So i have attracted some amazing girls recently and i am SPAM considering 2 or 3 for a LTR (not a MLTR). Now this is all well and good, i love my life everything is swell. I am at the top of the foodchain in my social circle and all that shizzel.
Problem is, i have always been very flirty and playful. Its just me. The problem is, as i have learnt about PUA i have because quite good at it. Add in the stuff i have learnt about fashion, BL and all of that i am doing well, i am still learning. But i am doing well The thing is, i cant seem to turn it off. Your probably thinking why would any1 want to stop doing this, but the thing i respect my friends as much as they respect me. I try to help them out a little with girls they like and stuff but needless to say they fail if i leave them to it, help a little or help a lot. Now, all their targets (or GF's) have picked up on my playfulness and will oftern flirt with me (only harmless, at the start atleast). Whats causing me concern, I cant seem to stop gaming. If they flirt or give me an IOI, i respond. I would never take it anywhere, i am happy with who i have and they are a lot better in every why.
So why stop? Because my friends are getting pissed off with me. Even people i have never met before get annoyed, their targets always prefer me to them. Ofc, they still like me its just frustrating for them. I have tried to just not game, compleatly act as if i am not interested. But that makes them come onto me more. I have told them LJBF, they try still. I cant just ignore them, they are within my social circle and i like them as friends. The males and the females.

What would u suggest to help my friends get the girls they like (and who i have no interest in)? I just cant seem to help it If they flirt, i flirt back. I dont even think about it.
Madals

I dont escelate, and u put it far more simply than i did hobbit. The problem is my friends DO get jealous.

But they just give up, they see me having fun with the girls they like. The girls end up getting attracted to me and they get pissed because i girl i have no interest in wont like them because of me.
I dont run game on girls i dont like, but i dont go AFC either. I am just frienly and flirty, they just fall for it.

I how you feel Madals. I'm so sick of guys immediately draping themselves over their girlfriends whenever I'm in the vicinity, like they're scent marking their territory or something. (Is this a learned behavior or instinct?) Also, you'll have the haters and leeches orbitting around you pretending to be your friends, only to try their AFC-style passive aggressive AMOG techniques on you whenever you talk to a girl in their company.

I'm pretty sure it's jealousy and the male ego at play here, deal with it as you see fit. You can take the high road and ignore them, or you can get down and dirty and humiliate them by making it clear to them the girls prefer you over them.

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Make friends with other guys who are good with women. Then see if that's still a problem.

I have done that chief, but i am not going to say bye to people i like. Not everyone can be alpha's and i dont agree with kicking these people out my life just because they arent good with women. All new friends i make are alpha and naturals.
But it still pisses just generally people i meet off if their GF's are into me.

Have you tried bringing the girls you are actually serious with into the picture in order to demonstrate that you are taken. By doing this, you set the example that with girls you are with, you touch, you kiss, you are physical, etc, but with the other ones you are just a fun guy.

I agree with Hobbit about just being fun and flirty or being boring, I can't turn it off without becoming boring, because that's like purposely cutting out a part of my personality, which is about as appealing as scooping an eye out because you hang out with a blind guy. It's not your fault that you have that characteristic and he doesn't, so why should you suffer, sillyness, right?

Perhaps when they get all upset, you pull them aside and let them know that this is just who you are, you will never make a move on their girl, but you can't help but be who you are. If they still are having issues with it, then tell them they are welcome to some advice and that you know a lot of guys that have similar interests in maximizing their social skills. (If you didn't notice, I took great care with my word choice there and if you have this conversation, make sure that you do as well, otherwise you can easily insult someone by saying you'll give them "pointers" or "teach them" or similar things.)

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

thanks rye, i have been taking them aside after they get annoyed. But it still doesnt stop the girls being attracted to me. Tbh, i dont want it to have to get to that point. As for bringing the girls i like in (it would be in, i try not to target within my social circle, dont shit where u eat and all) it only seems to have the opposite effect. They see me with these amazing women and all that happens is my friends go all love sick for the girl(s) i have brought in and the other girls start being more obvious with trying to get my attention.

I agree with Hobbit/Rye. You are basically the tribal leader and there are always going to be people that get jealous of a leader. Just put your foot down in a sense and make it clear that this is who you are, even if you like them allot you may just have to move on if things get in the way. I got/had a mate that started going out with a girl about 4 years ago, at the start everything was as normal, out every weekend as normal, hanging out in the week playing some sport of another etc, then all of a sudden he up and dissapeared for 6 months before coming back for 1 drink on a sunday afternoon before going to meet his girlfriend again, this has pretty much continued since, he has the worst case of one-itus I've ever seen, this guy was my best mate for 10 years and POOF gone with the bat of a womans eye-lid.
Now this is a tad different to what you are going through at the moment but what I mean is that if your friends are gonna be an arse to you over some girl, you may want to consider how good these friends really are.
Not sure I described that in the best way possible but hopefully you understand what I mean lol.

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Madals....

This is a non complaint. "Ohhhh... Im Madals, Im too sexy for my friends...." :lol:

Seriously though..... If your friends cannot handle your personality, then why are they your friends? You shouldnt have to change you to appease people. If you are deliberately flirting with your buddy's targets, than thats just being a dick. Be yourself. You wouldnt want your friends to act fake around you, they shouldnt want you too either.

CK

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This is a non complaint. "Ohhhh... Im Madals, Im too sexy for my friends...."
What??? lmao

I am being a smartass and saying that you are claiming to be too sexy for your group of friends.

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ahhhh, ok I spose i have been called worse