theres this HB 9.5 at my gym and i see her when i am working out. she is sometimes with a friend, but most of the time by herself. i have seen her look my way quite a bit, but i am still not entirely confident about that...maybe it is just me seeing what i want to see. how do i strike up a conversation with this girl? i find it so awkward to approach girls in the gym. i am just thinking of walking right up to her and striking up some convo... any openers, topics, or ideas i should bring up?

Don't. Do you have any clue how many idiots try to approach girls at the gym ? Plus , honestly , I've been approached by girls at the gym a couple of times and even I , a DUDE , didn't like that.

If I'm at the gym I'm there to work my ass off and don't take kindly to being intrerupted.

In any case ,my gym has a little hangout stop , like a bar with tables and all that where you can buy energy drinks / fruit juice / whatever ,stuff like that. The idea of this place is to hang out after you're done working out if you feel like it. If you have something like that , that's where / when I would do it.

But in the gym itself , during her workout time ? highway to failing miserably. That's just my opinion though.

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basically just strike up a convo about her workout. then see if you could do it with her. be her "workout buddy" for that time. Then, when your done, you can number close and move on from there.

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You are already in a poor direction b/c it's a girl you are thinking about too much. When you have to think and analyze the approach and not just do it on a whim the day you saw her, it very rarely goes good. When I was younger I did it with your mindset, by over thinking it first, and it put myself and girls in an awkward situation b/c I was nervous, and it made them a little nervous. Usually it's not fair to them and can creep them out and make them feel uncomfortable about going to the gym especially at times you are there. chances are there's guys at your gym, like myself, who have experience talking to women in the gym who they don't know, in a passive, friendly, manner where the girl doesn't realize the guy is even interested in her. If you hang out in gyms long enough you will get to see how some of them operate. usually those guys who work the desks or the trainers are good at it.

I don't want to convince you not to approach her, I think you should so you won't have to wonder what could have been. but you need to do it in a passive way. Don't walk up while she's banging the weights or running her guts out on the treadmills and try to interrupt. maybe you can see her at the water fountain, or in the parking lot or get situated on machines that are in close proximity. Depending on where it is and what you are both doing at the time, you can go passive and situational, and not even look at her when you speak which may be in your best interest right now, or if you see her in the parking lot just go direct and tell her you think she's pretty. That will take some of the edge off. I rarely would recommend going direct or complimenting her looks but you've backed your self and your mindset in to a corner. I just hope to God you have some "cool-factor" about you.

Man oh man, approaching a girl at the gym is so easy. When she weights a lot, ask her if she needs some help :p

thanks for the help guys, i guess you were right in saying that i am thinking about it too much and should just let whatever happens, happen. its just one girl anyways. i will keep you guys updated if anything ever does happen. and you are so right about the front desk guys and trainers being great at this approach.

Think about the longer game.

Talk to her, ask her what she is doing (eg. the exercise) or what she is training for, ask her for tips, making her think you value her opinion.

*She might be self conscious so don't hang around for too long*

Test the water, if things are not going to happen then leave it at a friendly chat...this means that next time you see her you can say "hi blah blah" as though you care, have a bit of banter with her.

If there are other chicks in the gym who see this conversation then you will see as the guy who the hot chick talks to. The other girls who see this will think you are somone worth talking to(shows value). This means that the next girl you try to pick up in there will not immediately be on the defensive.

**If you don't talk to her a least smile and say "hi"**

Hope this helps! (If not let me know what happened)

Donnar.

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thanks donnar, best advice yet... i have not seen her since that day so nothing to report on. will keep you all posted.