I have never been good at talking to girls and actually making them want me. i don't think I'm a bad looking guy, I just don't know the game.

Now there is a Girl I saw at the Dfac the other day. I'm sure I'll see her again. She was by herself and not talking to anyone. prolly a 7.

Basically I would just like some tips or maybe a "Walkthrough" of how this PUA stuff works. I have read through this forums for about a week, but I can't seem to put it all together really.

Thanks

For starters, you can pick up these awesome reads. I believe every aspiring PUA should read the first two:

1. "Mystery Method" by Mystery
2. "The Game" by Neil Strauss (aka Style)
3. "How to Talk to Anybody Without Fear of Rejection" by Marcus Oakey
4. "Revelation" by Lovedrop*
5. "Diary of a Pickup Artist" by Brad P.

*My personal favorite!

You can also listen to David DeAngelo's "77 Laws of Success with Dating and Women". The journey to become a successful PUA is not easy, but in due time, everyone becomes masters at their own pace.

Good luck, bro.

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Thanks I will give those a look. But the books aren't going to help me nowish, that will be a little longer time. I just need like a basic crash course on this stuff so I can hopefully land a date with this girl.

That's the thing, bro: You can't be obsessed with just this one girl. You gotta explore your options and meet other HBs. If you wanna become a mPUA, you gotta stop obsessing with a single babe.

There are a lot of words you gotta know before you can start playing in the big league, such as IOI, IOD, DHV, DLV, negs, FTCs, disqualifiers, kino, and all that shit. If you don't study these words as well as the other techniques published in the provided books, your date won't be as ideal as you'd think it would be. To simplify pickup would still require a huge amount of time and effort to perfect the general steps, as well as patience and perseverence.

On your date, don't act an AFC, maintain an alpha status, and learn from your errors. Don't think of her as your girlfriend, but as a friend; you'd have to qualify her to see if she's even worth the chase (again, something you'd have to read into).

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The important stuff to focus on are the following...

1. Don't "be in the game". Don't try to get laid. Don't expect any results. The reason why I say this is because you may become desperate and needy if you do, which is not what you want. Try to get all confirmation you need from family and friends. And if it becomes even slightly too obvious that you are trying, the girls will put their legs on their back and run for it.

2. Work on your "inner game" and your social competence. Try to have a relaxed and confident attitude. The best way to learn this is through normal social interaction without any goal in mind, without all this PUA-stuff. Try to learn how to read people and their state of mind, and try to meet them at their level and keep the same energy level as them (called "pacing"). From there, you can learn about "leading", which means that you slowly turn the mood of the group in the direction you want. Try to learn what impression you make when you behave in different ways.

3. Be brave and face all your fears. Expose yourself to all the "dangers" to enlarge your comfort zone. When you realize what you can and can't do, you will become more confident and relaxed. The goal is to be able to do whatever you feel like, without any inhibitions. This will create some attraction.

4. Ignore all models of how attraction works. They are mostly wrong and just make things more complicated than they need to be. It is actually quite easy to see when someone is interested or not, and the only way to spoil attraction is by being boring, weird, desperate and what not.

5. Ignore everything about compliance tests. They are totally useless and can't tell you anything that you can't read from the girl's body language alone. Her body language never lies, and you will "feel" it in your gut if you are on the right track or not.

6. Check out what kino escalation means, but don't focus on it. It is just an IOI and will never create any attraction.

7. Don't blame yourself too much if you don't get the results you want. You are only responsible for your own behavior, not the reactions. So don't try to get everybody's liking. There are tons of stupid people out there who can hurt you, just because they feel bad about themselves. Knowing the limits about what you can take is also an attractive feature.

8. Try to be positive and have fun, and invite people to your reality, instead of forcing yourself onto others. Approaching a girl is like forcing yourself onto her, and interrupt her somehow. That is why you have approach anxiety, because you know this. This is the difference between a good approach and a bad. A good approach is just an invitation, a reason for her to talk to you. If she doesn't want to, never mind.

There is probably much more to write here, but this should be enough.

A small walkthrough is something like this:

1. Project confidence and success.
2. Never be afraid to initiate conversation - you got nothing to lose.
3. Be fun and interesting. You can even make up your own little fantasy stories -*It's not lying , it's flirting - Mystery*
4. Don't linger around too much. Throw in false time constraints. You don't wanna start boring her.
5. Learn about building rapport & using kino to escalate sexually.
6. Make her want you. Don't throw yourself at her.

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