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What these gentlemen are trying to drill into your nut sack, via your eyeballs, and brain is, she is not superior to you. She is not perfect. She is not "doing you a favor" by hanging out with you. She's just another human being, trying to find happiness in the world. In one way or another, she's probably just as scared and vulnerable as you are. And, you are as deserving of fucking good time as much as she is.

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This is the reason why you should never give into oneitis:

The moment you meet a girl who gives you onitis you have 2 choice

1. Engage in onitis behavior and NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER WIN. EVER. (for obvious reasons)

2. Win

Let that sink in.

How do you win?

You learn how to be an attractive man and pick up girls.

Which in turn will allow you to attract these type of girls, and if she is available you will have a very high chance of bedding her.

So the answer to oneitis is always : BE BETTER

and in this context is "Be better at creating attraction and being the best version of yourself that can attract that type of girl"

Sidenote: Liking a girl out of 15,000 in a crowd is totally normal.

I TOO have onitis.

Example of how I handled my recent onitis:

I'm in a class of like 80% girls, theres 1 girl I like more than all others.
I accept that I like her more than other girls, I don't deny it, I let that feeling overtake my body and I enjoy it without speaking a word to her... I embrace that energy.... is lovely... she is lovely... (side note: I'm still fucking 2 other girls in that class)

Then as the class ends I approach her.... I feel the energy in my body.... I cannot let another day go by without knowing if she is available for me...

I open around the shoulder as we walk in the hall way

Me"Hey you are in my class aren't ya"

Her"Giggles, yeah"

Me"Can I ask you something.."

Her(with a vibrant smile, even lovelier than I thought) "Sure"

Me"Are you single?"

Her"No, i'm sorry I have a boyfriend"


IT IS AT THIS POINT MY WORLD SHATTERED TO PIECES NOOOOOOO THE AGONNYYYYYYYYYYY
MY ONITISSS HAS A BOYFRIEND NOOOOOOOOOOOO......

(just kidding) I kept running my roll off game which I wont say here but anyways it doesn't matter you'll still be happy you tried

I actually have her for another class and we seem to be getting along really well, her boyfriend seems super cool so i'm happy for her and I know if he fucks up........ I have the biggest chance of getting with her next.

haha.

So this is a little onitis story I hope you like it.

so my additional advice would be

"Master the game"

Learn what it takes to be attractive and get the girl.

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Thanks guys. I'm internalizing everything. RC, your guide is extremely helpful, it's already corrected some faults, and the part about Be Congruent is gold. Heywood Jablowme, you are right, those are the truest words spoken, and today I realized that while she might be the cutest/prettiest girl I've ever met, she is just a human like you and I. Dtrak, I'm glad that I'm not the only one and surprised that even you go through it, and also impressed by how well you handled it.. it's great man, and I think I'm beginning to see how I should be acting after watching your videos.

By the way guys, I did it, I asked her if she likes to have fun, and that I'm going to check out a cool place and said "your going with me right," and she said she's coming. But she had a class right after, so we planned for Tuesday. Score! (I think, unless she thinks we're going as friends..)

I should've let it go then and ran before the vibe died, but we kinda kept talking long after the vibe was killed and butchered and then further slaughtered even more.. so that was a fk up, but there was nothing really much to talk about. Boringness, mostly due to my inability to hold a conversation and not experiencing enough of the world to be a super fun, charismatic guy.

I have a lot to work on. Even if I lose this girl, this is progress.

Bump! Can someone answer the bolded questions in general?

I kind of did answer the part about me. You just never really noticed it. I said you're too invested.

People have always considered me quite funny. I was always the quiet guy to the point that it took some people at school like 3 years to realise I was funny. If you want to become funny then just watch a lot of comedy, maybe take some comedy classes, maybe even some kind of YouTube course or even just find a comedian and notice the kind of jokes they make, pay attention to the try to do the same kind of thing. Maybe try to make a joke in your head about random situations through your day, maybe even "roast" strangers in your head as they pass you by.

That could be useless advice, but I'd imagine it'll benefit you... sorry for how cocky this is about to sound, but I feel like advice from a "natural" isn't as good. For example most guys who are naturally good with women, have no idea why they're good with women. The guys who had to learn it, are completely aware of what they're doing right and wrong. I'd probably search YouTube for something like "how to be funny" or "how to be witty"

Promise yourself first that you're doing it for yourself and not to impress one specific girl. I'm 99% sure it's for a girl. If it is, it's SO needy and unattractive that you're better to be completely boring, seriously.

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Alright, thanks.
Hmm. You're right.

I'm not sure how to answer you "place of self" question. The advice I have given comes from logic and experience with people. Most people that give an excuse for putting something off until later will always find another excuse later. I know if I give myself an excuse for not doing something, it's not because the conditions aren't right...it's because deep down I really don't want to do it for whatever reason.

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Alright, thanks.

OP, deriving confidence from a place of self first and foremost implies you need to be able to provide value to the world, and secondly, you need to be aware of it.

Let me give you a few examples. If you walk in a party and everyone starts greeting you, that means you have social status. People know and appreciate you, so inheritedly you could provide social value to anyone joining you.

Have a good job you're proud of? a ripped body? intelligence? humor? mental agility? star athlete? thriving young entrepreneur?

Thing is OP, when you're young is not about how successful you are, but how successful you're setting yourself up to be.

In the simplest of terms confidence comes from having your shit together. And that in and of itself is a process, not an event.

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Okay, I understand. So, work towards life and business goals and get my shit together, and provide intrinsic value to the world and the people around me.

The other aspect I want to explore is being able to provide entertainment / conversational value. I hung out with that girl today, and one thing that I noticed was just how boring (to the point of being drab) I am. There was nothing to talk about, and in my mind I know that's not true -- there's always something to talk about.

So, in all effect, I am almost 100% sure I'm friend-zoned after displaying less sexuality than a table chair and being boring as f***, so although I lost this girl, I have realized several things I need to work on. I won't lie though, this girl was everything I wanted in a woman and losing her just makes me more adamant to work on myself so that this does not happen again.

Yes! You don't understand how attractive this is to women. It's a bitch really because it's only attractive when you're doing it for yourself...
Firstly you need to learn to appreciate the "awkward" silence. Secondly you need to realise that it's only awkward if you make it awkward. Sorry to be all PUA here but the masculine frame is stronger, and she'll follow you.
The best thing (in my opinion) for a new guy to do is to read Corey Wayne's book 10 times. It's in the free members section of his website as an ebook. There's also Models, but I'm not sure if relationships are covered and I'm not sure if it's free, but I do hear great reviews from guys who really know their shit. As far as I'm aware, RC learned from Models. Does RC sound like a virgin to you? (hint: he SO is one. I can tell by the way he doesn't use NLP and negs enough)

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Yep! I believe that.
I see... Alright, I have to work on that. How do you not make an awkward silence awkward? lol. Thing is, today I had really strive to maintain a convo, cause our convos kept kinda dying. I tried showing her some funny videos, but she wasn't really in the mood for that, idk if it's cause of today being Monday or what, but yeah. I was really bored too, and I remarked on it, and she agreed, we were both pretty damn bored.

I think it's my fault cause I don't know how to maintain a convo yet.
Cool! I will definitely check it out. Thanks!
I hear about Models a lot; I will have to go over that multiple times as well. Lol, if RC is a virgin then the sky is green, haha. He ain't need no NLP and negs.

Will finding out if it is oneitis or not, help you decide how to take action? No matter what the answer is, the action will remain the same. You game her as well as other girls. If you game her and blow yourself out, then your oneitis will be solved so now you have more mental energy to game other girls. If you game other girls, you will start to develop an abundance mentality and no longer have oneitis with any other girl again. Whatever action you take, which is opening and gaming many girls, will solve your problem. And you're right, even if you lose the girl, this is progress. Just keep gaming. Qualify her and reward her investment with escalation so you take things in the right direction.

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Yea for the record RC is a poon magnet and I was kidding lol.

What I meant about awkward silence is that it's only silence until you consider it to be "awkward" silence. Once you consider it to be awkward then she will too. This is when you start doing reaction seeking things like showing her videos because you need her to react in a certain way because you need a good conversation. The need for anything gets in the way of everything. The only conversations you should really have at this point are in person so take her on the kind of dates where you're doing something fun and have shit to talk about on and after the date.

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