I'd get over the oneitis, but it's pretty much gone now. I still like her yeah, but she's no longer on a pedestal, and I'm perfectly ok with her hating me. Neediness conquered.

You won a battle, not the war.

Good job though.

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Ok, so, she had gone to a bakery and had gotten some food.. I usually treat her to food (I know -- I hadn't read that part of Models at the time! I was not being direct with my intentions and was attempting to "buy" her at the time which was inauthentic, needy, and vaguely creepy -- I didn't know that at the time).

Anyway, she had some extra food and I asked if I could have one.. I could tell that she didn't want to share, and she used the excuse that if she shared with me then she'd have to share with everyone. I don't know, I felt pretty upset about it but didn't show it, and I had to go so I pretty much said (somewhat seriously) "We can never talk again until I get one" and walked away. I don't know, I probably overreacted in a needy way.

I have aspergers, so it's hard for me to discern what would be socially acceptable behavior; was I socially backward there?

Actually now that I think about it, even though I had to go, can't believe I left over a freakin cake. Whatever I bought her in the past in no way obligates me to be returned the favor, cause I had done it out of my own volition so I should not expect anything in return.

You didn't leave over cake. You left over having expectations of her that she didn't fulfill.

That's what onitis does to you. That's why it is onitis.

One question though, why are you still hanging around her?

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You're right, I have an unhealthy obsession with trying to control her or the situation, which I obviously cannot.

All the students in my major are a tight knit group, so I'm usually around her a lot so we work on homework, projects, and such.

Also, I get a lot of people asking me if I'm interviewing anywhere because of my new clothing, even though it's casual and I'm wearing jeans. Do you get that a lot too?

Being around her doesn't force conversation you know. You can be around someone without investing more time and effort into them.

As far as your last question goes, no, not really. But it shouldn't come as a surprise if people are used to you wearing hoodies and suddenly you're wearing blazers.

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Oh man, if Onenittis were a legitimate disease, dude would be in a hospital, IV in arm, on his death bed.

Today I was around her but I pretty much minded my own business, and she minded hers, except when it came time to go to class, she asked if I'm going to class and then she went ahead on her own.

So, at this point, we may as well be acquaintances -- what a ride it was from wondering who that girl was and getting to know her so well and today not knowing her at all. Oh well.

That makes sense, and that is what I'm thinking as well. I did get a few compliments from my male friends, but none yet from my female friends. It's above and beyond the hoodies and sweaters literally everybody (99.9999% of the people) wear at my university.

Well, maybe not my deathbed, but hospitalized..

So did you ever say i like you, lets get a drink?

Why beat a dead dog?

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How to keep a girl.

I'm over her -- I don't have oneitis anymore.