Ok guys,

I'm not going to go into specifics... but I could really use the support of the community a bit. And also I want to make this post to show that even more accessable seasoned PUA's such as myself can fall into frame smashing situations.

Long story short... I just got out of a rough Monogomous LTR... We've been together for almost a year and monogo for about 6 months.

Anywho... she lied to me a few times and then turns out she was cheating for the last month or so... and yes I'm fairly upset by it. I took the girl to meet my family etc... we were planning on moving in together and I had purchased a promise ring which I hadn't yet givin to her... I was even going to pull a juggler and leave the community for her.

Ok enough bitching about how this situation is shitty... I apologize, I just got home from a long night of drinking with her older sister (who broke it off with her cheating BF today also)...

Anyway Once a scorpian, always a scorpian... so I'm back and will be post constructively again tommorow... but tonight I just wanted to vent a bit and gain the support from you guys... who I know have almost all gone through similiar situations in one aspect or all.

Thanks for your support,

Cheers for improvement,

And watchout ladies and gents... Docs back

1) The sister is now fair game.

2) I think the problem is once you become exclusive you revert back to an AFC - everything you do is now designed at pleasing and making one person feel wanted. There is nothing wrong with this, but as an experienced PUA I'm sure you understand that these things aren't what women want all the time. It may not be the case, but I feel that is a good generalisation regardless of your PUA skill going into the relationship.

3) The best thing about this situation is that you know what you can do moving forward. The most difficult part is probably not so much the break up as the lying. People lie, it sucks.

Take three months - beat yourself up about it and think endlessly about what you could have done to prevent this situation, now or in the future. Cry yourself to sleep at night, ruin new potential targets by complaining about how shitty that bitch was; consider hurting her, him and yourself, despite telling yourself that it's not your fault. Then stop, realise that this is ridiculous and be embarrassed by your actions. Or you could run this in fast forward and be feeling much better by the time this sentence ends.

There are A LOT of very nice girls, and a good percentage of them are very attractive as well.

GL man.

Thanks man... I'll be good again soon, and sargin like a mad man. If she can't see what a catch she lost then thats her fucking problem not me... I'm the prize not the other way around, and she shouldn't have forgotten that shit.

Thanks for the kind words man

i never knew that when did you left? haha so tell me are you going to go out sarging and fuck 10 shb and forget about this girl? lol That suck man but hey thats life suck it up and go sarging. haha no need to dwell on the situation... thats all Doc...

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Welcome back Doc,

I realize how hard this is for you right now, and It's great that you've come to the community for support. I wish I knew more of what to say here, but really, I dont know if anything will fit. We're here for you, you have an oppourtunity to run the best game of your life now, so welcome back. Your best years are ahead of you.

I'd game her sister just to get back at her, but then again it would be unfair to the sister.

Quite a conundrum

I'm sure you already know that you are not alone, but let me strengthen that reality for ya. This community is based on people like you and me. I've been through break-ups like you have described, and so have countless others on this forum and this entire worldwide community. We're all in this together, and we're all constructively searching for self-actualization and ultimately enlightenment. We'll find that within ourselves.

The greatest support you can find will be from within yourself as well. As a MAN, you've got an unlimited amount of strength within you, just waiting to be found and unlocked.

Now it's time to man up and rock out again. Welcome back, and congratulations. YOU'RE SINGLE AGAIN!

welcome back, man Glad to see you again.

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God save the Doc!!!!!!!

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Good to hear you're bad/sticking around Doc, you make a valuable contribution to the community. Not good to hear about what you've been through, especially since I not too long ago went through a breakup with an exclusive girl that I had LTR intentions with.

My advice is to do whatever you feel you need to in order to get over it; GFTOW if that'll help (I've decided that is what I'm gonna do now), get yourself good and drunk, go out with a good wing and run the bar, make out with a bunch of chicks and remember how much skill and fun you can have (how I originally dealt with it). Most guys tend to hang on to those feelings of pain and suffer as long as they can, but as JSMOOTH said to me, "We go through all the same shit as AFCs, we just bounce back a whole lot faster". So deal with your stuff, get it over and done with and get back to living and loving life for what it is and what it gives you to deal with.

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LEAVE THE COMMUNITY!?!?!
How dare you.
eh.

We're all glad to have you back!

And I'm still looking forward to your lexicon of attraction.

Welcome back Doc!

I'm sure you've been told this numerous times already, but you're the prize! The moment your gf cheated on you she no longer deserved you. The few PMs I've had with you have all been very useful and informative. You are an amazing person and deserve the best in a relationship!

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Dude I was in that exact same position about a week ago, if you look back I rode the rollercoaster of chode emotions. It sucks chodeshit but to be honest if she cheated on you, your better off without the hoe. Regardless of how much you loved her.

What I did to really get my mind off her was whenever I was upset or a negative thought or I thought about the ex I immediately reframed to a positive person and thought of anything that was positive, whether it be admiring the beautiful scenery, thankful for being alive still, the beautiful women in my social circle, how good a coke tastes, just anything that isn't negative about myself or that hurt me anymore. It really works and gaurentee you'll feel way better in a 2 days.

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hey man, we've all been there. realize that moving past her will take a long time, so its ok that your not yet. it has taken me longer to get over a girl then i actually dated her. but you will. keep your game up, keep yourself bizzy and preoccupied. you'll be good man.

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Welcome back Doc.

That's rough. How'd you find out she was cheating on you?

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