May not be the answer you want to hear but its what you need to hear.

How did you meet this girl and are you meeting other girls? You seem to have an air of desperation and having any lack of abundance will crush you with girls. Relationships included, even if its a prior abundance and a solid confidence that you can have it again very easily.

Just because you have a few sidegirls doesn't mean you're not needy. You have 3 aspects to your life. Work, social and love life. They go hand in hand. Being unhappy with one will affect your performance with the others.

It seems quite clear that you're trying to syphon happiness from being with someone. I'd suggest your focus on other lacking areas of your life pro-actively as well.

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I met her on a dating website. She actually started communication with me etc.

You're absolutely right. I have lost my job. Work life is in the hole. My social life is not too great either at the moment. I need to come out of this depression.

I haven't contacted her yet. How long would you give until making contact? I know NC etc. I'm just hurting here.
She was/is going through a work crisis. So she has been really different. But I thought it was confusion with her ex too.

I'm going on a date tomorrow with another chick... But my heart is just not into it

Any advice anyone? i'm really hurting...

I think worked her out. She bumped into her ex end of December. I think she is still hurting cos he cheated on her. I haven't still responded to her text. I would really appreciate any advice please???

I was going to text her that i know its a lot of stress about her work and ex and its a good call to put things on hold, plus i have a lot going on and i can't give 100%. But we should still just meet as friends as we have a amazing energy together

what u think

Why would you wanna date a girl if your life is currently a mess? Cut it out bro. Don't you know that if you're a mess you will only make the life of another a mess? Why fuck em someone else life just because you're currently lonely? Get your shit together first bro. These chicks ain't going NO WHERE. You only want her because its appearing that you can't have her. TRUST ME. If you had her, you wound't even want her like you do now. You're listening to the chemicals reactions in your body that are all created from YOUR OWN thoughts and not the honest logic. Fuck her bro.. Not literary.. Like fuck her.. Go on with your life. She'll come chasing you if you do, but as long as you stay obsessed with her mentally, she'll know intuitively and want nothing to do with you. Women intuition is 10x stronger than ours - we can't even imagine what this is like. You have to live your life as if everyone is always watching because they are. If you wouldn't post on the forums about her with her knowing; don't do the shit thinking that she vwon't know. She'll feel it. Its a topic I cover in my book.

Behave the way you would behave if you had a camera following you everywhere you go linked directly to her television screen and she was watching your every move. Because she kinda is and this will all impact the way she thinks about you when you're not around. Life is a feeling process. We pick up vibes.. women just pick them shits up stronger. Grow man.. Grow tall and let go. She'll love you for it.

But whatever you do.. DO NOT FUCKING HIT HER UP! its the worst thing you can do. And she'll feel like attraction for you and push you further away.

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I agree with what has been said. You need to have balance in your life or won't think clearly and act appropriately. You should focus on other girls for now and not respond to her. You can try pinging her several weeks later if you want once you have more in order.

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Yeah, you need a job for a woman to find you attractive and need to have your life in order. Like Carlos Xuma!

Except how that isn't even remotely true.

The only areas where you fucked up were just dropping contact for no reason and then sending flowers out of the blue.

I'm not saying you can salvage this(it's unlikely at this point). But it has fuck all to do with unemployment. It's mostly because you didn't keep in touch and then went from ignoring her to deep boyfriend stuff, when she likely wasn't in that mood at all.

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um, have you done even basic reading/ any research at all into basic pua? or did you just sign up to this site hoping we can give you magic words to keep a dead relationship together?

Get a job, and meet new women.

Losing her might be a wake up call for you.

Best Fucking advise so far. i haven't got a job at the moment and pussy is officially off my radar. i still focus on keeping my head clean and do things to build up my confidence. i feel this is what you need to do before you go fucking insane. thinking about a girl that doesn't care about you when you're at your worst isnt gonna help and speaks volumes for the type of person she is. Learn to love life - your life that is. stop everything and look for a job. set aside a few hours a day to do constructive job hunting. treat looking for a job like a job. No drifting off thinking about her. And when you're done, look at other constructive things to rebuild your life and social circle. you're currently on a very unhealthy path right now and this needs to change

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