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man im not sure if i agree. i might have phrased that wrong. my thing is that being monogamous gives each person a sense of owning the other person; turning that person into a possession, and in my past experiences has put a sense of entitlement into the relationship. Instead, what i prefer is that you really cant control someone no matter how hard you try. to me it seems like conditional affection; " i love you so much but if you so much as share affection with another person Im gonna tell all my friends what a douche you are and never speak to you again". I am perfectly capable of providing a caring and loving environment for growth to a girl but they interpret this as oh just wants to use me for sex.
are these empty words? maybe they are I am confused why this is such an unacceptable view
"my thing is that being monogamous gives each person a sense of owning the other person; turning that person into a possession, and in my past experiences has put a sense of entitlement into the relationship."
That is true and expected.
"Instead, what i prefer is that you really cant control someone no matter how hard you try. to me it seems like conditional affection; " i love you so much but if you so much as share affection with another person Im gonna tell all my friends what a douche you are and never speak to you again"."
Unconditional affection would be allowing your would be partner to disrespect you by ignoring your standards even though he knows what they are and that they're very important to you? Unconditional affection would be let your would be partner walk all over you and your identity? You might be willing to put up with a girl's cheating, but that doesn't mean that that's what she's looking for in a relationship.
"but they interpret this as oh just wants to use me for sex."
What is the complete list of what you want to be with them for?
"maybe they are I am confused why this is such an unacceptable view"
Yes, you are confused. You might want to try to take a look at the reasons.
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